On the flip side, if you trust that the other already knows literally everything about you, and would never want to hide anything, your relationship might be really strong. My wife and I are free to look at whatever we want in each other's phone, but it's not coming from a place of snooping or insecurity. It's because we both know what the other is doing all the time and don't want the other one not to know.
I agree with you about insecurity, for the record. Being too insecure to trust your partner and spying on them is a recipe for disaster. Just playing devil's advocate and presenting the other perspective because I do truly believe that being 100% open and honest is possible, and it takes lots of trust and security to reach that point.
@Herbie_Otch Totally agree! My answer was more dedicated to the ones on here, in crappy relationships, and no trust!! When I really love and care about her, I have nothing to hide, and she knows everything, and the 'dark' side, which she says is just 'GRAY' compared to others!! LOL!! Until you get to that true, trusting point, that level of non-judging intimacy, there still needs to be some privacy, for those that are still functioning in their 'lower' brains, and not as evolved!! :)
No.. And in my case allowing her to go through my phone has legal implications. It's company property.. Her going through it would land both of us in jail..
Permission is needed in order for it to be OK and that permission is called a password or a lock of any kind. Whether there are justifiable reasons for it is another topic but I say privacy and security are important.
It saved me a lot of problems twice. Women are so affraid that guys check their phones because that's where their secrets are hidden. For the guys reading this, go to dcim there are pictures she deleted from whatsapp
Everyone needs privacy. How would you feel if people went into your private things. If you think something is wrong, just ask and see what they say and how they respond. You will have your answer.
Well, it's up to everyone's opinion, but for me, I think it's more than fair for my Girlfriend to check my phone, computer, Social Media and everything! It's HER business to know what I've been up to!
I believe so especially when you suspect cheating going on remember the first few times you guys went there if it changes or the way your partner does things or talks to you then ohwell it's more than OK its your right and with out him or her knowing
No. People are going to cheat if they want to do so. It does matter what you do as a partner. Vice versa as well. if you want to and give no more fucks you would too. Bottom line.
Go through my phone without permission, and we will be having a very long talk where you will try your damned best to convince me not to dump your snooping, prying, non-trusting ass.
Okay I don’t say yes exactly, but if you think they may be cheating or doing something dangerous that can harm themselves or others, you just might have to look out of legit concern for the loved one
Except you're really onto something, then I'd say use it to show the evidence. In either case, your confidence in this person is lost, if you're SECRETLY going through their phone.
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Ya after you've been together for awhile, I feel like its a red flag if they don't let you go through their phone
NO, NEVER!! If you don't have enough trust, and you think you need to check their phone, then your relationship will never last!!
On the flip side, if you trust that the other already knows literally everything about you, and would never want to hide anything, your relationship might be really strong. My wife and I are free to look at whatever we want in each other's phone, but it's not coming from a place of snooping or insecurity. It's because we both know what the other is doing all the time and don't want the other one not to know.
I agree with you about insecurity, for the record. Being too insecure to trust your partner and spying on them is a recipe for disaster. Just playing devil's advocate and presenting the other perspective because I do truly believe that being 100% open and honest is possible, and it takes lots of trust and security to reach that point.
@Herbie_Otch Totally agree! My answer was more dedicated to the ones on here, in crappy relationships, and no trust!!
When I really love and care about her, I have nothing to hide, and she knows everything, and the 'dark' side, which she says is just 'GRAY' compared to others!! LOL!!
Until you get to that true, trusting point, that level of non-judging intimacy, there still needs to be some privacy, for those that are still functioning in their 'lower' brains, and not as evolved!! :)
Umm I think if you have nothing to hide then you shouldn’t care and I don’t think spouses should hide stuff from each other anyway.
Me and my boyfriend have no secrets from each other. None. Our phones are open to each other anytime and we are secure
No.. And in my case allowing her to go through my phone has legal implications. It's company property.. Her going through it would land both of us in jail..
Permission is needed in order for it to be OK and that permission is called a password or a lock of any kind. Whether there are justifiable reasons for it is another topic but I say privacy and security are important.
It saved me a lot of problems twice. Women are so affraid that guys check their phones because that's where their secrets are hidden. For the guys reading this, go to dcim there are pictures she deleted from whatsapp
Everyone deserves some privacy, even people in a relationship, so no.
Well, I would hate it if absolutely anybody went through my phone. I have a lot of embarrassing stuff on there...
Everyone needs privacy. How would you feel if people went into your private things. If you think something is wrong, just ask and see what they say and how they respond. You will have your answer.
Just password protect your phone and even include a fingerprint unlock if your phone is one of the later models.
What other people say to me in confidence is nobody's business.
Well, it's up to everyone's opinion, but for me, I think it's more than fair for my Girlfriend to check my phone, computer, Social Media and everything! It's HER business to know what I've been up to!
I believe so especially when you suspect cheating going on remember the first few times you guys went there if it changes or the way your partner does things or talks to you then ohwell it's more than OK its your right and with out him or her knowing
No. People are going to cheat if they want to do so. It does matter what you do as a partner. Vice versa as well. if you want to and give no more fucks you would too. Bottom line.
No.
Go through my phone without permission, and we will be having a very long talk where you will try your damned best to convince me not to dump your snooping, prying, non-trusting ass.
Yes my sister just dumped her boyfriend because he was saving another girls pictures.
I always say 'trust but verify'. If you're cheating on me I'm going through your phone to confirm it. Then shit-canning you. GTFO
I plant shit on my phone just to fuck with her. Didn't take very long for her to avoid my phone like the plague.
Okay I don’t say yes exactly, but if you think they may be cheating or doing something dangerous that can harm themselves or others, you just might have to look out of legit concern for the loved one
Except you're really onto something, then I'd say use it to show the evidence. In either case, your confidence in this person is lost, if you're SECRETLY going through their phone.