Yes generally. A lot of this is due to conflated expectations due to thinking girls have more options they do in reality (due to places like online dating or compliments on social media). That's what I've seen.
It's not meant to be an insult, but lets say you are a software developer and google, microsoft, apple, etc were all tugging on your arm for you to work for them, your ego will increase and you'll think you have tons of great options. I think this can falsely be created for women now a days due to what I said earlier. Their perceived options is higher than what it is in reality so standards increase.
Interesting point. I’ve also thought that it’s kind of in a woman’s biological nature to be more selective than men, because women looking for a potential husband and family want to make good offspring.
I absolutely agree that I think there is a biological component to women being more picky, possibly due to how eggs vs sperm and mating works. Women also do seem to generally care more about companionship.
There also seems to be a cultural aspect from what I see. Women are raised to be wary of men wanting sex so they go beyond what their natural behavior would be and are instead more resistant of mens' advances. Since men are more often rejected, they have to put out more interest offers in women. Those stack on each other or perpetuate the dynamic to something unnatural. Men start perceiving getting women as scarce so their desirability increases (think diamond value vs rock value). Women think less of men because of the high amount interested in them.
What women sometimes don't realize is mens' interest is not necessarily in a relationship, and even if the man is interested in a relationship, he is messaging 100 other girls so he may not actually like her as much as she may think.
I 100% agree with the cultural aspect you described. However, with today’s hookup culture, it is logical for women to be more wary of men’s advances, especially for women who are looking for potential partners to date and then hopefully marry.
I’ve found that with some guys who were interested in me, the higher their interest was, the less I was attracted to them. Yet those who were interested in me, but were also exploring other options, were the ones that made me like them even more.
Dating website, OKCupid, released a study which showed women rated men lower than what men rated them, so yeah, women tend to have higher standards. 80% of women apparently found men to be unattractive on the dating website.
People are only as good as the options they have. I meet a lot of women who are just barely average even with makeup but are of the belief they can score a dude who might as well be a Calvin Klein underwear model. If a woman has a bunch of dudes hitting on her that she deems unattractive, it's probably because that's all she can get. They need to be a little more realistic with their expectations.
I do have high standards yet they are along who I am. If I dare to "have them" as an expectation in the dating field is because I am either working on this value or I already have "earned it" by cultivating it. I think a real man will not feel self-conscious or unsure of himself if he know he's interested in a woman with high standards since she will be as well a representation of his own love.
She has to as she has her body to look after, and be responsible for, as the home of her future children, and a physical temple to be coveted by her future life partner.
This must be protected at all costs by her alone until the boy of her dreams shows up to help do it with her :)
Wow... that almost made me cry... I'm not kidding... lol
Because they can, women have a much higher sexual value then men, so they have a lot more possible love interests, like when a women is desperate it means there are men interested in her but not up to her standards, when a man is desperate it means there is nobody at all ever like couldn’t even possible imagine a women looking in his direction kinda lonely
I think it's important that we must have standards since as girls, we have to be caution who we choose to spend our life, virginity, and love to. We tend to lose more than guys in general. ^^
Depends on if you are talking about the standards of hook up type of people or the standards of relationship minded people. I think for the relationship type of people guys have higher standards. For hook up kind of people girls have higher standards.
Not really in general... It is more of a true thing for sections of the modern western world middle class. It is not really true for the western world upper and lower classes and in general for more primitive cultures. Although some think it's all natural selection at the level of birds the truth is that human women have very little selection power in more natural primitive settings.
They do due to women's instinctive hypergamy. The way out species was able to survive and be successful was for women to have tall, strong men as partners. A small, weak male would be toast in the wild.
Now that it is not entirely necessary to be tall and strong, it is still left over from recent evolution.
Yes. Every girl now wants a guy to be rich and wealthy. Have a nice car expensive shoes and clothes, large home. High social status or popularity online. And they wonder why it's hard to get guys now.
I am lying in bed so I'm not going to look up literature but I believe their are some academic articles on this topic. They, I think, did find woman had higher relative standards.
Of course they do. Even average women have many options and can afford to simply turn down men as they please until the right one comes along. A guy doesn't have tons of options unless he's really hot or successful.
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