Do you ever feel “too broken” to be in a relationship? (Page 2)
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Nah, not too broken. Just not good enough. All the girls I was ever interested in either didn't feel the same way, or did, but eventually lost interest in me and went to different guys, leaving me wondering what I did. So now, even though I don't feel broken, I just feel unattractive and that any girl who might be interested in me would lose interest and either cheat on me or just abandon me like they've all done before. It makes me really apprehensive to even try with girls.
Personally I think that if you feel as if you're broken then it's not worth it because long term you could reflect this 'brokeness' onto your partner and they'll break themselves trying to fix you
That sounds the kind of paradox that applies to me.
That’s what i’m afraid of. Being too broken and someone else would have to fix me because of someone else’s doing. I know it’s not right.
I don't know about " broken " , but have no desire at all to even date , let alone enter a relationship , single FT working dad , so too fully committed , also as there are vast numbers of available men without my baggage , why would any woman choose a man in my situation? Been single after dumping my ex 4 years ago , and will stay single. No bitterness towards women , simply can't be bothered / lost interest , greatly value my female friends however.
No, in large part because I have been impulsive and taken some big chances in my last two relationships, swinging for the fences in the hope that I had found The One. In less risky situations (but also less passionate), I'd be more successful.
I don’t feel too broken, I just feel done. I spent years and years in a bad marriage, I’ve been single for 1.5 years and couldn’t be happier. I don’t want a relationship... perhaps in a few years I might re-consider it.
Cheers to being a single bachelor and bachelorette! 🥂
@vald9inches yeah! 🥂
I used to feel like that but then I read Smashword's free ebook: "Woman to Women". Now I'm not afraid to give my love to someone because I know what to look for in a potential partner. When I see a man exhibiting behaviors that aren't healthy, I break off the relationship before I get hurt again.
I mean ladies, most of ur failed relationships were just you getting used as a fuck toy because you got tricked
Be more cautious, most people are in relationships out of fear of being alone, let go of that fear and your next relationship will be your last
I agree. When I was younger, I I got tricked and lied to a lot. It was embarrassing. I’ve learned a lot and don’t even want a relationship anymore
@R_Cakes91 I mean when I say it will be your last, I mean in a happily ever after sort of way XD
But yeah, if you've been through the ringer like you have you need a few years break for sure
Oh yeah, I haven’t dated in a while and it’s awesome. Most people I come across are not even kind of mature enough to date anyways.
I also wish dudes would just be honest though. Like, just tell me you want to bang and I’ll be chill.
@R_Cakes91 lol really? If I were a woman, and a dude came up to me and asked to bang, I would be anything but chill. I'd be like 'please stay away from me'
Casual sex is not beneficial for either gender in terms of self respect.
I mean, I’d appreciate trying to chat and get to know me first. Strangers asking to bang is weird but don’t get to know me, tell me you want a relationship, bang me, and then never talk to me again. It’s either be up front about what your intentions are or don’t talk to me if you’re going to mislead me... this is what I didn’t understand when I was younger.
@R_Cakes91 yeah those tricksy bastards really piss me off, can't be friends with dudes like that anymore, makes me sick to watch em do it
Living in fear is no way to live. Consider just not handing over power over yourself, your feelings and emotions, to others. YOU get to decide. You can choose to be 'okay' or not. It's completely up to you.
... I'd just like to experience a relationship. No gal wants to give me time, offline or online. 😐 Though w/ online dating I'm always suspicious they're a bot or catfish. 😟
Pretty much what I've been saying to you.
No matter how broken I may get I'll always save enough of my good self for the one I'm gonna be with.
Wish i had as much courage as you did
Lol there's nothing courageous about it, it's just resolve to not let others and their actions drag me down to their level or being bitter and alone, it's something I refuse to let happen.
That’s like 88% of my adult life. So I’m pretty sure that’s a completely realistic proposition tbh
99% not 88 lmao. Woh on earth would pick 88%. Like yeah that’s exactly 87.365% of my life
lol 87.365%
Yes. Never bothered to pursue anyone because never felt I deserved it, that I'd be just a drag to her. She deserves better...
Same here man. Except that’s all my relationships and now I’m not really close to anybody because I didn’t want to “burden” them with my problems. Not to mention no one is ever going to believe me when I say I’m fine again lol
I was never in a relationship. Last time I liked someone did so much for her. Helped her in her struggle and later I confessed that I liked her. Well she kinda shamed me for my inexperience. Just saying no it's ok but making fun of someone's virginity 🙁
Somehow women don't like clean guys , I have made my peace with it now
Arguably, the more broken a person is, the more likely they will seek a relationship to find someone to either ''fix'' them, or distract them from being broken.
Ur so far wrong its disgusting... But then again it's a pov deal I apologize. But we all cope in our own ways. Recently left a lady and I can't stand the idea of b n with anyone.. I'm extremely empty without a partner but this is some deep hurt I can't find any desire for anything actually.. Also some serious self rehabilitation going on.. Years of b n an addict with said person... Almost month in an dont even think about it... Yet..
I felt this way then I met my boyfriend of five years, I still feel this way. There are great guys out there. Just gotta find one. For me that too broken feeling is still there but it's a lot easier to handle.
yo I felt😢 I'm currently recovered from my last hear break but I'm not really putting myself out there even when chicks show some intrest.
All I can say is time heals all wounds if you're willing to let it go & this is something I'm bearly learning about myself
Always. It does you good. It helps you grow and become a better person. Love is unconditional. Love is someone loving you and you can't understand why.
I think we all have after a relationship so soon after, it’s taken me a while after being divorced for a few years to feel comfortable about getting into one again
Same here
@charlie_all_night Yeah I still have doubts about getting into one again
I think it's best to go via the friendzone sis, first learn to know someone and just tell him you want to go step by step.
Once you feel at ease with him, you can gradually come closer, the chances that it will fail will than shrink :D
I've also had my disappointments, especially people I had a very genuine weakness for but than discovered that they were not single and I didn't have a chance :o :-(
So the answer, unfortunately is yes. You're not alone in this 😉
I feel the same way for a different reason. There are important things I have to fix and straighten up before having a new relationship.
That’s understandable