I've always been one of those people that doesn't understand cheating, I said I'd never ever do it. I never understood why you'd ruin a relationship, and why, if you're that unfulfilled in it, you wouldn't just end it. And why would you need to get with someone else if you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?
Well I had been with my boyfriend for about 2 months, and he had been away for 3 weeks and I went to a festival. I know 2 months is a minute amount of time but genuinely-I was in love with him. I don't know what it is but I just don't mix well with alcohol. My inhibitions just went completely out of the door and because I hadn't seen my boyfriend I kind of assumed I was single through my drunk mind. I knew it was kind of wrong at the time but I hooked up with someone else.
I didn't tell him for some time, and I didn't really feel bad for ages. I felt like it didn't happen because I was drunk and the festival all kind of blurred into one surreal dream for me. One of our mutual friends found out and so I thought it was time to tell him.
He didn't break up with me straight away but our relationship certainly ended at that point. I could tell he didn't really like me anymore and so he started talking to other girls etc. I think that cheating on him was the biggest mistake I have ever made in my life. The months and months of the worst pain I have ever felt for nothing. Every day I would constantly be concentrating on not crying. I don't think I'll ever stop loving him. And even disregarding him, I feel like a cheap slut. I am not the kind of person that would do that - I'm a nice, loyal girl. I hate myself for cheating and I would give anything to go back in time.
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Never cheated, never will.
To me, cheating is one of those things I don't support, advocate, or encourage in any way. Regardless of the individual that you're with, it's not fair to do something like that to another person. If I'm that unhappy or unfulfilled in a relationship, I'll end it. And as for the people (men or women) who marry and become extremely unhappy and trapped in their marriages, if they can't afford to divorce, then at least separate; there's no legal fees for a couple on an indefinite separation and hence, there's no excuse. At the end of the day, there's always options, and therefore no justification (at least in my mind) that can validate a person's choice to cheat.
I cheated. Told my hubby. He understands and forgave me. We are working on our marriage. Sometimes. Things are not as black and white.
Haven't cheated, and never would. A few simple reasons why:
1) It's just not right — that's first and foremost. If I thought things weren't working out with the woman I was seeing, I would just end it there, as opposed to jeopardizing things further by trying to make a move on someone else at the same time. It's not fair to the other person in the relationship.
2) I've been cheated on myself — and it's a really s***ty feeling. It was right after college graduation...she was two years younger, and had an opportunity to go study abroad in Ireland for a month during the summer. From what she told me, she got drunk and hooked up with some guy over there. The best part of all was being told by E-MAIL, and her still wanting to be friends afterward. I waited until she returned home, then confronted her...told her that whether it came to friends or romantic partners, I had no place in my life for dishonest people and we were done, end of story. One of the best decisions I ever made.
I don't think its because of so called "courage" that people don't just end their marriages. What if your wife really lets herself go. Or doesn't even let you kiss her, and you gives you sex like once a year. People stay because they don't want to get fuked over, why would I want to lose more then half of my stuff? Plus it's going be hard for the kids, not to mention all of the legal fees the guy has to pay up. I can't blame these guys for staying and just cheating with escorts etc, when at home there wifes don't give them any.
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I wouldn't cheat, and I never have. If you don't want to be in a relationship, it's simple.. don't be in one. There is no excuse to cheating, and it will never be right. A lot of people use the 'oh,i was drunk' excuse. If you can't control yourself while drunk, don't drink. If you're unhappy in your relationship, get out. If you had the balls to start the relationship, you should have the balls to end it.
No marriage = no regrets
GF/BF have no marriage contract/vows, their only "ties" are being nice & loving enough to each other to hope the other one does not stray too much and continues down the path toward a real marriage that vows against "cheating"I have no idea, never cheated.. I don't plan on it either.
People need to realize that it's better to get out of a bad or fallen marriage rather than cheat.. You'll only hurt your partner more.. Probably even yourself.. Kids, if you have any..I've never cheated in a relationship. The best solution for everyone involved is to end the relationship.
If you don't have the courage to get out, you're taking a huge risk with getting caught and damaging your partner even more. In the end, s/he will appreciate honesty than deception. Being deceived and lied to is a betrayal some people never get over and they have trust issues in every subsequent relationship. I couldn't do that to someone.i would never ever even think to consider cheating. it is the most disgusting thing to me and I wouldn't be able to handle being cheated on. what is more disrespectful than cheating on your significant other? if you think there's something better out there then don't stay in your relationship.
I've never cheated. Never will.
If a relationship is that horrible and not working out, you might as well end it. Cheating is the most coward-est form of trying to console a failing marriage/relationship. Think about it, if they relationship ends up working out and everything is peachy again, you basically just cheated out of spite and now your stuck.My relationship was falling apart and I tried talking to my guy about it, but he didn't understand. I ended up cheating and I confessed. Then he realized things were a problem and now everything is better. I regret that I let the relationship get to that point, but I do not regret doing what I did because it changed my relationship for the better.
cheated once...
i regret it. it caused a lot of unnecessary hardships for everyone involved. however, lesson learnt!I don't cheat. Not that hard to tell your current S.O that you want to bang someone else. It's not that hard to tell them it's over and you're going to shag another probably hotter person. I have a no cheating policy and that will stick no matter what.
Don't cheat never have never will. If you are unhappy end it. The "i was drunk"" bs is a lie 90% of people know what they are doing when they are drunk unless you are just hammered and then you still kinda have a feel of what's going on in that moment
Never cheated and don't plan to ever cheat.
I've always believed that if you want someone else so badly, then you should leave the person you are currently with before you do anything. Why hurt someone else by cheating?Oh my gay! I would never cheat on my girlfriend, she's too good, I can't break the trust, I love her.
I've never cheated but I've never been married. If I want to do someone else that badly, I end things with the other girl first, even if it's just a text I'm sending while undressing. I don't see what's so hard about this honestly.
I've never cheated, but I was the other woman once.. I regret it and I would never do that again! It caused a lot of sh*t for the guy and they have kids together. They're getting married soon but he's only marrying her because she said the only way she'd forgive him is if he married her. We cheated 3 years ago.. I feel bad that it's had such repercussions on him and his life. I won't ever do it again.
Why do people that 'never cheated' always come on those questions to say they never cheated and never will? Guilty conscience? I always find it bizarre...
I haven't cheated.
I'm not sure if that was actually the right path. I think maybe I should have.I put other because I haven't cheated nor have been cheated on.
I haven't cheated and never will.. but I'm sure the people who have do regret it.
I think if I ever found myself considering cheating I would just spare us both the time and end it..I'm happy to say I've never cheated. However, if for whatever reason I ever did cheat, I don't know how I could live with myself. I really don't understand those people that can cheat like it's nothing. Where's their conscience?
never cheated and never will. I have respect enough to end it with that person before starting another relationship
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