Would asking my boyfriend to move to another state be wrong?

[Anonymous]

Hi I moved for a fresh start, but I hate where I live and I'm pretty sure it hates me too. It makes both psychically and mentally ill. I wanna move before the heat comes back which will be February/ March.

Would it be wrong if I ask my boyfriend of a year to move with me?

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If it's not wrong how would I ask him. I was thinking of maybe giving him a shirt from that state? What do y'all think?

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We've been dating for a year.

[SwellStroke]

Honest and upfront is always the best way to go about it. Especially in decisions of this magnitude. Its not something you decide lightly, and should talk about in length. Because of everything that is involved.

As to how to bring it up, just like you would if you were asking what show they would like to watch tonight etc. *Honey, I have something I want to discuss with you, I have been thinking this over for a little bit and I would like to move (Out of state, out of area, etc.) and here are the reasons as to why I feel this way.*

Now you also need to understand it may catch them off guard or it may not, you would know. Regardless, give em a little time to process and if need be to collect their thoughts. You can always give him the option to take a few hours, or days depending on you guys to let him really think about it.

Then after you can return to the conversation to discuss his and your thoughts.

Which will give you a better result than just springing everything at once, having a forced answer as to what they want, and a whole possible shit show to follow.

[boggboss]

No tell him how u feel and that you want to mine don't play games or doing it in a silly fashion as this is a big choice especially if it's a fresh relationship

[Alwayreckles93]

Not at all , You want to live in a state you feel comfortable and enjoy yourself. I want to feel like home. Ask him.

[dustybiker]

Ask him. You never know what he might say until you do.

[Danny_dan92]

It could backfire