Do you regret cheating on your boyfriend/girlfriend for any reason?

[briven]

Some people cheat because they are so miserable in their marriage but they don't have the courage to get out. I suspect that in these cases, people don't regret cheating unless they get caught.

I don't regret it even if I get caught

I regret it and always will for a few reasons. I am basically and honest person and the guilt and lies were tearing me up inside. That's why I confessed.

I don´t regret it if I don't get caught

Depends on the prospect I consider to cheat with

Other

[Anonymous]

I've always been one of those people that doesn't understand cheating, I said I'd never ever do it. I never understood why you'd ruin a relationship, and why, if you're that unfulfilled in it, you wouldn't just end it. And why would you need to get with someone else if you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?

Well I had been with my boyfriend for about 2 months, and he had been away for 3 weeks and I went to a festival. I know 2 months is a minute amount of time but genuinely-I was in love with him. I don't know what it is but I just don't mix well with alcohol. My inhibitions just went completely out of the door and because I hadn't seen my boyfriend I kind of assumed I was single through my drunk mind. I knew it was kind of wrong at the time but I hooked up with someone else.

I didn't tell him for some time, and I didn't really feel bad for ages. I felt like it didn't happen because I was drunk and the festival all kind of blurred into one surreal dream for me. One of our mutual friends found out and so I thought it was time to tell him.

He didn't break up with me straight away but our relationship certainly ended at that point. I could tell he didn't really like me anymore and so he started talking to other girls etc. I think that cheating on him was the biggest mistake I have ever made in my life. The months and months of the worst pain I have ever felt for nothing. Every day I would constantly be concentrating on not crying. I don't think I'll ever stop loving him. And even disregarding him, I feel like a cheap slut. I am not the kind of person that would do that - I'm a nice, loyal girl. I hate myself for cheating and I would give anything to go back in time.

[dx021]

define "hooked up"

[Snow123]

Never cheated, never will.

To me, cheating is one of those things I don't support, advocate, or encourage in any way. Regardless of the individual that you're with, it's not fair to do something like that to another person. If I'm that unhappy or unfulfilled in a relationship, I'll end it. And as for the people (men or women) who marry and become extremely unhappy and trapped in their marriages, if they can't afford to divorce, then at least separate; there's no legal fees for a couple on an indefinite separation and hence, there's no excuse. At the end of the day, there's always options, and therefore no justification (at least in my mind) that can validate a person's choice to cheat.

[kheserthorpe]

With kids, its more complicated.

[3336PS]

I cheated. Told my hubby. He understands and forgave me. We are working on our marriage. Sometimes. Things are not as black and white.

[Hades]

Your husband sounds like a scaredy whipped wimp. You must have him wrapped around your finger.

[Tukindz]

You are married to a beta man.

[dx021]

Agreed, Tukindz. What kind of man would stay with a woman when she spread her legs for another dude? That image would be disgustingly ingrained in my mind

[3336PS]

Someone gave me an up vote? thanks :-).

Interesting comments. When not knowing the details. Never spread my legs for any guys after marrying my husband of 8 yrs. Only slept with 2 men before marriage at the age of 31. 1st. boyfriend. at 20. No boys in HS. studied hard.

The kiss was an accident, a mistake and guilt will be with me till the end of my days even though my hubby forgave me. I will never forgave myself.

I am honest here. He is not wiped. Holds a 6 figure job. a good provider, we are working

[3336PS]

our marriage.

[Enchanted_x3]

I gave you an up vote. I realize that it's much more complicated than any outsider could understand.

[3336PS]

thank you. :)

[Lights]

+1 as well, too many people jump to conclusions before knowing all the details..

[kaitlovesyou]

+1 :) you deserve it

[3336PS]

Cool look at all the up and down votes.

[samhradh_ean]

+1, none of us know enough about your situation to jump to conclusions and I'm glad things are working out. I can potentially see myself forgiving someone for cheating on me. Your husband isn't a wimp or anything like that- it all depends on the situation. There are times when you should move on and times when you can mend the relationship.

[NMMan]

Haven't cheated, and never would. A few simple reasons why:

1) It's just not right — that's first and foremost. If I thought things weren't working out with the woman I was seeing, I would just end it there, as opposed to jeopardizing things further by trying to make a move on someone else at the same time. It's not fair to the other person in the relationship.

2) I've been cheated on myself — and it's a really s***ty feeling. It was right after college graduation...she was two years younger, and had an opportunity to go study abroad in Ireland for a month during the summer. From what she told me, she got drunk and hooked up with some guy over there. The best part of all was being told by E-MAIL, and her still wanting to be friends afterward. I waited until she returned home, then confronted her...told her that whether it came to friends or romantic partners, I had no place in my life for dishonest people and we were done, end of story. One of the best decisions I ever made.

[Yuriy]

I don't think its because of so called "courage" that people don't just end their marriages. What if your wife really lets herself go. Or doesn't even let you kiss her, and you gives you sex like once a year. People stay because they don't want to get fuked over, why would I want to lose more then half of my stuff? Plus it's going be hard for the kids, not to mention all of the legal fees the guy has to pay up. I can't blame these guys for staying and just cheating with escorts etc, when at home there wifes don't give them any.

[CatholicVirginia]

The idea is that it's harder on the kids to have the parents hate each other than to split up and be friends.

[peace-love-couture]

Sorry, there's no excuse for cheating.

If you think you're mature enough to be married then you should be mature enough to communicate your needs to your partner. Communication is key to any healthy relationship & it takes 2 to keep it that way.

[Yuriy]

People are way to quick to judge I'm just saying I can see there side of things to. I don't condone cheaters but I can see why they do it. You say communicate to my partner, well what if he says baby can we have sex it's been years now? "NOO!" Trust me I know people that are married there wives won't even touch them or blow them. Now why wouldn't they want to get an escort or something get that physical needs taken care of. Who would want to lose their child and their money with a divorce.

[Alanaaa]

I wouldn't cheat, and I never have. If you don't want to be in a relationship, it's simple.. don't be in one. There is no excuse to cheating, and it will never be right. A lot of people use the 'oh,i was drunk' excuse. If you can't control yourself while drunk, don't drink. If you're unhappy in your relationship, get out. If you had the balls to start the relationship, you should have the balls to end it.

[THAT-1-guy]

+1

[Minajme123]

+1 Exactly

[islands7]

No marriage = no regrets

GF/BF have no marriage contract/vows, their only "ties" are being nice & loving enough to each other to hope the other one does not stray too much and continues down the path toward a real marriage that vows against "cheating"

[PoeticNinja]

I have no idea, never cheated.. I don't plan on it either.

People need to realize that it's better to get out of a bad or fallen marriage rather than cheat.. You'll only hurt your partner more.. Probably even yourself.. Kids, if you have any..

[Anonymous]

I've never cheated in a relationship. The best solution for everyone involved is to end the relationship.

If you don't have the courage to get out, you're taking a huge risk with getting caught and damaging your partner even more. In the end, s/he will appreciate honesty than deception. Being deceived and lied to is a betrayal some people never get over and they have trust issues in every subsequent relationship. I couldn't do that to someone.

[DebiPie]

This...from someone who cheats with married men! How hypocritiacal. Oh yes. You do that to someone. Big time. You are in denial girl.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm saying that I don't cheat. That isn't hypocritical.

[UberTroll]

If it's true that you have relations with married men then I'd have to agree with Debi that it's pretty hypocritical. Cheating is cheating. It doesn't matter whether you're the one who's in a relationship or not, if you feel cheating is wrong and you wouldn't stand for it in your relationship, then you shouldn't support other people in their cheating.

[Catie101]

i would never ever even think to consider cheating. it is the most disgusting thing to me and I wouldn't be able to handle being cheated on. what is more disrespectful than cheating on your significant other? if you think there's something better out there then don't stay in your relationship.

[electromagnetic]

I've never cheated. Never will.

If a relationship is that horrible and not working out, you might as well end it. Cheating is the most coward-est form of trying to console a failing marriage/relationship. Think about it, if they relationship ends up working out and everything is peachy again, you basically just cheated out of spite and now your stuck.

[Anonymous]

My relationship was falling apart and I tried talking to my guy about it, but he didn't understand. I ended up cheating and I confessed. Then he realized things were a problem and now everything is better. I regret that I let the relationship get to that point, but I do not regret doing what I did because it changed my relationship for the better.

[jokersgirl]

odd...

[Opinion Owner]

He took me for granted and that made him realize he didn't want to lose me.

[hakuna_matata]

cheated once...

i regret it. it caused a lot of unnecessary hardships for everyone involved. however, lesson learnt!

[3336PS]

So brave. At least one honest person here.

[Anonymouseo]

I don't cheat. Not that hard to tell your current S.O that you want to bang someone else. It's not that hard to tell them it's over and you're going to shag another probably hotter person. I have a no cheating policy and that will stick no matter what.

[THAT-1-guy]

Don't cheat never have never will. If you are unhappy end it. The "i was drunk"" bs is a lie 90% of people know what they are doing when they are drunk unless you are just hammered and then you still kinda have a feel of what's going on in that moment

[anony84]

Never cheated and don't plan to ever cheat.

I've always believed that if you want someone else so badly, then you should leave the person you are currently with before you do anything. Why hurt someone else by cheating?

[rallz93]

That's how I think too!

[arashmenalagha]

Oh my gay! I would never cheat on my girlfriend, she's too good, I can't break the trust, I love her.

[WayTooPopular]

I've never cheated but I've never been married. If I want to do someone else that badly, I end things with the other girl first, even if it's just a text I'm sending while undressing. I don't see what's so hard about this honestly.

[Anonymous]

I've never cheated, but I was the other woman once.. I regret it and I would never do that again! It caused a lot of sh*t for the guy and they have kids together. They're getting married soon but he's only marrying her because she said the only way she'd forgive him is if he married her. We cheated 3 years ago.. I feel bad that it's had such repercussions on him and his life. I won't ever do it again.

[Anonymous]

Why do people that 'never cheated' always come on those questions to say they never cheated and never will? Guilty conscience? I always find it bizarre...

[kheserthorpe]

I haven't cheated.

I'm not sure if that was actually the right path. I think maybe I should have.

[obligations]

I put other because I haven't cheated nor have been cheated on.

[Lights]

I haven't cheated and never will.. but I'm sure the people who have do regret it.

I think if I ever found myself considering cheating I would just spare us both the time and end it..

[emerald77]

I'm happy to say I've never cheated. However, if for whatever reason I ever did cheat, I don't know how I could live with myself. I really don't understand those people that can cheat like it's nothing. Where's their conscience?

[pepper01]

never cheated and never will. I have respect enough to end it with that person before starting another relationship

[ColtsFanForever]

I have never cheated any never will

I think people that cheat are scum

[gemglam]

I have never cheated so I can't say why people do it.

[AmberChick]

I never cheated so I never had to regret it and I'm happy with that.

[Yeahhbro]

only if I love her if I don't then no. But if that happens I am pretty unhappy, bored and mad in the relationship and it would get to a point where I will brake up.

[dx021]

most of the girls I've met that cheat don't consider themselves the cheating type

[RedThread]

I wouldn't cheat because if I did want somebody else then why would I still be in mine to begin with?

[KERMlT]

I've never cheated on my partner. I have been the other guy and I've also been cheated on.

[r0ntomyhermi0ne]

i've never cheated, but I'd leave if I ever thought about it.

[SlickRicky]

I've never cheated, but I have knowingly hooked up with someone in relationship- I didn't feel bad about it

[Eddieguitar]

well I guess you need a girlfriend before you are able to cheat... even so I wouldnt

[Anonymous]

I picked d I regret it but at the same time I don't. He dented me sex so in a way it's his fault but I know it hurt him so that's the only thing I regret

[Anonymous]

No, because I've never done it. I can certainly go ask my ex-husband if you like. :-)

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Never cheated, never will.

[ivarei]

never cheated, never will.

[6Paul11]

Never cheated, never will.

[Cantremember]

Since when does regret equal confessing?

[jokersgirl]

if you regret it, then you feel guilty about it. When you feel guilty about it then you're more likely to confess

[Cantremember]

True. Also explains why telling is so selfish.

[Freetobe007]

It's actually interesting that you say that because in some cases, it's almost like that other person is confessing selfishly. They claim that they owe it to their partner, but in reality, in a lot of cases, the guilt is eating at them. Confessing is more so to clear out some of that guilt. For some people at least

[Theokr]

I don even cheat :)