I think people aren't ready for relationships until its too late and they realized theyve taken it for granted. The lonely 39 year old Virgin with 3 cats, lives alone, discovered porn and vibrators for the first time, and realizes she rejects her faith.
The MGTOW man who always hated the mind games of women who suddenly realizes he wants to be a father, he desperately wants consistent pussy before he's too old to get it up, and he realizes the weirdness of women comes with the benefits of her womanhood.
The single 36 year old woman who had her fun, she realizes her biological clock is ticking and the super sweet and kind men she once new are now married and all thats left are horny rich men who can date sugar daughter instead of them.
Now at 32... I realize I want a 30 some year old woman who reeally wants to make it work.
I think some people get comfortable, take each other for granted and forget what they were missing before they went into a relationship. They start to see only the faults and think about what they might be missing out on a better life with someone else or single again. Eventually, those people just give up on trying, or caring and fall away. After it's over, those people have all the time they want to see the problems with their new situation and some begin to miss what they had when they had their previous relationship. Humans can be fickle: we want what we don't have.
Eh, I think it's mainly a trial and error situation. A lot of the world has been through some shit and not everyone is great at love just starting off. It takes some people more fuck ups than others. Every situation depends, but I can see why people would agree with this.
But I would say disagree, simply for the fact that I think a lot of people STILL aren't ready even when their partner has left. It really takes time be be ready depending on fucked up you are inside.
I dont think so because even if walking away makes then want you, it doesn't mean they are any more ready for a relationship
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Maybe Marriage but not just a relationship. This MIGHT be the MOST common way people end up married. I've seen it over and over. She gets around 30, the words "biological clock" makes its way into her vocabulary and the next thing you know she's issuing an ultimatum along the lines of "I need to think about the future", "where is this heading?" and "I can't waste time in a relationship that isn't headed towards marriage" and pretty much tells the guy give her a ring or she's walking. He declines and she dumps him. After a short time without sex (a few weeks, maybe months for the true holdouts) you suddenly find they are "back together" and she has a diamond on her hand.
I believe if someone has to wait until you are gone out of your life for them to realize that they love you that person does not truly love you they only love having access to you which you should cut immediately.
Only if they were trying to manipulate you. Just think, you were certainly not a priority for them, they were comfortable with keeping you around and not commiting. They didn't truly care about how you feel, but only about how they feel.
Sorta. to grow you must go through mistakes and pain first. Then you will be ready. But that don't mean you have to walk away heck you can do what i did throw myself into people been a clingy guy getting hurt 24/7 and now i have grown and think i am 100% ready. Cause i won't make them mistakes again.
So a relationship isn't working, and you threaten to leave. How is that going to make it a good relationship? Sounds like manipulation to me!
If things aren't working, you are with the wrong person. Manipulating by saying you are leaving is just proof that you have no idea what a good relationship is!!
well since you said they aren't ready I would assume they like you and when you walk away it gives the a a feelings that" damn this got serious guess I have no choice" and then they either find u or not
They may not be ready but that doesn't mean they can't learn along the way.
Common what broken logic is this?
What makes you think i will be more willing to commit if you walk away, than if we are in half assed relationships-ish.
In sociology it is called preference change. Usually people would always go for the low risk low reward, but when they realise others can take the high reward (and the high risk) they change their preferences. Walking away triggers this effect.
That depends on what you mean and want with a relationship. At the end of the day it boils down to what the two of you want and if that's the best for the both of you. Also I'd like to add that In order to be good at something, you have to have experience no matter what it is. So even if you aren't "ready" you can still stand to learn something out of giving it a shot. That's just my two cents though.
I feel like maturity in a relationship is sacrifice, when the other can see sacifice it's an attractive trait. I'd say it does not work every time but I can see why it does
I agree that some people THINK they are ready when faced with the loss, but they really aren't
Uh. No. Hard disagree on this. If you have to play games to get normal ass assurance, you're not in a good place.
I can see some truth to that. It has happened to me but when a person is at the point of walking away, they've generally exhausted their limits. So it's too late.
I fucked up big time with a girl a few years back because I wouldn’t entertain any sort of relationship... we went home from college for the summer and I tried to take her on a date but I was too late... now she is happy in a relationship for the for a while
Disagree...
In the relationship they are not even ready. So they rushed into another relationship when they still are not ready LOL people need to be happy with themselves and their own company before they can be in a healthy relationship.
For the most part I agree. It's like once you're gone they regret not giving it a shot.
It is not that they are not interested in a relationship, it is that the right phrases were not said by both parties to each other to get them to that point.
Unless the one walking away is the one not ready for a relationship. In which, they are doing the walking away with zero signs of changing their mind.
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