My boyfriend lives with his Ex girlfriend. What do I do? (Page 2)

[Hai_tis_E]

The guy I'm talking to lives with his ex. They bought the house together which is why nobody has moved out. Sometimes it bothers me but he's assured me that they were just better off as friends. she's currently pregnant to another guy so things have gotta change soon.

[SirRexington]

Look, if they were broken up for reasons involving anger towards one another then they wouldn't still be living together. They chose to still live together which suggests their relationship is still strong in some way.

I don't trust this man. They very well may be broken you but that is a risk I would not be willing to take nor should you.

[Jimmy_Jam]

It doesn't matter whether or not they are sleeping together. His inability to be upfront about the complexity of his family situation is an immediate red-flag. If he can't be open with you about this up front, it shows that even he knows it's a bad situation.
Even if he isn't still "with her", the lack of openness is highly concerning.

[winterfox10]

It's totally unsustainable, but yes, I think he is telling the truth. Now, as far as what you can do about it; nothing. Well... that's not true, but you'd need a trash bag, some bleach, a plane ticket, 2 identical cars, and a Rage Against The Machine mix tape.

[thedoctormsh]

Sorry but the question is: Why he didn’t tell you from the beginning? Isn’t supposed to? That’s un explainable and unfortunately mistake from his side.

And since he has children he looks older than you by far. So I’m wondering if he just used you for his sexual demands. That’s so shameful.

I would advise you to clarify everything with him and make sure about any doubt in your mind. Then decide based on your benefits not his benefits. Good luck honey. You seem so pure white heart.

[Anonymous]

I hope you see how there's a lot of your own fault in this. How come you didn't realize this before? It took you 3 months to figure this out? What kind of dating is this? How well do you even know this person?

Anyways, you are engaging in a very risky gamble here, I wouldn't advise you to put your heart on the line with something that seems so fragile. With that being said, if this guy really is special, then perhaps give him a chance but you need to meet his ex-girlfriend and family before you continue the relationship

[RHK36]

Even if what he is saying is true, it doesn't matter. Based on his actions and lack of communication with you by not disclosing his situation, he's not ready for a real relationship. If you truly have feelings for each you'll give each time and space until he sorts his shit out to be in a better situation. Except he sounds like he'll never move out. If that's the case how will your relationship with him ever be stable?

[BubblyMaria]

Definitely getting played. Even if he's not sleeping with her, he didn't tell you something that is huge. If he can't be upfront about stuff then does he hold any validity?

[foxrider77]

Are you serious? Have some respect for yourself. I would say call me when you live under a different roof. Maybe you should go to the gym and find Tony, Tony lifts all the weights and is great at using his tongue. go meet Tony.

[MonagiRiz]

I don't know but I think it's better if you clarify it with both of them. You may ask them separately or at the same time. You three have to draw a clear line so that you all mutually know how to act towards each other and to figure out whether to continue your relationship with your boyfriend or not.

[ronaldo75]

You're getting PLAYED. 99.999999999% of situations where people are "broken up but living together" are really open-relationships. NO one lives with a partner, ex partner or not, and doesn't have random sex with them. I broke up with my ex and in the 2 weeks it took her to move out we fucked practically everyday.

[ikisseddeath]

It all depends on your trust for him I can see the doubt I would have some myself but if you dont trust him it sadly won't work out you can try talking to him about it really make him Express why maybe ask to meet his kids and his ex and make the decision yourself

[VaIiant]

Literally break up immediately. Are you dumb? She's the mother of his kid and they LIVE TOGETHER. there's so much history and chemistry that being in the same room would be hard, much less living together. Run.

[crazy8000]

How mature do you consider yourself?

[VaIiant]

@crazy8000 Depends.

[VaIiant]

@crazy8000 ahhh, you’re someone who believes they should stay together as you’ve done what this guy is doing.

[crazy8000]

That's up to her. not us to make that decision or manipulate someone that they are dumb if they doesn't go either way.

To many people make assumptions without knowing a thing, especially negative one's. human nature amongst people that haven't developed certain parts of their intelligence. most likely due to the lazy part of our minds that tries to rationalize little to much with incomplete or false adapted blueprints to fallow to not use the other part that question it and want to learn to understand.

[VaIiant]

@crazy8000 Except, she explained exactly how the situation is. He is living with his baby mama.

[slatyb]

He lied about this? You dump him immediately. This is completely unacceptable. Not necessarily the circumstances (although I don’t see how he can carry on a relationship) but the lying. I wonder if the other woman knows about you.

[HeavyRoller]

If you have been seeing him for 3 months and JUST found out about it then he has been lying to you for your entire relationship. Don't wait another minute. Dump him and run. You deserve better!!

[Rain_mf]

They say a man knows at 90 days 3 months whether he wants a woman seriously or not, perhaps he was going to tell her 🤷🏻‍♀️

[pleasestopthis]

Even if what he says is the truth, he must be sick to be living with ex of 2 years.
Also, he didn't tell you right away, because deep down he knows it's wrong. Red flag.
Just move on or you'll have too many troubles with guy.

[Gottabsavagee]

I think he’s playing both sides. Guys know how to lie. I know many examples who do exactly that. Don’t dirt your fingers with this fool, you’ll be much more happier with someone who is totally available and respects you.

[ohshee]

Weather it's true or not why put urself through that ,, why drive your self crazy even thinking about it. That's all u will be thinking about

[SongBird3]

Dude leave him. If he’s willing to keep that big of a piece of information from you then clearly he’s lying

[SueAnon84]

Why why why do women insist on doing this to themselves! So much unneeded fucking drama!