I am torn on this one. It seems men have one standard... is she hot, but I know some women personally who have chosen guys so bad that if I drug a bum out of the gutter (shower optional) I would have a better guy than their guy. I think that most women are afraid to be alone. They are defined by their relationship. If they are not in one they lose social status and source of entertainment. Most women do not have hobbies or careers so he is their hobby.Now men on the other hand seem to put up with a lot of bs all for a hot woman. I hear guys complain she won't work, take care of house or kids, snuck around got credit cards with him knowing and goes out partying. I have heard this story A LOT. The only answer I got to why stay is she is hot. I know this is not all cases. It is just a story i hear a lot from both sides. This is just my opinion from personal experience so if you dont like it move on to another question. I am sick of people coming to my questions with their insults and bull. If you have something intelligent to contribute please add it. I am curious if others have experienced similar stories. Or tell me your personal story.
Men
Women
Other
Select gender and age to cast your vote:
Please select your age
Do men or women have lower standards for relationships?
I think men only drop their standards and will accept any woman after being rejected by hot girls they want too many times. Then they reconsider dropping their standards lower just so they can have someone to keep them warm at night. So if anyone is a scared of being a lone for too long I think it's men more so. Women are often told our standards are too high, but at the same time we get dragged for "choosing the wrong men". It makes sense for a woman to be picky about her partner cause we have time against us. We don't have a whole lot of time to waste cause the longer we waste our time with men who don't want to get serious about us, the more our fertility and egg count drops. Women are trying to find the best mate possible to father our children, keep them protected, nourished, and loved. It's no different from female animals out in the wild, in fact the female bird is 10X picker than us human females. But trust and believe, if men could get any woman they desired without the fear of rejection or competition against other men, you can bet their standards wouldn't drop or be just as high as they say ours are. In fact, most of wouldn't even cut it sense most women today simply just don't look exactly like this:
And yes I know, there are men out there who love all types of women but we have to look towards the type of woman that is considered to be the most desirable in the media and society by men.
I think that it's equal, but it depends on who. Ego/money/beauty will change someone's standards, not their gender.
And to be honest I think having high standards are very important. Obviously you have to be realistic, you can't be an overweight uneducated woman that wants to date a good looking wealthy guy... it's just not realistic, but everyone has right to have standards, and we should really stop putting people down for having tastes.
Seems sexist either way. I feel like it depends on the person and not so much their gender. Also I feel like a bum you drug out of the gutter would be just as good if not better than any other person. At least they'd be free and not some spineless weak-minded slave to society and expectations.
Men have lower standards but what i see is. Some Men like curvy / bigger girls while them same girls want guys who are well built and have abs. While those Men who like the bigger girls are on the bigger side themselves. Same goes there are thinner more hotter girls will some times take up with bigger guys cause they aren't interested in thinner / smaller built guys. No matter what way we see things it does happen in many people and not much that we can do. Some Men who are bigger can't get the bigger girls that they want cause she wants the well built guy.
Guys who only want physical attractiveness out of their wives/gfs are fools and they soon discover this. That they stay in a bad decision because their wife is hot proves the point. There are tons of foolish people out there, and what they have to say doesn't matter, unless you want your life to be as screwed up as theirs.
I'd venture to say I have a high standard. I've kept a running list over the years, more so of things I don't want. Rules that I need to stick with to protect myself. Now the list is custom to me and my experiences so to me it's quite realistic. Everytime I break one of my rules, it is the one thing that comes back to bite me in the ass. So now I stick to the list. If a red flag pops up, I'm out, usually before a relationship even starts.
It depends entirely on the individual. ONE of my standards is that I find her attractive. Don’t fucking lump me in with other men like that. That shit’s aggravating. 75% of my standards have to do with a woman’s moral character. The other 25% go to looks and personality.
For serious relationships like marriage, I tend to think guys who aren't desperate for dates (people desperate to date anyone probably belong in a separate category outright) at have standards at least as tight (in terms of being high enough to filter out the majority) as women. For hook-ups, definitely lower. :-D
I’ve seen a lot of dudes pick women with no ambitions in life. Like a bunch of married couples I see, all the woman wants is babies and a house of her own. I’m a highly ambitious woman, have a great career and I can’t even get a date. Go figure.
You are the type of woman I'd gladly date. I have the same situation - My ambitions are undying, my career is rising up. However the presence or lack thereof had 0 correlations with my dating success. For women I am a phantom.
My experience is, that men *enter* a relationship with whatever girlfriend they can (low standards, hypogamy) (and often enough they can't get even just one) and women *choose* the highest ranking male, who is interested in them (high standards, hypergamy).
0
0 Reply
Anonymous
(30-35)
+1 y
Women will pick men based on her own self interests (money, things, status, etc.) Men will pick women based on his visual interest.
Women will monkey branch to new men the second one that benefits her more shows up. Men will not leave once he loves, but if something better looking offers new pussy, it's a hard thing to turn down.
i would say women. men have it easier to find relationships and women have it harder. men have to lower their standards for sex, women have to lower their standards for relationships, cause men typically just want fun.
Men do. Men usually are okay with almost anything. I've seen men who would settle for women that he had no business being with, all because she was female.
I have no standards. If I am attracted to her, all standards, looks-scale, wishful-thinking, and common-sense just went out the window. Standards are for the lonely-hearts club.
Most Helpful Opinions