I think it has been and always will be women. And I still don't think the number of guys out there who are sad about not having a girlfriend really match, and not even the ones on GaG like I'm sure some are going to point out.
Today I'm seeing some of my female friends who are single or "just dating" posting stuff on Facebook that's about Valentine's Day being every day, or trying to post a bunch of random stuff to distract from it when some of them do not even really post that often.
Right now I'm single and not particularly trying to get into a relationship and I'm good with that. Only thing I can honestly say I'm really interested in is just having a sex partner, and I've even been lazy about pursuing that with how exhausted I feel by the time the weekend comes. So I try to take the easy way out by looking for hook ups online lol. There is a woman in an 'open marriage' who is open to sleeping with me but I just can't do it lol.
Anyway, what do you think? Are women bothered more by being single? Or men?
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Interesting how the polls changed. Again, it is a guy @Gaming_dragon who gave a pretty sharp answer that is something I myself have always thought about.
Who is more bothered by being single? Men or women?
I've definitely met guys like that, but I don't think their numbers still match womens'. One reason being that women often try to use 'choice' as a way to make themselves feel better about their singleness. "I'm single by choice" I don't hear men say that as often as women, although when it bothers men they will be pouty about how they're single not by choice so that someone will feel sorry for them. Women also use 'choice' out of narcississm: "I choose to be single" "I can choose when I want to have sex" etc. Women egotistically believe their status or ability to do anything with a man always is within their power.
You can never expect woman to vote anything honorably cuz they will always turn that into man vs woman mentality. I am not amazed that now woman have get upper hand on men in rights and they abuse them like crazy and consider them superior cuz it's their flock mentality... if 1 falls in to ditch others will follow with no regard for common sense. anyway woman are 1000% times more desperate for relationships and it's their ultimate life goal to get married and have kids and you can ask 35+ single white females for confirmation about it. Guys on the other hand are only intrested in sex and if you remove "religious and cultural initiatives" guy will never ever end up in marriage or relationship and bang woman with no regard for their future. Relationships and marriage only favours woman and in 21st century where we can even cook/clean ourselves... marriage is foul plan that only benefits woman and kinda death warrants... you will never go sky diving if 50% parachute fail to open and trust your life with it... then why support marriage?
AlphaGhost - your just jealous cause you are not getting any from a woman cause they have seen what you have to offer and it ain't worth offering , ha , ha
Funny how you say that women are 10 times more desperate for relationships when they reject or ghost 9 to 10 out of 10 guys, who asks them out. Speaking from personal experience.
@Unit1 and you are speaking truth about ghosting 9/10 of guys but still they may Ghost 90% of Guys but will always will be involved in relationship with 1 guy or pursuing someone else. If woman really hates us that much to say no 90% of population... then certainly they won't be pursuing relationship/getting themselves ready/wasting money on costly perfumes and make-up/making accounts on dating website brother but they are and I don't think 90% of woman say no its more like 50-40% but I don't know where you are from... so things may vary by area. You can't correlate woman standards (responsible for rejection) with their desperation for relationship cuz former will only exists due to later. Standards exists cuz She is willing to date and Guys don't have 35+ years clock ticking when we will lose our beauty and nobody will look at us instead guys still date very well in to their 40's. When we can't date then they buy it in clubs. The male incentive for relationship is sex while woman incentive is stable relationship and family, in 21st you can get a lot of sex with-out marriage with multiple partners that keep it interesting but ITS VERY BORING TO BANG THAT OLD HAG and studies prove that married couples rarely have sex anyway. You have to up your game if you are rejected by 90% of woman brother cuz that number is really concerning and I bet you don't have stable earning or lack techniques /manners to get the ladies.
@MissDawn7961 That's what I was talking about Guys here is the example of Typical-Single-Old-White Hag and She tried to attack me without even doing her homework like a little bit of investigation of my profile before barking, You are perfect specimen and I got a lot of questions for yea, What do you really think you could have achieved by it? by taking a dip at me and what you are thinking... did it boost your little fragile ego or make you happy by considering you spread shit about me WITH NO REGARD TO COMMON SENSE and ATTACKED ME DUE TO YOUR MAN VS WOMAN MENTALITY. I don't even owe an explanation to you cuz I am confident enough to understand my position in dating world but I still lie it down for yea, I am in 5th year of my MD/MBBS (Doctor for old hags like yea) with zero student loan,6 feet tall,8 inches cock and stable earning. I have been asked out by ladies and I know 90% of them will open their legs to me if I try my luck BUT I am dating someone for last 5 years and I will either chose death over cheating in relationship. She is MD like me and unlike your white whores with zero regard to common sense... She is very smart (hence proven by her degree), beautiful, loyal and 90% of your shit complain OHHHHH we want career and can't cook, guess what She is far more educated than 98% of your shit kind and can cook, clean or deal with house-hold stuff... I will be the STUPIDEST person in history of mankind if I cheat on her and let her go and above we love each-other, Now you have learn my credentials and old enough to make decision, Tell me "you will reconsider your Offer trash or not" ?
@Unit1 Dude I am trying my luck with ladies in US so I don't know "What do you really mean by East?" but if you are talking about Russian woman I don't have the luxury to date one yet. I have heard money is very imp to them and they like traditional gender rules but also make up for them with feminine traits.
I yearn for the luxury of meeting normal women, who are single and look for a boyfriend. Origin matters not to me. West or east, i don't care. Just gimme some normal, single women already with positive vibes.
I'm sure its women. I'm 19 and I've never dated. Everyone in my family has dated including my 15 year old sister... DO U KNOW HOW SAD THAT IS? But and incident happened with my friend last week. Apparently he likes me but I just see him as a friend. We don't talk that often because in college it can be hard to cross paths with people when your trying to get to your classes.
I'm really good at reading people, so I knew immediately when he started liking me. And my friend also told me that he said he liked me to her. I didn't say anything, but the problem I have is when he stares. It gives me overwhelming stress cause I don't know what to do in the situation cause I don't feel the same way about him.
So after this experience, I actually realized I love being single. I enjoy my independence, and for the first time ever, I'm not looking for a relationship. But up until then it was "I want to be in a relationship so bad!" So yes, girls are way more into it than guys. But that doesn't mean guys are any less of wanting a relationship too.
well I think men are more bothered, because many guys don't have the control or allure to where they feel they will enjoy single life and bang a bunch of chicks to make it enjoyable. More often, many guys are single not from choice but because they are not getting dates which means lack of sex. Women can get laid easily or easier than guys, but women more often are choosing to hold off on sex if they want to and be more fine if they aren't getting sex when single. And the reason is because some women choose to be single because they aren't emotionally ready for a relationship yet, but they don't want to just fuck around.
So they can bang good looking guys if they want and may go on dates, but cut it off if they feel said guys don't want to commit so being purposely abstinent until the right guy comes around and then sex comes. Guys more often aren't getting pussy left and right and aren't holding out on sex for a relationship but just having a harder time with dating from the sex perspective. AS a result, being single is more often sexless more often and more so for guys on not on purpose whereas, if it's sexless for women, it's on purpose. Whereas if a guy is in a relationship, he's at least getting sex regularly right, or at least more so than when single.
In the natural world only dominant males had women, I think the number was 1male to 17 females leaving many males single so they naturally evolved to adapt and survive single over hundreds of millennia. The male evolved in mind to be single as survival. Women on the other hand were/are more valuable in reproduction and so they evolved more protected and coddled; therefore, they are behind many millennia evolving to a fish that truly is in her own without a bicycle. Now, they certainly will take the hardline-mantra that they don’t need men and that is true in a societal infrastructure built and supported by manpower. However, the social engineers have been in tilt-mode recently with the recent demise of women’s health and happiness. Even some hardcore liberals are coming out pushing women to couple-up or at least procreate (Sweden adds for one). The thing that has changed the most is that women’s reproductive value has diminished societal wide recently so that they are now just becoming working stiffs like the rest of us. Welcome to our world of modern slavery.
Correct, nothing to be sad about, just adapt! I say women.
I think on a personal level, it's men. But on a societal level, as in peer pressure, it's women.
A man being single is more socially accepted even though he is actually more likely to be desperate for a relationship deep inside.
A woman being single is less accepted by society and even though she herself wouldn't feel much need for a man, she faces more mean comments from other people about how her biological clock is ticking and men will not desire her anymore and all... And a lot of women's depression from being single derives from being demoralized by people's comments.
Actually it is the opposite. Men who are single are more often jeered at and joked about, and have to face scrutiny from people for almost anything he says or does, especially if it's about women: what he says or does must be the result of him being single. Whereas women are not quite stigmatized like that for being single.
More often women are desperate for relationships because they hate the idea of being single for a long time while they watch other women they know getting into relationships, and as one of the guys who answered noted - which was a really good point - is that women will be so desperate for a relationship that they will even resort to dating their own gender. Men do not go that far even in their desperation.
I think I might go ahead and write a Take about this.
Yeah that's why when I would tell people about my sister when she was 22 people said at this age she should be having kids, and everyone judged on why she's not married yet. She got married at 23.
I believe women are, at least from an evolutionary biological reasoning. Keep in mind, women sought out protection, resources, and dependence from men for a long time and even now the residual instincts of this has not changed. Just because a man is single DOES NOT mean he is not having sex. So, when you mean “single” I believe you’re referring to relationships, which affirms my answer that women are a lot more bothered not being in a relationship than are bothered not being in a relationship.
Comments here will rightfully point out that men complain about being single far more often than women ONLINE. Keep in mind, however, that men have little if any room at all in public or among their peers to grieve about their loneliness, romantically or otherwise. Contrary to popular portrayal, emotional displays from men are rarely met with direct hostility but rather a cold, awkward silence and further avoidance down the line. By contrast, women get much of their venting done face-to-face because it is not only forgiven but rewarded with sympathy.
Factoring all that in, my guess is that women are more bothered by being single overall. HOWEVER, that number is far offset by men who are bothered by not getting laid irrespective of relationship status!
Have you noticed the legions of incels? They're literally killing people over not getting to bust a nut. Women might be posting passive aggressive shit on social media but there are thousands if not tens of thousands dudes who completely lose their minds.
@Liz_thorne True about incels, though I sort of understand their frustration seeing as male singleness is joked and jeered at, and women do like it that guys are bothered by not getting sex, and they do like it if guys are feeling bad because they think women are getting sex whenever they want.
Hopefully you’re not going to empathize with rapists/murderers lol
This quote makes the most sense: “Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them.” -Margaret Atwood
In all fairness, it’s really just due to our differences in anatomy.. Women are much more likely to suffer consequences from sex compared to men.
Women have to worry about the risk of pregnancy while the guy can easily just dip out after a pregnancy scare and abandon her without a trace. Women, please use birth control or whatever contraceptive suits best. Don’t trust any guy who recommends the “pull-out” method. Guys, just wear the damn rubbers.. don’t complain about slightly lessened sensitivity.
@brennanhuff Well women are prone to catch certain STDs just like men are prone to catch certain STDs. Some STDs have a worse effect on women and vice versa.
@Ninjazzed No offense, but it seems to be that it's the white chicks who are overly focused on rape and male violence, which they also use as a reason to disregard anything a guy talks about concerning women: "Men rape/murder more than women! We don't have to take you seriously!" I feel like Caucasian women are perpetually dumbing and disabling themselves with rape complexes and malephobia, when they are the demographic of women who are raped and murdered the least.
@Liz_thorne Women definitely enjoy that guys feel bad if they don't have a girlfriend or aren't having sex, which is why they like to broadcast it that they can "have sex any time they want" or with any guy they want. On the one hand, women are hating it if guys are obssessed with not having sex or a girlfriend, but then still like bragging to them about how easy it is for them as women to get a date or get laid.
Male singleness is jeered at and joked about way more than female singleness. Guys face tons of masturbation jokes if they're single, and if a guy says anything about women that women don't like but is true, they get comments thrown at them that they must be "lonely" "incels" "not getting laid" etc. just for saying what they think. Women do not get that stuff thrown at them for voicing what they think about men.
I agree, but it never hurts to be wary and cautious of surroundings either. My area here is getting heavily congested with illegal sex/drug traffickers, and of course—they’re predominantly male.. it’s really a matter of location. I’m almost tempted to move out of the city. Yes, referring to the white women posting that “you know who doesn't shoot people? women” are the least political and least self-aware white women that I know. This is where you choose to get involved? To give yourself a cookie for not being a mass murderer? I know who they voted for.
Not only Caucasian women but African American women as well, they seemed to be most targeted.
The media gives a lot of attention to white cis women who are murdered, but at least 11 transgender women of color have also been murdered this year.
Women do get jeered at in other ways for voicing opinions, of course there’s the old reliable “get back to the kitchen” or “give me a blowjob” because I tend to get this often.. and half of the time this sexist drivel comes from men lol you can’t say women don’t face backlash all the same.
@Ninjazzed No, white women are mainly the ones with their rape complexes and paranoia and wanting to perpetuate fear of men with their constant focus on male violence. Basically their game is: as long as we can keep male violence and statistics in focus, then we never have to regard men as human beings who should ever be cared about or listened to, because after all "you guys commit all the crime." And it's also a way to distract us from ever noticing female violence or wrongs. Black women and Latinas face more domestic violence and rape than white women, yet they still love men and you don't hear them whining about how terrible and violent men are. It's white women with that campaign.
"We dismiss anything men say regarding women simply because they reside inside male bodies lol" - So you basically do admit then that you don't respect or care about what men say because they are men. My whole point.
"Women do get jeered at in other ways for voicing opinions..." - They do. But at the end of the day more people will still listen to what a woman voices - men included - and see it as the gospel just because women are saying it and we feel like she should be understood. Whereas most people pretty much already decide that if men are voicing anything about women it's because he's sexist, "not getting laid," "bitter," doesn't have a girlfriend, etc. Women are still way more respected for voicing their opinions and feelings on men than vice versa.
“So you basically do admit then that you don't respect or care about what men say because they are men. My whole point.”
Not at all my point.. I for one respect men and their bodily autonomy, and the gesture should be reciprocated.
Men don’t possess ovaries or uteruses therefore shouldn’t really have much political sway over anything regarding female reproductive laws, rights, or concerns.
I mean, hell.. male lawmakers are already starting to dismiss the idea of eliminating tax exceptions on tampons and other essential feminine products simply because they value their tax revenue more than womens’ reproductive health.
@Ninjazzed Yeah, that is your point. You don't want to hear men whether they're politicians or average men simply because as you said, they reside in male bodies. Those men in Congress don't care about blacks either. Since the 1800s, more white women have held seats in the government than any other demographic of "minorities" and most of them have accomplished nothing any different than those old white men. Hell, half of these white women politicians have been just as racist and still agreed with them.
Your goofy tampon tax might not be great, but it's better than being discriminated by police or even being killed by a cop cuz you're black, and having that cop go free.
Taxation is legal theft that the poor can rarely afford.. you seem to be at peace with that.
Yes, defend racial “preferences” all you want but it’s simply internalized racism. Black men wear a target on their back everyday.
A crazy white male can walk all over with an AR-15 and the cops won’t bat an eye, yet they are the ones that commit the most mass shootings. While black men can look at a cop wrong and he is “harassing” them.
If you are a privileged white American male, don’t complain about “feminism” or being “disadvantaged” due to diversity because it doesn’t appeal to you. Society was built upon your opinion. We live by your opinion. Your voice has always been heard.
@Ninjazzed LMFAO! You haven't even been listening, have you? I'm not white! I AM black! Lmfao. I hate taxes like the next person, and actually did grow up poor. But taxes can't be escaped.
I think you must be a young white "liberal" "feminist" college student who thinks she's giving a damn about poor people or people of color.
@ManOnFore Never said you were white, you just assumed lol I’m speaking in general terms here. And I’m actually neither, so case in point. I’m an egalitarian, not a feminist. I actually do give a damn about people of color and poor people because I advocate for them everyday in my community. I have friends of color and even poverty-stricken friends. And yes, taxes suck but not everybody can afford them. But, you’re definitely a misogynist and you clearly try to dismiss everything regarding women’s rights. My point still stands. You’re implying I’m a liberal—which must make you a pouty conservative, I’m assuming. Being a black conservative isn’t easy. It certainly isn’t for the faint of heart.
It’s why the erasure of such transformational figures like Justice Clarence Thomas from Black History Month really pisses me off.
Don’t worry, sir.. you still have your own knitting circle here on GAG and reddit where you get to complain how you’re a victim of feminism and diversity.
@Ninjazzed "But, you’re definitely a misogynist and you clearly try to dismiss everything regarding women’s rights." - No, just white women's bullshit.
"You’re implying I’m a liberal—which must make you a pouty conservative, I’m assuming. Being a black conservative isn’t easy. It certainly isn’t for the faint of heart. It’s why the erasure of such transformational figures like Justice Clarence Thomas from Black History Month really pisses me off." - Lmfao. I'm not a Conservative either, I'ma Democrat. I just hate absolute "liberals." "Transformational" figures like Clarence Thomas? This guy is an absolute embarrasment to the black community. Who raped Anita Hill, a black woman, and yet he stays because he's a Republican piece of shit who makes white Republicans happy. Get your facts straight.
My argument is that the prevalence of incels and male involuntarily celibates (there's a difference) is significantly greater than the prevalence of femcels and female involuntarily celibates (there's a difference)!
Women, cause they have the biological clock issue, and guys are after younger girls 80% of the time, so the longer they are single, the more stressful it becomes. Me personally I dont care, I love the freedom, but the worst part is that others find problem with it. Especially my mom, so I imagine its the same for other girls.
Well, it bothers me to be single, but I can say its 50-50 both guys and girls hoe around and both can be bothered by being single. But realistically girls are more sensitive and require attention so if she was single she'd be craving the love she needs.
Does not apply to me personally , but I will say men more on average , and the reasons are : Girls / women have better support networks of both genders , and also much closer , and also quite tactile , own gender friendships. Men , if single , tend to be on their own in life. However , there is no guarantee of having a supportive partner in a relationship either... which is far worse... I know !! Also , esp in younger men , men have the double curse of a much higher sex drive than their female counterparts , combined with limited - no access to sexual partners in many cases. So glad my Male Curse has greatly faded. I'm a single FT working dad , and much happier remaining single , no bitterness against women , just can't be bothered with the farcical chore of dating.. ie multiple job interviews , and prefer my own company. I do have great female platonic friends , and do not want anything more.
Also it is FAR harder to win over a woman for a man , than vice versa , to most women , men are ten a penny and they have plenty of male options if they so wish.
As far as what I think based on my experience — Men. Hands down. For sure. No comparison. Sad men are sadder than any sad woman I’ve ever seen. I meet so many sad guys to the point they are suicidal... And still So many men seem to think women get bothered by stuff more.
My guess is guys don’t talk to guys about this or so many other things - so other men generally have no conception how very low they get.
Agree , and you are right about men being on their own in life / no-one to properly talk to. Have expanded on that in my own response. At least you are empathetic about " the other side " a lot of women can have very callous , mocking & cruel attitudes towards boys / men. Single by choice in my own case.
both sexes can be bothered at times for being single ! a lot of men seem to be under the impression that the women in their lives are the man's - maids , cooks , and everything else but we women are not ! the women in men's lives are going to let these non-husbands and boyfriends know it too ! Thanks
Nope,,, this is one that is definitely not inherently gender specific or even a big disparity in the average... Really only dependent on the person in this case,, the ability to operate independently, the lack of insecurity, emotional maturity, EQ and personality type is what dictates this...
Both are pretty even, it all depends on the person's personality. Some people need someone to share everything with and to have someone to depend on to be there for them. Others aren't interested and just roll with whatever happens. So it's always going to be different for different sorts of people.
Yes women suffer more because of men like You, " all I really want is a sex partner " and " I've even been Lazy about that " What you need is a blow up doll. And some porn and leave the dating women to men who truly want to date & a relationship !
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