She won the bet, I've been her slave for almost 1 month, now she wants it to stay this way?

[normster]

What should I do?

I do everything as she orders me to, our relationship has improved so much.

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It's thrilling to see her smile at her self achievement, she brags to her girl friends about how she trained me at cleaning, cooking, doing the laundry, wash her car, massage her feet, shine her shoes. Couldn't she keep it between us. How do I tell her.

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Thanks for suggestions. We had a chat about her talking openly to others about our bet, she agreed that she will tell no one else but she strongly maintain that since that the girls from her office already knows, that it will stay this way.

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She made me sign a 3 month contract before the bet was up, so now she lead as she always wanted to.

[bellini]

Here's how it is:

The more you invest, the more you expect to be returned.

But it doesn't work like that. We respect those people who respect themselves.

So here are some questions..

At what point in your life did anyone make you feel you were not worth loving, or were not deserving of love? When did you learn that you had to lower yourself , or devalue yourself, or feel unhappy, in order to get love from someone? How can you begin to change that?

People here on this forum will only tell you to learn to respect yourself, and the first step is setiing your boundaries. This is hard if you have none. So start with the big things:

1. What would I not do for love? (i.e. be dragged through the streets by your hair and be pissed on in public, literally, by your girlfriend! Only joking ;-)

Then ask yourself - what new boundaries can I set up for myself -

For example: There are only some things I will do for my girlfriend, and they are..

Then list the things you are comfortable doing

and so on

That's a start to learning self respect. I wish you every luck with this.

[normster]

Strange, I totally agree with you about self esteem, I can feel the love is still there she is very affectionate and expect the same from me, the difference now is that it happen when she feels like it and more then before, she snap her finger, come and kiss, for the longest time, then pushes me down to service her by her request, then again make love to her at the moment she want it, when she's done, she snap her fingers again pointing her feet, thank me now.

That part I like,

[normster]

adding to: The part I like, but like you said, I need to put an end to this girlfriends from work business, I need to find the way to stop her from being so open about it because I don't want it.

I want it to stay between us. Just need to find the way.

[tori_smiles54]

Come on man don't be dumb its easy don't do what she says unless you like it. Easy as that, and if you don't like it but care for her and she only wants it her way why would you want to be with her? I mean don't complain if you like her for and she tells you what to do and you daty, your just her lite bitch!There's always 100000 of girls and one is bound to be the one cause obviously she doesn't ound like the one. She'll want you back if you just say its over and leaver her and if she asks why tell she should know! And later no man only of jes really dumb hell fall for her crap but actually not really so she'll be alk over you!

[normster]

A bet is a bet so I do as she say, I love her and for some reasons I feel like keep doing it.

Why I'm confused is that last night she comeback from work with 3 girls from the office that obviously knew about our deal, she presented me as her slave, after serving them drinks, while playing video games she made me get to the floor, take their shoes off and massage their feet, even suck my girlfriend's toes.

This is why I am confuse, why involving other girls?

[malekoniky]

Don't let her all the time. Don't let her most of the time. Let her sometimes. Otherwise it will grow over your head. It is not good to be slave all the time. If you love her, let her sometimes. BUt not always! You are human. You can be a toy to her out of love sometimes, but you are not just a toy and she has to understand that.

[CuriousEddie]

Is this for real, or your fantasy?

If it is real, you sound very fortunate. It also sounds like you realize that, so you certainly shouldn't be on her questioning what she does. Does she know that you're doing that?

[normster]

No she don't know, it was bet but, it is so thrilling I don't want it to stop, we have no more arguments, sex have never been better, but on the other hand, this public display, what if I want out.

[CuriousEddie]

It's a relationship. You can always walk away.

If you want out of any particular situation, use a safe word you have agreed on to let her know you are uncomfortable.

Otherwise, she seems intent on keeping you in your place, and that includes a little bit of humiliation. Deep down, doesn't part of you kind of like that aspect anyway?

[Handyman03]

She likes controlling you. You do as she allows even with the 3 office girls if she trusts them and you obeyed I'm jealous lol