For all the discomfort and risk - to the extent there is risk - I would be happy to take that experience off my girlfriend. There is also, I admit, something appealing in the idea of carrying my baby inside me and loving him/her and protecting and nurturing him/her.
That said, I would not change a thing. To start on maybe a self-interested note, my girlfriend and I had amazing sex while she was pregnant. You would not think so, but after the first trimester her sex drive went off the charts. As for me, I always think that she is the most beautiful woman on Earth, but seeing her naked and pregnant just was a wild turn-on. That, and the idea that I can get her pregnant, that I can plant my seed in her and make a life adds to our sex.
Then, I was there for the birth of all three of my children and I would not have missed it for the world. I write as part of my living and I don't even now think I can find the words to describe it.
There was the heroism - and it is nothing less - of seeing my girlfriend in labor. It was pain and struggle and in the midst of all of that, as I watched and briefly held her hand and never felt more helpless and useless in all my life, she looked at me and smiled and said just three words - "I love you."
The whole world brightened. This beautiful woman had given her body to me and was giving me this beautiful gift. My part had been small and nothing but pleasure and yet my girlfriend loves me! I was over the moon!! I have never felt more loved and wanted - an unconditional love that so few will ever be lucky enough to know.
Then there was that moment when you hear your baby cry for the first time. Ten thousand thoughts run through your head all at once. I wanted to kiss my girlfriend to thank her and tell her I love her and how wonderful she had been. She gave me this beautiful gift and I can never love her enough to even begin to repay her how she has made me feel. I wanted to protect her and make sure she was safe and comfortable.
At the same time I found myself cutting the cord. My little teeny-tiny bit in something so huge. My little contribution to the future and I felt so proud.
Then, seeing my girlfriend and my baby together and, the tears running down my cheeks, all I could think was, "I would do anything for you. I would throw myself in front of a train for you. I need you both so much and I will always be there for you and never leave you!!"
My girlfriend and I have had three children together - and sadly one miscarriage - and each time I felt the same. It never changed. It all runs together in my brain and yet it never changes. I feel love, I feel proud, I feel like a man and at the same time a helpless boy filled with excitement and - not to be too cliche - wonder.
Ya know what? Truly, if you look at it, yes, it is a mess. Not pretty - and you'll never notice it. You won't care and it won't matter. I can only speak to it from a father's side. The pride and the unconditional happiness and love. I never felt more like a man, more like my life mattered and that I would protect and love my girlfriend and my baby and that I would do anything and give my life for them, then when I saw my children born.
For as much as I want to protect my girlfriend and as much as I confess to wanting that bond with my child, there is something about a man's experience that I would not want to miss. I've been through it from the man's side - and would not have missed it for the world.
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Um, no. I'm not physiologically capable of that even if their was some way to implant a uterus that wasn't catastrophically damaging to my body to begin with, the entire process would be catastrophically damaging to my body structure (from the hip formation to spine formation, it would wreck havoc and cause permanent damage to these structures and more). Why would I want that? That's kind of like asking women if they want to have all the negatives of being a man without any of the benefits, why would any one want to accept that?
Absolutely I would let my husband have my baby, so it can give him a different perspective. I feel that way, because since men don't go through what women go through, they can be very insensitive at times. For example, when a woman is angry, her boyfriend or husband will ask her "is it that time of of the month?" As if we're only angry during our months of menstruation and we're supposed to be happy all of the other times. We are human and we have emotions, I wish a lot of men would realize that. Also, Society has pressured women into getting their pre-baby bodies back after having a baby, when they don't realize the severe physiological changes that happens when a woman is carrying a baby. So, I wish men would better understand that we are not robots and you shouldn't expect us to "snapback" as soon as we give birth. Pregnancy takes a severe mental and physical toll on us as women.
No.
Firstly, just, in my head, it goes against everything I know and it weirds me out to think of a partner (Male) with breasts and breastfeeding and lactating. That’s just mind boggling.
Secondly, c sections can be a fairly brutal operation which shouldn’t be done without thinking about.
Thirdly, women have a higher pain threshold for most certain types of pain. Men can sustain brute force better but women regularly endure internal pain and we are normally more poked by medics.
I would 100% put him through a simulator but the real deal? I don’t think that would be fair!
😂😭😭 My man said no. He wouldn't want to go through all that. But he commends me if we ever have kids and I go through it. Smfh.
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I feel it depends on how this child is coming out of me. I'll give this hypothetical though, if men and women were the same and it was just a matter of deciding whom is carry the child. I have no reason not to. In fact, YES I WILL BE GOD I WILL CREATE LIFE
I don't think we men can even really feel physical pain and stress that women go through during pregnancy. Women are created mentally stronger to support that pain. No man in the world can feel or wrap his mind around the state of mind that the woman is on during the period of delivering her baby and giving birth to a human being. Thank you Mom for bringing me to life and dad for choosing the right woman.
Yes, I would love to be able to get pregnant and bear children. But I believe there should be three sexes. (Thank God, I am not God). I would have designed a race of aliens, or perhaps humans with three sexes. All three are capable of reproducing with each other. However, males (scissors) would dominate females (paper), and get them pregnant, while females will dominant the third sex (I will call them Kromales) and get them pregnant. They will represent rocks. Meanwhile, the Kromales will dominate and pregnant males. Each sex has to chase the sex that it dominates. Males chase females, females chase kromales, and kromales chase males. Rock, Paper, Scissors. Females will submit to males, kromales will submit to females, but males will submit to kromales. Just as paper beats rock, and rock beats scissors, and scissors beats paper.
I think if men could get pregnant it would just be a normal thing and guys wouldn't have much of a different attitude as women do now.
I can't imagine anyone wanting to be pregnant. Sure, you get a kid at the end of it but the entire process sounds like torture.
Sounds like switched genders...
But as for the question, if it was with my future love, I would, while I have not met her yet, I love her very much and would not mind bearing her child if that were how God designed us.😌I don’t ever want to get pregnant myself so I wouldn’t expect it of my partner even if he could. Pregnancy is yucky.
I mean we could do a experimental surgery to see If it would work but no I'm not willing to do that at the moment
Be 1 drunk ass baby , hope it can handle my beer drinking lol but Yes if a girl could knock me up , why not , she would have to handle my bitching lol
No thank you. I'm good with adoption as an alternative! :-D
HAHAH that would be a dream come true for guys to carry children instead 😂😂😂
I've had kidney stones that felt like a baby. Does that count?
Yes I'd be willing to carry my wife's baby. Unlike many women, I'd still consider our baby 50% mine and 50% hers and never abort.
Y'know, there's a whole genre of fanfiction based on this.
Id love to!!! Lay around and cry because ladybugs have left their children at home and their houses are on fire!!! My god youd think one would stay home to keep a look out... damn ladybug bitches get it together before C. P. S. COMES KNOCKING... you dont want the centipeedes, potato bugs and scorpions visiting you... its all bad
If it meant stopping abortion and ending men paying child support for unwanted kids yes
If i got the same level of control over the child as women do once it's born then maybe. 6 months off work, preferential custody arrangements, there are some upsides
I think pregnancy is pretty gross so if someone else wanted to do it for me I’d be totally on board but I don't know how that’d realistically work and I doubt most men would agree anyway
if that happened, i'm sure abortion right wouldn't be an issue
I would gladly take over someone's pregnancy if she was sick and could not finish to term
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