Can pranotherapy help with the relationship?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

She got me an appointment for today. I barely know what that it and I'm looking it up, if any of you knows that what exactly is it'd be greatly appreciated!

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+1 y

It wasn't bad, it was really relaxing but apparently "my heart is not in the right place", in a spiritual sense.

[Levin]

I'd say enforcing some boundaries would help better. ie not doing shit you don't believe in in a relationship.

If you want an actual answer on whether these alternative therapies can help. Well, I can't comment on this particular one. I believe they may provide some to a *lot* of therapeutic benefit, but *not* in the context of the Western paradigm which is based on treating symptoms to problems rather than the root of them. And it is based on focusing on discrete problems in isolation to everything else that is happening in your life (reductionism). The goal for said treatment is vague so in that sense it'll be no better than getting something like a massage. It might make you feel better for an hour or a day or so, but it's like trying to dam a river with a twig. The current is going in one particular direction, is strong, and that is not being dealt with.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Everything you wrote is correct, but at this point I'm not questioning what she proposes and I think it would be beneficial for my nerves, and if I'm feeling better it could be helpful for the relationship, if just a little.

[Levin]

It sounds like it's causing you a lot of strife.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

It's more like that it's either this or a TSO

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I just realized that TSO has a different meaning in English - in my language it stands for "obligatory sanitary treatment".

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

Never heard of it, but i think in the end, only you can know what works for you. I'm not sure there's anything "wrong" with you, sounds like your partner projects the idea onto you as being this "broken" guy that only she knows how to "fix". From your many other posts this seems like another case of her being controlling, because if she's the only one who "knows best for you", then by definition you could never leave her.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

At this point I agree with you.
It's not nice to blame others, but I do think that my issues got somewhat worse with her. I didn't tell her, but when she says ''You are just right for me'' I feel like anwering ''Because you made me sh*t to other women''.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

Hmm... Sounds like a very one sided relationship. In a healthy relationship both partners make each other feel better than they were without. If your mental health is only getting worse because of her influence, then that should be a serious red flag to consider.

[kaylaS91]

Umm.. it’s a pseudoscience that believes ‘healers’ can channel certain energies into you (the patient) and ‘heal’ them.

Honestly, sounds like a scam (hence the pseudo) and a way for your fiancée to shift the blame entirely onto you. Correct me if I’m wrong but all disagreements will have more than one person at fault or contributing to it. I think if your fiancée was serious about you two resolving this and genuinely believed this scam could help, the least she could do was be present and participate in the healing session.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

She says I'm the one who needs it because I'm the one who's unbalanced physically and spiritually. I don't question her anymore because it's either this or other kind of treatments.

[kaylaS91]

mhm.
I'm somehow not really surprised to hear that this 'relationship' is entirely dictated by her and what she decides is right or wrong. Since I started reading your questions/comments regarding your fiancée, the power-balance between you two seemed almost entirely in her favour where she acts more like your boss than your partner.

But um... I don't think pranotherapy will actually help. My guess is that it might 'work' short-term, because you'll want to keep your fiancée happy so you'll go through the motions. In reality, though, it sounds about as legit as mood-rings. So not at all.

You guys should go see a relationship that you both find and agree on together. Then BOTH of you go to the sessions to figure out what's causing you to be on different pages from each other.

[Levin]

I agree with this. The power balance and dynamics in your relationships seem wrong. You're totally and dangerously passive. And this is the consequence. You're attracting people who have a screw loose, with the greatest respect. I'm just trying to be honest with you, though it might not be what you want to hear.

To me you need to investigate the reasons for this on a much deeper level and get to the root of it. It sounds like it may have its origins in your relationships to your parents growing up. Obviously I can only speculate since I don't know you.

There's no reason to castrate yourself for women. Women are fully of shit, too. No one knows what is better for you than yourself.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

@Levin I never had a great relationship with my parents since they both left early on, but I had some ugly encounters with my mom that I remember well.

At this point I do have to follow my fiancée's directives a bit for my nervous condition because it's either this or a call to get me a TSO.
Since we are living together she's legally entitled to do even if we aren't married.

[kaylaS91]

'At this point I do have to follow my fiancée's directives a bit for my nervous condition because it's either this or a call to get me a TSO.'

.. classic case of co-dependency.😢 I'd honestly suggest to your fiancee under the guise that you'd like to see a therapist for your 'imbalance' when really, you should show the therapist your posts here and voice your concerns about how your fiancee is being manipulative and exploiting you due to your mental health. Then I'd definitely see a lawyer and look into legal means in terms of how you can secure your income so you can hopefully have a way to live separately in the future, and gain some autonomy over your life.

[rose004b]

Try it and see how you feel. From what I understand, it's about distributing energy in your body evenly to correct imbalances. I have friends who learned Reiki to "treat" their loved ones after traditional medicine failed them.

[Unit1]

Oh man, is that some of these moneygrabbing extrasense vital energy nonsense therapy? She must have wasted money or she's crazy or maybe both. Next thing you know she'll give you a dreamcatcher too and puts crystal healing stones in both of your drinks 🤦‍♀️ somebody have mercy upon you if that is the case.
You're much better off just getting a classic/erotic massage.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I'm a bit baffled because she's a nurse and yet traditional therapy is a no go for her, but this kind of thing is fine... I'm just going along because I don't want to argue anymore and if it helps even a little

[Unit1]

I see what you mean. Yeah, arguing with women like that gets as tiresome as preparing for the final exams. At least they'll "shut up" afterwards, right? 😂😂😂

Going against the primary medicine is the first step into the wrong direction. I know it.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I'm already used to her pseudo-magic beliefs, I know

[Unit1]

Man, you're getting crazy from it, aren't ya?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

A bit of that.
I understand she wants to help, but I'm never sure if it'll do good or make things worse

[Unit1]

I wouldn't expect anything to change. That is until you address the root causes of the problems.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Most of it it's my fault for not speaking up

[Unit1]

Well, at least you see your own shortcomings. That's a good thing.

[Shamalien]

Prana is a hindu term for a type of energy which courses through all living things. There are two main types of energy in hindu philosophy, prana and kundalini. Prana can be controlled, kundalini is far more primal, and wild, it can kind of he directed but not controlled and it would be more risky to have a practitioner work with it

[Poppykate]

‘Problems’ in a relationship are very rarely the fault of one person. I think that she knows this! A therapist would highlight areas in your relationship that you both need to work on. If your partner is wanting to really work on your relationship, I think she would have chosen a form of therapy that has been proven to work!

[msc545]

If one has too much money, it's a very good way to spend a lot of it.

[sensible27]

I am not sure what that is...

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

If I understood well it's therapy about energies, massages, etc.

[ucanthandlthetruth]

As soon as you figure it out jean, please let me know?

[DamnSam]

isn't that pranic healing?

[not329446]

Holistic approach to treat tension

[Iron_Man]

That looks like some type of massage therapy