Do modern women have more double standards and dating requirements?

[Anonymous]

I have often seen women stating that they want the man of their dream has to be handsome, rich, understanding and when it comes to reality they don't get the attention of those kinds of men.
And those who are available for them are completely invisible to them.
It goes exactly the same for men, but after sometime men actually change and give a chance.
What do you think?

[Summeroflove]

If someone’s direct about what they want and I know I’m not it. I respect that she isn’t wasting my time. The issue is people who can’t get what they want so they “settle” and waste peoples time and become bitter as well as aren’t ever honest about what they’re after

Because when it comes to the narcissists even if they found that person they wouldn’t be happy. Not all women are narcissists but the ones who openly show it. Just be glad she did. Because you can move on and dodge the bullet.

[dragoblack]

There's definitely a double standard. I've lost count how many say they want 1 type of guy that is healthy for them, only to immediately go for the opposite, ignoring all of the red flags. Actions speak louder than words and sadly, for most women in the usa, their type is those who cause their trauma, then blame men for their lack of effort to work on themselves to overcome their trauma, and reject the red flags of those who cause it. Not to forget, refusing to take responsibility for their actions, that led up to it. Acceptance of responsibility is the first step, taking time to understand what led up to that point is the 2nd, 3rd is working to overcome the trauma, toxic habits, & insecurities, while making an effort to reject the impulses to follow the red flags along with powering through the uncomfortable inconveniences of accepting healthy actions/reactions/relationships.

[Unycorn]

I think if you are desperate then you try beside what you wish. Men and women.

If I knew about dating I would not be lovesick. XD

I am not the date doc.

The older you are the more you know what you want.

[Anonymous]

yea... and you're only going after women who are under 30, thin and pretty.

how about going for that 33 yr old, chubby woman you have been ignoring this entire time?

[Asker]

I agree with you but they too have their own delusions.
I tried to approach them but it doesn't work at all.

[Opinion Owner]

They don't want you cuz they are out of your league. If you look like a 4.9 out of 10, socially awkward, bitter dude who pretends to be a nice guy, boring, not funny. Those pretty girls won't want you

[Asker]

I am not fat, I am skinny 🤧.
And no I don't behave to be the nice guy thing. I do the good to all equally. Sometimes more to the friends who are good to me.
But for someone I like I might go a bit beyond my capabilities.
But if I am in the lower scale like 4.9 then this is my peak I have achieved.
I struggle with severe health issues, cross eyed, then underweight (BMI 13.5)
, then on top of that having the worst set of teeth.
When I got a job. I fixed some of the flaws...
Like brought my weight to 19.3 BMI in the normal range.

[Asker]

Fixed crossed eyes, and teeth too

[Asker]

But I don't think I will go more than this. It took me 3 years of earning to spend money on these things. + Now having a different health issue due to an accident I have lost mobility in my hips and back.
Hurts when I walk but grown to ignore it

[AviatorTom]

What the heck is "a modern woman"?

[Kelley1]

Women tend to believe they deserve the men they can fuck, and they don't want to settle for less. Therefore, women tend to reject equals. However, men fuck down for sex, but they marry equals.

[Asker]

I do agree with the first part but I don't agree with the "marry the equal" part.
I think women have more boundaries when it comes to marriage.
Women from higher class never marry lower.
Men marry only lower than them or on equal terms.
I have seen women rejecting the proposal from a good guy just because the religion, race, caste
(if Indian, caste is basically a sub part of religions like clans)
I have perfect data on that from a lot of resources.

[Kelley1]

The phase men marry equals means desirability, not class. A beautiful girl from a poor family is more desirable than a homely girl from a rich family.

[Anonymous]

People, both men and women, should have the highest standards they can get away with. That has always been the case. And when a woman's standards are too high, it's a self-correcting problem because she will remain single until she adjusts her standards.

Where women definitely have double standards is in gender issues. They are totally against traditional gender roles, except the ones that benefit women.

[DryGermanGuy]

I think you are trying to bore us to death with your repetitive whining.

[William7489]

I wouldn’t say all modern women, but at least a sizable minority. Dating apps and social media have seen to that. It’s sad because having unrealistic expectations usually leads to an unhappy person.

[Anonymous]

No one is invisible to me but very few are romantic prospects. If I see a group of people there are friends and acquaintances and strangers. I don't have my radar on looking for a boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

How many times can one troll post the same old BS?

[blackeagle007]

He has a right to troll

[Asker]

Excuse me this is my first time asking something like this

[Asker]

My normal question are in entertainment

[LiamJHayden]

I mean, doesn't everyone want the absolute best? The problem is when people refuse to accept perfectly decent ones when they fail.

[Anonymous]

Welcome back, you forgot to come by yesterday and bemoan your eternal singleness

[Anonymous]

Women have always had double standards to be honest. But the mechanism in society didn't really exist for them to pursue a life, I hate to use the term, not "subjugated" by men.

[msc545]

Yes, they have these things to the point that most men don't want anything to do with them.

[Anonymous]

No I have a lot of expectations myself - unrolls my scroll 📜