my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years this march and we currently live together. we are both studying. I have 1 semester to go of my bachelors degree, he is one year away from a masters. recently part of his family abandoned him because I was an unsuitable choice for a partner, but he stuck by me and since then, the only communication is horrible.
his field of study is also a complicated one, and there are few jobs in our city so recently he flew to a different city for part of his degree (he is studying by distance) and he was offered a job over there.
another dilemma is that of his grandma. his family have also left his grandma because of her support of my boyfriend and myself, as well as many other family issues. but his grandma is so demanding, and likes to play games to make people feel guilty. she is also very sick and old and cannot care for herself like she used to. he is now her only form of support and he can't make a living unless he goes to this new job. now it is my responsibility to look after her? and she doesn't speak english! I feel trapped.
together we have an amazing intimacy and love connection however sometimes he hurts me as I am very sensitive. we have had instances where he has pushed my too far and I have also been physically hurt (through things like tickle fights which give me bruises or make it hard to breathe)
recently he brought up the idea of an open relationship, which I cannot go through with because intimacy is so connected to love for me I find it hard to separate it. he has been with one other girl before me, and I have been with 2 other boys.
also, just before Christmas I fell pregnant and I lost our baby because of some previous health problems. neither of us were ready, so it was a tragic blessing, but...
wow I feel so awful
basically, I want to know if a man who has so much with a woman like we have, really will lover her till the end or if all the little crap things that have happened in our life together is just the universe telling me that I need something else.
I am a 5ft4 european girl, with tanned skin, dark curls and the most insane adoration for him in my heart. if I'm out by myself, I think about the things I can do to make him happier. I always bring him cutlery when we make dinner and he always forgets to get mine,
i feel like I've put in so much
i don't want to let go
so do you think I should? or is it possible that I am doing the right thing by being with him?
his field of study is also a complicated one, and there are few jobs in our city so recently he flew to a different city for part of his degree (he is studying by distance) and he was offered a job over there.
another dilemma is that of his grandma. his family have also left his grandma because of her support of my boyfriend and myself, as well as many other family issues. but his grandma is so demanding, and likes to play games to make people feel guilty. she is also very sick and old and cannot care for herself like she used to. he is now her only form of support and he can't make a living unless he goes to this new job. now it is my responsibility to look after her? and she doesn't speak english! I feel trapped.
together we have an amazing intimacy and love connection however sometimes he hurts me as I am very sensitive. we have had instances where he has pushed my too far and I have also been physically hurt (through things like tickle fights which give me bruises or make it hard to breathe)
recently he brought up the idea of an open relationship, which I cannot go through with because intimacy is so connected to love for me I find it hard to separate it. he has been with one other girl before me, and I have been with 2 other boys.
also, just before Christmas I fell pregnant and I lost our baby because of some previous health problems. neither of us were ready, so it was a tragic blessing, but...
wow I feel so awful
basically, I want to know if a man who has so much with a woman like we have, really will lover her till the end or if all the little crap things that have happened in our life together is just the universe telling me that I need something else.
I am a 5ft4 european girl, with tanned skin, dark curls and the most insane adoration for him in my heart. if I'm out by myself, I think about the things I can do to make him happier. I always bring him cutlery when we make dinner and he always forgets to get mine,
i feel like I've put in so much
i don't want to let go
so do you think I should? or is it possible that I am doing the right thing by being with him?
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