Ok, I've read it, I was at a cabin and seriously it was in the bathroom, so I picked it up and started reading it. Supposedly the Author who wrote this almost 20 years ago! Apparently based on what "ral" men told her - well the men she talked to are total jerks and really not good guys - you would totally sus them out in a heart beat. I'd say there were some helpfull things like like yourself - there my big take away.
My thoughts, Men including me are people! We don't like drama queens or biaches etc. and talk to us! There, communication works best, which also means - listen!! ok..
How about this - the top review on amazon about this book...
Almost RUINED a long term relationship
March 20, 2017
I have a love/hate relationship with this book...(maybe like 20% Love and 80% HATE). Fundamentally, this book would be for someone new to the dating world. I can understand and appreciate the advice of not giving away too much too soon, and to make sure he is interested just as much as you are and want the same things so you don't waste your time. Value yourself and don't settle for someone who doesn't appreciate you.
That being said, the advice for people in long term relationship is garbage. I have been in a relationship for almost 2 years and reading this book almost RUINED EVERYTHING. If you are in a long tern relationship and you are told by a book to 'pull away' emotionally and physically until he sees what he is missing... then you are not in a relationship with a man, you are in a relationship with a BOY. This book should be titled "Why BOYS loves bitches". That would make more sense. If you continually want to play this cat and mouse game with your boyfriend then go for it. But it will leave you exhausted and unfulfilled.
I tried following the 'advice' given in this book and we suffered because 'pulling away' and waiting for him to figure out what's wrong is absolute BS. I felt misunderstood, confused and angry that he couldn't read my mind. Then I realized "I'm an ADULT. This MAN that I am dating is an ADULT. We should be ADULTS and not play juvenile games."
Both men and women deal with conflict differently. To think that ALL men respond to their woman pulling away or disappearing for the weekend is completely unfair. Maybe some BOYS respond to that. Not all men are the same. Not all women are the same.
If I could suggest anything to women in relationships, it would be to read books that place a value on understanding your partner and their communication skills vs a book like this where you punish your partner for them not behaving the way you want them to.
Books like "The 5 Love Languages" and "Insecure in Love" are PHENOMENAL and I can honestly say my relationship is better and stronger after reading them. I now come from a place of respect and we communicate better and really understand where the other is coming from.
If you choose to read this book, fair enough, but this is NOT the Bible on how relationships should work.
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I've read it. Some of it is true, but kind of in the same way as many "redpill" and "PUA" type books do, it comes from more of a negative or combative mindset when it comes to interactions with the opposite sex, and focuses a little too much on tactics.
At the end of the page in the first photo, where her hand is covering the sentence, it says "The bitch also perceives of herself differently. She'll get into the "boxing ring," so to speak, with the mindset that she's an "equal opponent" to a man." Boxing? Opponent? That's what I mean by combative mindset. The whole thing is about being a "bitch" to win him over.
The thing is assertiveness is a great thing, 100%. That's why some of the advice is good. But then this "bitch" stuff goes overboard in a similar way to guys who decide that they need to act like "assholes" to get women to like them.
My guess is that the men and women who read and like these kinds of books tend to be very soft, they get fucked over as a result, they read this and they go to another extreme - where they get better results with the opposite sex. But it's still overboard and unnecessary.
As for tactics, I mean like this way of thinking where the more of a hard time you give to the opposite sex, the more they'll like you. So much of this is exactly the same as the PUA and redpill stuff. Lots of unnecessary and kind of fake game-playing and struggling for power. Falsely thinking that this is what attracts someone when it just isn't. It's like the PUAs who think that acting like a "high value man" by using negs, cocky funny and all that stuff is what attracts a girl, not actually becoming a man of substance.
I read it many years ago. I found it to be a rather interesting book tbh however I don’t necessarily agree with all of the advice in the book. Only some.
I don’t accept last minute date invites, I delete and ignore texts from guys during the late night hours asking me to “hang out”, I don’t center my life around men and I tend to call men out on their crap if they piss me off. The bad advice is playing guessing games. I don’t play games, I never did. I tell men right from the get go where they stand. Whether or not he sticks around after is fine with me either way.
I was the sweetest to my husband and he treated me like crap.. So I'm learning slowly on how to be a bitch.. i don't like it! I just wana be my sweet self but he doesn't deserve it, I wish that he'd just get out of my life and find himself a real bitch that will treat him like crap- maybe that's just what he needs! I'm tired of giving giving giving.. I'm already a slave to him and I won't slave my heart away for him as well 😡
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I Didn't read this book but thanks for providing some texts from it.
If a bitch is defined to be a strong and independent woman, who makes her own money and won't let herself be screwed over or taken advantage of or be dictated by society, then yeah, i love these bitches - i just call them ladies instead ❤
However a bitch, who cheats on her boyfriend and abuses him is someone, who i will keep out of my life.
From the looks of it, this seems to be a much better book than the misandristic feminazi project "the power of the Pussy".Those passages seem annoying.
Like most advice from women, it’s about women hearing what they want to hear. Truth and efficacy is not the focus, instead they make it about feeling good.
Look at that part about caring about others opinions. See now mean it sounds? You don’t have to listen to everything you’re told but that doesn’t mean you can’t value others opinions, and be nice. So often women seem to lean toward the most toxic versions of this advice. How about you just don’t be a bitch? And be chill and cool, it’s not so hard that you need some bitch to tell you her 1000 pages of strategy that go into her lack of success when she’s already playing on easy mode.Based on the pics you posted, it’s like the same advice I read in no more mr nice guy. It’s not about being an asshole or a bitch. Those are just marketing tactics. Nobody will read a book called “how to develop proper boundaries.”
Men and women need to do the same things to find success in dating and love. At least I am starting to think that is the case.I've never heard of this book so obviously haven't read it either, but I would imagine it's pretty much the same as why girls love guys who treat them like dirt & are real bastards? "Treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen" seems to be the mindset, but it's not something I could (or would) ever do.
I haven't read it, but i suspect it may answer the question I just posted on GaG about nice girls turning bad.
Myself, I think a "nice girl with healthy boundaries" is more desirable than a "np fucks given diva". But maybe thats not the point of the book?Sounds like its based and red-pilled haha
Also sounds hilariously true.
Tbh, men respect bitches. They do :)
The problem is men dont love bitches, they just want bitches to love them
And they will do whatever it takes to win those bitches over.
I might pick it up. But my reading list is huge rn. I might ask my mom or her friends if they read it hahaI havent' read it and it's not true... lol.
I don't love bitches. I do recognize they exist... Bible says so...
there's a difference between strength, compassion, bitch... there is some happy medium.No. I think these books are highly toxic because they contain fashionable ideologies. In the past these books were called polemics.
I heard highlights about it.
Will tell you that some guys do have a mild attraction to bitches, but it’s fleeting for us.
At the end of the day women are MUCH more attracted to assholes than men are to bitches.Sounds like bullishit. A bitch is someone a man should pay no attention too. Cause she’ll ruin his life with petty mind games.
Women who stand up for themselves who are ungodly and mean are called (bitches.)
Women who are just as strong and stand for what is right and are Godly and wise are called ( ladies. .)This could only be posted by a woman, because it's not true. Bitches are good for one thing and one thing only.
I guess I'm out of luck...
You are 35 and u still dont have a brain 🤷♂️😊
Question like this from 35 y old woman
You dumb?I skimmed it and thought it was mostly good advice for women to be more assertive. Society teaches them to be docile.
Sounds like somebody writing a book, rehashing basic common sense, and making money off it because nobody remembers history.
They teach you to appreciate a woman that have beautiful souls.
Weak betas love bitches. I work in government and deal with punk bands and the scene on a constant basis. 100% of cunt BITCHES have weak men.
Coz men are dogs. Dogs are straight. Only plausible explanation.
Sounds like a feminist Compilation of complaining about men
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