i was in a 4 year relationship with this great girl. We were in love almost from the start. It was both our first real relationship. We broke it off cleanly about a month and a half ago and she couldn't say it to my face. It was too hard for her to do that. I have been trying to fight to win her back but no luck. She told me she will always love me but she does have feelings for another guy. She says she doesn't know what will happen in the future with us and all that and anything could happen.
She doesn't want me talking to her because it makes her miss me and makes her upset. I knew from the start she and I probably weren't going to be each others last relationship because we were so young. Do you guys think that she and I just need to date other people and things like that to have that experience in life? it will tell us if our feelings were "real" or "special" because right now we both don't know if that is the case. again its the first time we ever experienced anything like this.
I don't need to hear things like leave the bitch alone or anything or she will have sex with another guy. Because she probably will and I will have sex with other people too if it feels right. I guess I wanna know if this is a normal thing that happens to young couples that experienced love for the first time? She doesn't want a "relationship" with anyone for awhile and doesn't want marriage until she is like 26...she is almost 22 now. So there is time for us to explore and see other people and find our way back right? I never felt so strong about a person in my life, I feel like we were meant for one another. Things are really hard because she isn't here now and I do miss my best friend...please help me
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I think you need to give her space because she clearly wants it at the moment. I know it is hard but she sounds confused as to what she wants. If neither of you have been with other people it can be difficult for you to know how your feelings match up.
You are both very young but that doesn't mean she isn't necessarily "the one" for you but maybe its the wrong time?
A close friend of mine split up with her boyfriend at about her age because she wanted to see what else was out there. Three years later they got back together and are stronger than ever - in fact they are getting married in a few months :) I can't promise that will happen for you but it might. Or you might meet someone else you love even more.
You sound like a very nice man and I am certain you will end up with the love of your life. It seems hard now but try not to dwell - go out with your friends, try new things and meet new people. That way you will grow as an individual.0