After cheating or having an affair, what made you realize it wasn't worth it and she's the one? Did you regret your choice?

[yomama101]

After cheating, or having an affair what made you realise it wasn't worth it and she's the one? Did you regret your choice? How did, if you did, fix it?

[Definitely]

Cheating is basically deliberately doing something to break your agreement with your partner. It is never a mistake. By definition, it is never unintentional. It's a deliberate set of actions which leads to known consequences. Just because the expected consequences were not met (for example getting away with it), it does not mean that there are any reasons to be pardoned just because that person is not mature enough to face the consequences.
I'm a firm believer that if a person cheats once, it will happen again as long as the first time got away with it, thinks that can get away with it next time, or doesn't learn from mistakes.
Once betrayed by someone for something so petty, to accept such a person back, you would need to not have any respect for yourself and no standards to trust someone again that deliberately sold you for a few minutes of fun.
Take a step back and think what would you do if someone knowingly put your life on the line just for a little fun. Would you trust that person? Would you even consider that person as a friend? What if someone dear to you would have died because of it? Don't take things lightly because it seems to be "just cheating". It's so much more than that. It's about hurting you intentionally.

[akakiran]

Cheating/affairs in a relationship is bad some times it can couse higher effect in relationship talking about it would help

Braking someone heart is painful if u did it with knowledge or without

I would surely regard it but I will try to explain her what happened before she can hear from someone

Sometimes it it's worth talking if ur realationship strong

[Avicenna]

A friend who was in this position told me that he couldn't trust the woman he cheated with and that did it for him

[Anonymous]

After the orgasm pretty much.

Which is why I always masturbate before interacting with any girl these days, I know how stupid I can be when the wrong head is leading the way, I regret it and won't let it happen again, I'm a man, I don't decieve and I always stand behind my words.

[redneckgamer]

If you have any intention of doing you should just break it off because clearly you dont love or respect your s/o

[yomama101]

I don't. At all. I've been cheated on and want mens opinion to how their mentality changed afterwards

[redneckgamer]

I know I read your replies. I was just stating in general. That is such a disrespectful thing to do.

[redneckgamer]

I am a firm believer in if they do it once they will do it again

[yomama101]

I'm just a bit lost and struggling to believe him... And not entirely true I did cheat on my last relationship... But wouldn't dream of it with this man, whom I've been with for 4 years

[redneckgamer]

That's a good thing you have a heart enough to not do it again. But if you were still with your ex would you do it to him again?

[yomama101]

No, because I told him and left him, I regretted hurting him and left him for his own good. He didn't deserve to stay with a Cheater and I was a terrible person for doing it. He went on to have a wonderful relationship and I'm glad of that

[redneckgamer]

Then you ma'am are someone who broke my belief. I could see why you wouldn't want to let the relationship go. Are you willing to always be thinking he is doing it again everytime he goes out?

[yomama101]

Thank you, I'm so paranoid and it's not who I am as a girlfriend. I would give a man the world, but I ask for loyalty, and to just treat me kindly.. Its too much

[redneckgamer]

I get where you are coming from. You also need to look out for mental health though. I personally dont know you or your situation but you need to be happy for you not anyone else. If you want to continue your relationship with him I hope he changes his ways. But you shouldn't have to worry either.

[yomama101]

Ngl, his ex and him have killed me mentally

[redneckgamer]

I am 100% sure they have. You dont deserve that. Just know if you ever need to pm me to talk you are more than welcome too. I have been through stuff myself so I can sympathize with you.

[yomama101]

Thank you, I appreciate that x

[redneckgamer]

You're very welcome ma'am.

[Anonymous]

I've never cheated.. But I made sure my ex regretted it.. I showed her family, her friends, everyone she knew a video of her in the act of cheating.

[yomama101]

As horrible as it is, what she did, that's called revenge porn and is a criminal offence

[Opinion Owner]

Lol not really, not where I'm from.. And it never went to a web site. It got played at our engagement ceramony.. Massive difference. And she deserved it. She was seeing 8 other men besides me..

[yomama101]

That's a lot of guys, I feel for you ❤️

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for that. Thankfully I found and married someone who is very loyal..

[yomama101]

I wish i had the same haha

[Opinion Owner]

I'm sorry.. Were you cheated on?

[yomama101]

Yeah.. For a year... Including him taking our newborn son to see his ex/side piece and he continued after that

[Opinion Owner]

That's disgusting.

[yomama101]

I know. Crazy thing is, he was so apologetic and said he regrets it... And I'm still here but... I'm starting to think I should leave

[Opinion Owner]

If you can't trust him, it's not going to work. And staying with him because you have a child isn't a good choice either.. Were I in your shoes I'd leave.

[yomama101]

I know, but it's so complicated... God I don't know what to do

[Opinion Owner]

No I understand, you have a kid with him, you likely live together.. It's a huge step.. The problem is, your kid will see you being with someone that makes you unhappy. That's not a good message to send your child.

[crazcom]

it's natural. I regret my choice. She didn't deserve it at all.

[Poopeegirls]

I'm glad I cheated. She was never the one. Wanna hook up?