Have you ever been in love with a criminal?

[DizzyDesii]

My first ex used to help rob houses but told me he wouldn't let his friends rob me as long as i still let him come over to play the xbox 😒😒😒 #FeelFreeToList #MamaImInLoveWitACriminal

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People notice i said my first ex... meaning we’re no longer together 🤦‍♀️ I was 14 when we started dating and i didn't find out about his crimes til around 16 when we were closer to ending for good. Im 25 now so no im not still with that first ex 🤦‍♀️

[19magic]

I wouldn't say dated or loved but had a thing with a guy for a few weeks, bad enough it was the turning point of depression and self pity. He made me feel things I've never felt before, and he made me realise that I need to become my own person and be myself, he reminded me that he had a worse childhood than I did and also showed me a few things about the fast life that I've never thought about before, he said he's been in jail for 17 years but even before getting involved I knew I'd never love him and he was definitely more broken then me, I never learned so much before from one person

[DizzyDesii]

Oh wow

[19magic]

Thanks for the mho 😊

[Purplemonkey24]

Yes 🙈 head over heels.

[DizzyDesii]

Glad its over?

[Purplemonkey24]

Kinda. Im glad I dont have to worry all the time, but at the same time my crazy ass thought it was hot as hell.

[Purplemonkey24]

As for your update. I was the same way. I didn't realize he was a bad boy until later on and I found it hot but I dumped him quickly after he revealed it to me. I didn't want his friends trouble or to get in legal trouble myself. I understand what you mean. I wouldn't go back to mine either.

[DizzyDesii]

Glad we’ve matured

[Purplemonkey24]

Me too lol. Mine didn't rob houses. He sold drugs, carried a gun, broke into cars and was always fighting smh

[DizzyDesii]

Oh mine did all that as well. Robbing houses was just the first time i found out. But i was already in love by then and didn't wanna leave
Get Out of Toxic Relationships While You Still Can :( ↗

[Purplemonkey24]

He kept it all a secret till he beat the crap out of this guy for me and it made me fall harder but damn I had to cut it.

[DizzyDesii]

Daaang

[Purplemonkey24]

Awh thank you for mhg ❣

[DizzyDesii]

Anytime :)

[LEADFOOTboi]

nope... no criminals here... I don't know how i'd feel about an exeptionally attractive female criminal... except if she a crackhead, but that's not attractive... but i'd be too concerned that she'd be in so much danger all the time and she could be put in the clink at any time... my ex said she wanted a small knife to carry around for utilitarian purposes or whatever, but it is illegal in her city to carry that (somewhere in canada)... i sent her a multitool and told her that if she goes to jail over that, i'd visit her and stay cuffed... but unjust laws don't denote criminality to me

[DizzyDesii]

A crackhead 🤣

[David92506]

I've been writing to a female prisoner (drug conspiracy) for close to 3-years. She will be getting out in 2013. I've never physically seen her or heard her voice. Yet, I am developing feelings for her. So I believe it's possible to be in love with a criminal.

[DizzyDesii]

Oh wow good luck

[Guardian45]

Hmmm. How did that come about?

[David92506]

@Guardian45
I found Jessica on www.writeaprisoner.com
She is the only person I've met that asks me questions about my life. Everyone else I've met just talks my right ear off. I've bought several books from the, "3,000 Questions" series and I ask her questions. Next, I'm going to buy a relationship book that we will read together. It's been a very educational and interesting processes.

[Electric_Dreams]

Is no one gonna' say anything about the fact that he said this lass will be coming out of prison 7 years ago?

[David92506]

@Electric_Dreams
Sorry, meant to type 2023 not 2013

[DizzyDesii]

Lol i saw that but i thought i was just having a slow moment

[David92506]

@DizzyDesii
Thank you for selecting me for Most Helpful Guy.
I was wondering if you are still attracted to criminals, even on a subconscious level?

[DizzyDesii]

Nope just a dumb ex at 14. Ended that at 16

[David92506]

@DizzyDesii
So what type of guy are you attracted to now?

[DizzyDesii]

I've always been attracted to the good guys who were goofy. Thats what he was. However, i found out after about a year in that he pulled some heists. I wanted to leave but i was in love plus he made some threats. So i just stuck around til i could find another excuse to leave

[jennifer_bloom]

I think about 8 years ago - I had a crush on a very attractive and smart and kind guy who was jailed for smoking weed - he ended up going to a top school to study law a few months later

[DizzyDesii]

Oh wow

[bullsun]

My middle names ROB

[DizzyDesii]

@bullsun 🤣

[bullsun]

Haha steal ya heart

[OlderAndWiser]

When I was younger, I dated a few women who were prescription pill addicts (not a wise choice) but I don't think they were criminals.

[DizzyDesii]

Damn

[OlderAndWiser]

Mistakes are what help you to become wiser when you get older!

[IU_092]

@OlderAndWiser That is a beautiful thing you have wrote, mistakes help you become wiser as you get older. Thank you for saying that. You just unintentionally helped me ease my panic attack. Thank you.

[OlderAndWiser]

I'm glad that my words brought you some relief! Feel free to PM me if you need to talk.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

No can't say I have. Had one try to date me/stalk me like 4-5 years ago, I've known people that went to school with that years later for addicted to drugs and stole.

[DizzyDesii]

Wow thats insane

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Yeah apparently dude had just got out of prison. Guess he thought he was gonna move in house. Ha he thought wrong. He was bringing stolen vehicles to my house. And when told him to stay the fuck away, he called me from my front porch the one night. That scared the shit outta me. Another morning opened the curtains, to find him sleeping in car in alley cross the street from my driveway.

[DizzyDesii]

Omg thats hella creepy

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Ikr he got rearrested and was back in jail. But you know that fucking crazy dude was passing my number to people that came to visit his cellmates. I was getting texts and calls from random people. My son, or my boyfriend in jail with so and so and he wanted me to tell you he loves you and misses you. That went on for months. This dude barely knew me 3 weeks. craaazzy

[DizzyDesii]

Omg ong omg! My ex above got sent to military juvenile bootcamp or some shit like that for his crimes. He gave my address to all his roommates and i got thousands of random letters from random men. He claimed it was a gift to give me a better boyfriend than he ever was. Like wtf 🤣 and most
Were also thiefs

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Omg so wait 🤣 his bright idea was to set you up with a different, "better" criminal? 🤣🤣 Couldn't a been that better or wouldn't a got caught 😂

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao ikr

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Yeah that's crazy lol

[LEADFOOTboi]

Q O Q @Brainsbeforebeauty... you gave that guy your number?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@LEADFOOTboi before found out her was a criminal, but not like that/for that... That was too soon for me after my husband died. I wasn't looking to date anyone.

[LEADFOOTboi]

@Brainsbeforebeauty... it's ok, i forgive you...

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@LEADFOOTboi gee thanks 🙂🙂

[LEADFOOTboi]

welll, @Brainsbeforebeauty... life is weird and hard to see sometimes

[amphetamineyes115]

Yes, I grew up with criminals and kinda lived all that, seen a lot, heard a lot. Right now I'm dating a guy with criminal record from harmless violating public order to attempting murder. Trust me I really can't imagine myself with nice guy working 8 hours a day. I am aware of every bad thing life like this brings but I'd rather live that way than normal nice suburban housewife life.
I grew up being bonnie. I'm glad I found my Clyde🥰. This way of living is EVERYTHING trust me. That amounts of mutal trust you have in each other, must have in each other is irreplaceable. Relationship is so much stronger when you find someone to have your back even in your worst. These couples don't really have those relationship problems people with legal jobs do.

[DizzyDesii]

Lol well good luck to y'all

[alliekatXXO]

UGH!! I didn't know about it until almost a year in to our relationship. He would shoplift stupid things like Yugioh trading cards and scented wax, things that he could clearly afford. He's shown me his bank account several times to brag about his money.

Looking back, I should have turned him in the very first time I saw him do that. He shouldn't have laid his hands on me or gotten chlamydia front the chick he cheated on me with. She has to go tell 6 different guys about that too. FORGET HIM!!

[DizzyDesii]

Girl i feel your pain. I had a handful too

[Tstrbrainer]

I have never been. But I don't think it is uncommon.
One person can feel love towards another for a variety of reason and outsiders may not always be able to judge correctly. The person loving a criminal may have their own excuses like it was due to their situation or someone framed that person, etc. I don't think we will be able to draw a line when it comes to love. Every person needs and have the right to be loved. So we are facing a force of nature.
However, in some cases, such love may not be viewed as arising out of normal situation.
There are some cases where a victim of a crime may feel romantic attachment towards the criminal. For example I've heard of a situation where a victim of kidnapping feeling a love for the kidnapper. In such cases, there are various other factors to consider before determining whether the benefits enjoyed by the accused are justified by the law of free and mutual consent

[DizzyDesii]

Yea i didn't find out he was one til later in the relationship

[Tstrbrainer]

Well I don't know about him, but generally speaking, its good you are no longer with him

[Kurαȷ]

Criminal past, yes. But not present.
I've had criminal past too, so I don't judge people for what they might have done in their teenage years.

But if they are already out of high school and out there in real life, they should have their life in straight order, because I don't want to be implicated by their actions in current life.

[DizzyDesii]

We were only 14 at the time

[ComradeCarabao]

I'm an ex-convict, but I've cleaned up my act. While I was still "out there" on drugs, I ended up incarcerated a lot. There were a lot of women who wanted to be with me, and they would try to reforn me. In my opinion, that usually doesn't work out. I've always had a good heart, but for many years, I was a bad choice for any women. Everyone deserves a second chance, but THEY have to make an effort.

[DizzyDesii]

Well long as u worked on yourself

[ComradeCarabao]

Oh, I've really turned my life around; I work and live a simple life.

[Ihatesociety00]

"I'm an ex-convict"
Shit, I believe it. You look buff as hell.

[ComradeCarabao]

@Ihatesociety00 Thank you! 🙂

[R_ūshī]

it wasn't really love but at some point I had some feelings for that guy.

Now, when I think about him, I feel sad for him but then he liked being a bad person. The thing is we were only 14 and I wasn't paying that much attention to him. But when I look back and pay attention to what he was saying, he was a monster.

[DizzyDesii]

Same here. I was 14 too

[CHARismatic110]

Yeah my ex was into the streets. I hated that about him because he was smart as shit. He was a prime example of choosing to be a product of his environment. He stayed involved in some dumbass shit. He actually ended up leaving my city behind some criminal shit.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea its 10 years later and mine still doing the same thing in the same city

[hellacray]

That's messed up and you didn't turn him in?

I mean how old was this kid? And was he breaking and entering? Did he have a fire arm? Or was he just stealing packages?

Either way hopefully that ex of yours did a lot of time behind bars.

Anyways no why would I love a criminal? They can rot in jail.

[DizzyDesii]

We were both 14 when we started dating. I found out about his actions around 16 so i was already in love with him by time i found out. We broke up for other reasons though. I was young and too scared and in love to turn him in. He didn't go to jail til much older and it was just for driving drunk so he never spent more than a few nights in jail sadly

[EGarzona]

Depends on the crime obviously murder and violent crimes are out, robery is out for me too. Also, drug dealers are out. But like a financial criminal yeah i could maybe... to be honest with you though hun if he's telling you he won't rob you as long as you let him come over you need to get him to go away. he's already manipulating you also I would hide your valuable things after he break up in case he decides to rob you. If he breaks in to steal from you call the police they will aek

[glenns]

Bullshit! drug dealers are in! Drugs, guns, not stop partying, occasional police involvement, easy money, fast cars, hot sex..
No violence or dumb shit like armed robbery. All the fun without the scars from assaults or the psychopathy of the white-collar criminal. What's not to love?

[DizzyDesii]

I WAS 14 at the time lol. He was my first nf and i didn't know until later in the relationship. Im 25 now

[Billy96]

Yess.. me ex would steal money from her moms pocketbook after like a month we were going out she told me this. So at this point I was so into her, part of me didn't care.. love I mean lust is mad blind.. lolz 😹😂😹

[DizzyDesii]

Wooooow

[BitterSweetApplePie]

As terrible as it sounds, yes. He sold drugs and participated in breaking and entering, robbery.

I was attracted to the wrong type of bad boy during my teenage years. I thought he was hot.

[DizzyDesii]

Sounds like my ex except he wasn't that hot and i didn't know he did those things initially

[BitterSweetApplePie]

Eh, I was tangled up in the wrong crowd for a while.

Lessons learned, however. 😊

[jgokgotit]

I've never been in love with someone who I knew to be a criminal. However, I did love a girl who later became a criminal, but she was not one when I knew her until the very end.

[DizzyDesii]

He didn't admit to being a criminal til after many months of dating

[jgokgotit]

That sucks. I don't know what is worse, them being a criminal and not admitting it until way down the road or watching an innocent person you love turn down the wrong road and being powerless to stop them. The girl I mentioned was a close friend who I was attracted to and who has saved my life. She suffered some trauma, turned to drugs and resorted to crime to feed her habits. Before the drugs she was an awesome person.

[DizzyDesii]

SORry she took the wrong path

[jgokgotit]

Part of me still hopes to save her, but realistically I doubt I can, if she is even still alive.

[Lliam]

Does that include people who break/have broken the law by smoking weed or taking illegal drugs? It that's the case, my answer is yes. :-)

[DizzyDesii]

Yep!! My ex above did all that

[CupcakeKiller]

I haven't ever and I literally can't now. I could lose my law license voluntarily being that close to crime.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea i was a kid at the time but i wouldn't now

[CupcakeKiller]

Live and learn. No shame in that.

[Hans222]

Nope. I've known 1 former criminal who was my boss at my first job. He had been in prison for dealing.
But, when he was my boss he talked openly about it and had let that time far behind him.

[blkgold33]

Nope I don't got time to be dating no criminals. 😂 you where his safe place so he can just play xbox

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao

[DizzyDesii]

Leave me alone 😂

[blkgold33]

😂 I'll leave you alone if I can play my video game at your place

[virtue2332]

Give him the Xbox and tell him to kick rocks. It would be worth not having that person around anymore period.

[DizzyDesii]

I was 14 at the time. Im 25 now

[virtue2332]

Hope it worked out for you

[DizzyDesii]

Yea i dumped
Him