Do you need sex to begin a relationship?

[Anonymous]

When I was little girl parents said you need marry at 30 then can have sex. However I am seeing all girls in 20s have boyfriend but have sex. Then I used to think you need date 1 year then have sex with boyfriend. Now any man I meet they want sex only & this is reason at 22 I still can’t have boyfriend. Like do u girls have sex first then you both enter the relationship date meet parents etc? Ik one guy 3 years we were friends then went on few dates and very close now we are meeting for sex. I never let him have sex in 3 years. However all men I met only wanted sex & gone. Then I see girls pregant or men dating girl daily so obsessed for her and I’m like why men drool for girl? Must be sex no? Then I hear girls have sex with guy then after they begin serious relationship. I’m comfortable to have sex with this guy as I love him but haven’t met parents hold hands had dinner date, been to his home celebrate all holidays that is only thing I want in relationship we don’t need meet weekly. But I feel u need have sex first then u both. Begin serious relationship?

[Lynx122]

Some guys only have sex once and then leave and others are willing to have a relationship, you have to judge for yourself. Just because you have sex doesn't mean you will have a relationship. It's like a game but I'm not very good at playing it or knowing the rules so I can't help you much.

[ecfresh]

Nope, the relationship and trust come before getting down

[Asker]

Why men demand sex first? I think girls hav sex first as how girls get so many bfs so fast new bf?

[Asker]

What u think of my situation what I shud do?

[ecfresh]

Some men just want sex. I think in your situation you shouldn’t have sex with him until you begin a real relationship

[StephiC]

Men think differently to women on average. Women thing of relationships, family and love. Men think of sex, status and claiming the terrority of her body.

This is why your parents are talking you out of sex because most men aren't in it for the reason you are. Sex is also an itch they feel compelled to scratch. Men will get a girlfriend for free sex rather than go to q prostitute as they find that shameful.

If you want sex go for it. But don't let a man convince you as the reasons are not the same. Men see sex and relationships as two completely separate things. Like love and marraige

[Plufem]

Sex is not needed to begin a relationship, bou good and caring sex alwasy fosters it.

[supahboi01]

Start your relationship physically but no sex, hand holding, kissing the works and when you feel comfortable try it and if you truly like and KNOW this man go further

[Asker]

Ik him three years. We have gone to Musuem , eat, then eat lunch other place, park with lake, coffee place, arcade, bar, eat at bar, see paintings, drive around city, used to work together drive me home daily, last time we met after texting long time living far apart and working a lot we met 2 weeks ago in his city & Kissed in car then went to cafe shop then gas station long time. Now in 2 weeks going to hotel for sex.

[Asker]

We just haven’t done dinner date attend events together dressed up spend holidays together that is all I want & badly wanting as I’m 22 and never got be like other girls at 18 , 16 going all that with boyfriend plus meeting parents

[StephiC]

Don't make decisions based off of jealousy of others. Some women have sex at 14, 16, 18 and get pregnant. Some get sexually transmitted diseases. Some find out the man has 2 other girlfriends or never liked them that much. Go by your own time. You're not missing out sex is nice with a good partner but not as mind blowing as men make it seem

[Jeff51]

I think years ago it was just a date thing. After few dates is sex. Things have changed.

[BigOG8]

No but it would help.