My girlfriend doesn't like my mates girlfriend. What should I do about the tension between the both of them?

[Anonymous]

Hey. So my girlfriend doesn't like my friends girlfriend, they were pals at first. Like used to take my girlfriend to my friends place to hangout, but in January somethings were said (particularly from my friends girlfriend) to my girlfriends cousin (in which her cousin told my girlfriend and my girlfriend told me). My friends girlfriend said that i was abusive to my girlfriend, i swear at my girlfriend, she cooks for me, cleans for me and does a lot of things for me. It was said horrible what they said about us

my friends girlfriend has posted a photo of her youngest child on my Facebook wall and said i was its dad (im not) it did tick something off in my girlfriend (in which my girlfriend told me she dated a dude with baggage and it wasn’t great and she can't have kids). But my mates girlfriend has a bad habit of saying to me (while my girlfriend is around) “come and see your kids” (they aren't mine, they are my mates). I know my girlfriend deals with it by herself and doesn't tell me, she's always been like that though. I've upset her, but she doesn't talk about it, just deals with it on the inside.

My friends girlfriend and cousin did blame my girlfriend for saying horrible things about them, but I discovered it wasn't her. It was them bitching about me, my friend and my girlfriend (my girlfriend stood up for me and my mate) My girlfriend did confess to thinking my friends use me (which sounds fair from her point, as they only message me when they are short on Alcohol and cigarettes) and she doesn't like my friends girlfriend. My girlfriend will say “hi” to my mate, but his girlfriend she won't, if i do. My girlfriend walks past her like she doesn't exist, even if the girl is with her family. She walks past them all and ignores them, i have only brought it up to her a few times and i got the same response “i will say hi to your friend, but i hate her and her family, one day you’ll understand why. They are up themselves and trouble makers”. But what should i do?

[AviatorTom]

Do absolutely nothing. Anything you might consider will only make things worse. It's their issue, and they will resolve it... or not.

[Bangalaraja]

just ignore others and listen to ur girlfriend... you will live happily...

[AmourHoney]

She sounds toxic, I honestly would cut her out of my life if it were me.

[Asker]

My girlfriend or my friends girlfriend? My friends girlfriend has called my girlfriend a “hoe”, all because we started dating. I don’t abuse my girlfriend and she's never told anyone or made up rumours about me abusing her. My girlfriend is a total goofball, jokes and laughs. But shed never make up accusations about me, my girlfriend and i live together and its just a happy environment when she's around. I haven't visited my friend and his girlfriend for at least 2 months, but I've gone back hanging out with them. Cause they are the only mates i have where i live

[AmourHoney]

Your friends girlfriend

[Asker]

I was thinking about it, but im good friends with my friend and consider their kids as both my own and uncle them. I did confess to my girlfriend one night (mind, i was very drunk) that if my friend went back to his parents (they live in another state) and broke up with his girlfriend and left her with the kids. I would father them all, my girlfriend did say to me “if that does come, i will be dumping you and you can live with her and her kids. Im sorry, but i can't be in a relationship like that. Where youd rather father someone’s baggage, then build a future with someone. Like its not right and i tried it with my ex and it didn't work, he had baggage to someone else and they sometimes, not always, but sometimes use the kids as a excuse not to do things with you. She will treat you like her boyfriend and its pretty sad, youd rather ditch a happy relationship, to be in a miserable looking hole. Their relationship shares, but if it did happen and you became miserable and wanted me back, i would have to say sorry. If you make your bed that way, you lay in it” it was very serious, i did stop talking to them for 2 months, but its just my friend and the kids i couldnt cut off. My girlfriend wanted me to, when the girl kept starting shit for us, but i was soon to discover that the girl is jealous of the relationship my girlfriend and i have. We have only had 1 fight since being together (which was mentioned above, yes i did send my girlfriend horrible messages about what the girl and the cousin did. Which my girlfriend cried over it and we didn't speak to each other for about 4 days), but otherwise we are happy, we go to places, game shopping together, go to fun places. I've been around my friends when they fight and i can say that mine and my girlfriends relationship is not like that.

[AmourHoney]

I agree with your girlfriend, if you fathered her kids she would use that to her advantage. Especially if she is jealous of your relationship. It genuinely sounds like her intentions are to get in between you and your girlfriend.

[Asker]

I did go to my friends one time and came home to tell my girlfriend, how the girl wears the pants in their relationship and she just had a blank expression on her face and didn't say anything. My girlfriend has never liked the girl nor a few of her family members (including the girls younger sister and her parents), the girls dad said i should of left my girlfriend and dated my friends girlfriend instead (yes i did brag about that to my girlfriend and i could tell it annoyed her in some way) that im very handy and my girlfriend is a freak. I did have a thing for the girls younger sister, but she was trouble and a user. Im starting to think that maybe my girlfriend is right about them being trouble, my girlfriend isn't a drama maker or trouble maker by nature. she's just the kinda person to keep to herself, doesn't really worry about much or goes out of her way to cause problems for others. But she will definitely tell a person when she doesn't like them or can pick out rotten people, based on people she's cut out of her life in the past. Even she said they were trouble and users, but the thought of cutting my mate and kids out of my life does upset me. My girlfriend thinks its for the best, but its something i got to really decide on, she's told me she doesn't like her and i can't make them be friends

[AmourHoney]

I’m not surprised your girlfriend doesn’t like her

[soe11]

• Keep listening both of them.
• Do noth share their words on another.
• Make them both happy.
• My case never had a problem.
• We share bed together my girlfriend and my colleague female friends.
• We go vacation together.
• Threesome together too.