True or false: If your partner cheats and you choose to leave, then you didn’t fight hard enough for your relationship?

[Shuri]

Question is inspired by this tweet, but I changed it a bit so it’s not specific to a gender.

True

False

Somewhat true

Updates

+1 y

I find it interesting that as of 5/12, only 1 girl finds it somewhat true compared to 11 men 🤷🏾‍♀️.

[Apope16]

I chose false. But not necessarily because I think that when someone cheats they should be dumped. But because when someone cheats it is the cheater's job to fight hard for the relationship. But it is also the person's job to forgive if they truly feel they love that person. People are not perfect. Marriage and relationships are complicated. The reality is that in some cases you lose more by walking away from a person that cheated than re aligning what you have gained. This isn't some gameshow. This is the rest of your life. And you only live it once. Can you truly walk away from that person forever? Will you be okay with that at your death bed? I think that studies would show that people who have cancer and know they are going to die in a year or whatever can see what truly matters. Its beyond what logic and society say. LIke if you know you are dying there is a love and forgiveness beyond what you used to think you had. Because what really matters is the love that is there beyond the flaws. I think that if I had a wife and she came to me and said "ten years ago I cheated on you and fucked another guy" that's very different than "last night. I was hurt after our fight. And I had sex with an ex boyfriend". Like which is worse? Its tough.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

What person is worth fighting for?
1. who might be emotionally unavailable but takes care of you.
2. the person who is available emotionally but not capable to express it.
3. the person who is going to die due to some kinda disease.
4. the person who is depressed.
5. the person who has a bad past.
6. A person who was a drug addict alcholist and this is worst case scenario because there is hope.
7. A person who was in abusive relationship in past i beleive they are worth fighting sometimes those people take bad descissions due to past experience which we can understand and fight for it.

But a person who cheats asks to be fight for? What? To get emotional trauma no thanks i will free you by all means do what you wish just never comed infront of me again is my response..

[Mellifluous_]

False. I mean, unless him cheating was a matter of life or death (that's very unlikely to be the case), I don't see why you should fight for anything involving him. How does it make sense to fight for a relationship where your partner doesn't respect you? That's insane and pathetic.

[Natattack21]

they decide to cheat, thats on them. they knew that they could come to you with whatever they are going through - but instead go into the arms of another person? NAH.

[Flower7]

The person who cheated is the one who didn't fight hard enough to work things out in the relationship. They should have let their partner know what they weren't happy with instead of turning to an outsider. It's very foolish for someone to stay in a relationship in which they have been cheated on and/or abused.

[Cherokeehp]

Whoever wrote that tweet is a dumb ass. Abuse is not love. Cheating is not love. A relationship is only worth fighting for if both parties are willing to fight. If one person is fighting and the other person is abusing and cheating then you both just look like fucking clowns.

[VIVANT]

“Every man is going to abuse you you just have to fight hard for it to work” said every psychopath ever. 🤨

[KingdomForAKiss]

Right on, miss!

[Unit1]

And did no normal man ever 😀😀😀

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Wow the Fire in those sentence burning flames🔥
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[Ellie-V]

Love is respect and care. Putting in the necessary hard work to properly love another person is not the same as putting yourself through torturous slave labor.
Sacrifice does not equate to suicide.
So you can miss me with that bullshit 😂
I have boundaries, and I will not kill myself trying to make a relationship work when I’m the one who got betrayed.
And I don’t really respect or appreciate other people who choose to do so.

[David92506]

I used to see a therapist and I asked her about people who cheat. She claimed, in her experience, if the person only cheats one time, there is hope for the relationship. However, if that person cheats multiple times, especially with different men/women, then there is no hope for the relationship.

I don't know if she is right or not. But I wouldn't continue in a relationship where she cheats.

[Chriscunning]

It sounds like a very selfish opinion. What he is saying is that "men cheat" and besides it being wrong and men hurting woman, woman should "apologize and beg them to say". That makes little sense. It's like me walking up to a stranger and punching them in the face and expecting them to around and say "Oh, I am sorry, I didn't mean to cause you emotional distress that would make you hit me".

[BitterSweetApplePie]

A relationship where someone isn't able to remain faithful to their partner isn't worth fighting for if you ask me. I'd be unhappy staying in a relationship with someone who didn't value me enough to stay faithful. Cheating really isn't part of the ups and downs of a relationship. Couples argue and have disagreements, those are ups and downs to me.

[BitterSweetApplePie]

This just sounds like something a cheater would say when they got dumped for their actions lmfao.

[meesegoMoo]

Notice the tweet was about women and written by a man. Not hard to piece together who he is.

[BitterSweetApplePie]

@meesegoMoo oof! Didn't even notice.

[CarpetDenim]

Is this fucking idiot actually trying to shame women who walk away from toxic and potentially violently abusive relationships as if a scumbag who cheats on her or physically assaults her is worth a second chance?

[VIVANT]

I believe that is precisely the case 👍🏻

[Unit1]

This guy wants his wife staying faithful to him while he's out cheating with lots of mistresses. Don't tolerate it unless you are into open relationships or cuckoldry. That's the dumbest shit I've read in a while.

"all men hurt" my ass (no pun intended). I barely hurt men or women myself.

[chriscdi]

fuck that damn relationship, someone that doesn't have loyalty for your relationship doesn't deserve a fight for the relationship you gotta have balls of steel to cheat and then tell your partner that they aren't fighting for the relationship

[Elsa143]

Whoever tweeted that is a snob himself, he is clearly being defensive about his flaws and is BLAMING it on EVERY MAN in this earth so that you females will settle and can be used as a doormat.
A MAN NEVER CHEATS IF HE LOVES YOU.
Why that tweet is ONLY POINTING TOWARDS FEMALES and if we are not fighting enough for the relationship, So is HE FIGHTING BY SIMPLY CHEATING? He should be the one to remain single forever. That coward ass loves to cheat but HATES being dumped.

[Boring_Joe]

False.
You have no obligation to fight. And no reason to fight to keep someone who hurt you.
I honestly worry that people that fight to keep a cheating spouse are actually showing weakness, not strength, because they'd rather keep someone who hurt them then risk being alone or finding someone new.

Cheating is never acceptable. Not by anyone. Not for any reason. If you are cheated on, and so you leave, you are not weak.

[Dchrls78104]

Not true. If someone cheats, that person has violated the love and disrespected both the SO and the relationship. Staying in such a relationship might be tantamount to enabling. Best to get out early and alive, with dignity and sanity, or what's left of either, intact.

[AzureGirl]

False, at that point there’s no relationship. The cheater threw that away with their choice to not be faithful.

[divzmaniax]

You should consider that obvious and it was gonna happen someday soon. If both of them were serious about each other and had love between them then none of them would have thought of cheating on someone. Even if you tried hard it's gonna never be the same. Yeah, but you should know why they did that.

[Liam_Hayden]

What a crock of sh*t. If your partner cheats on you, that is SOLELY a reflection upon that person's character. The wisest thing to do is dump the person and find one who is loyal.

[120120]

What if u were just horny and did a mistake without any feelings for the other person who u cheated with.

[meesegoMoo]

@120120 So you think a person with no self control is a person with staying with? That's your defense?

[120120]

@meesegoMoo I think forgiveness is always an option.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

@120120 so does cheating its also a choice isn't it so?

[120120]

@Aakash_Hangargi Dude we are humans we do mistakes, if the person said I’m sorry if u can’t forgive her how can u love her.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

@120120 if she loved me why did she cheat then? The logic your using is quite one sided

[Aakash_Hangargi]

@120120 cheat can never be a mistake it's a choice but you are able to forgive that I appreciate it 👍

[Hazelstar]

There is a thing called boundary. I made it clear in my past relationship that if cheating happens I'm in no way continuing relationship. I would leave and I did it. When you get cheated on you tend to question your value , your partner words for you and your bonding ability. I don't want to hurt myself for someone's inability to be loyal. I can't torture myself watching my partner cheating on me. I am his partner not his possession.

[MannMitAntworten]

Whereas I agree that women tend not to fight for their relationships - particularly from the relationship which treats them particularly good - I disagree that women should fight for one who is disloyal. Nor should men. Disloyalty is not merely a part of a relationship “down”, it’s a hardline ender. Cheaters will do it again.

[MysteriousDarkness]

@Shuri
Boundaries are set early on in the relationship or even before it. Abuse if any kind is one of the things that should never be accepted. Cheating and abuse are not normal ups and downs of a relations. That is what a person who is about themself and about controling another person does. Why should I fight to be with soneone who went beyond the boundaries? They should be the one to fight to be able to stay with me. I won't vecwith them whether they fight for me to stay ir don't.

[Ámayas_20]

If anyone EVER cheats on you or hits you, you leave immediately. These are not part of the ups and downs in any healthy relationship.