My girlfriend likes to express herself a lot about her day at school, which is normal. What bothers me is the way she goes along to tell me.
She may say that a girl annoyed her and then proceed to say "that fucking bitch deserved to get punch and her ponytail pulled" (This is one of the many examples)
To give you a bit of insight into me, I'm a very PG person. I don't tend to swear and give people the benefit of the doubt. And even when someone tends to annoy me, I try to find a more rational solution.
So you may see why this could be conflicting a little bit. I've expressed to her that it doesn't make me feel comfortable the you way you describe these stories to me. I understand she wants to vent, but it makes me feel so guilty because if I agree on the way she goes along with describing these situations, it makes me feel horrible as well. (Really uncomfortable to the point where I judge her morals. She once said she would punch a child because it annoyed her. Not that she would of course, but even imaginarily saying that still makes me feel uneasy)
In her view though, it seems as though I never take her side and I completely understand where she's coming from. I let her know I want to take her side, but its hard when the things she says to others/describe to me makes her seems more aggressive then they ever were. I want to find a compromise or a solution, but don't know how. What should I do?
She may say that a girl annoyed her and then proceed to say "that fucking bitch deserved to get punch and her ponytail pulled" (This is one of the many examples)
To give you a bit of insight into me, I'm a very PG person. I don't tend to swear and give people the benefit of the doubt. And even when someone tends to annoy me, I try to find a more rational solution.
So you may see why this could be conflicting a little bit. I've expressed to her that it doesn't make me feel comfortable the you way you describe these stories to me. I understand she wants to vent, but it makes me feel so guilty because if I agree on the way she goes along with describing these situations, it makes me feel horrible as well. (Really uncomfortable to the point where I judge her morals. She once said she would punch a child because it annoyed her. Not that she would of course, but even imaginarily saying that still makes me feel uneasy)
In her view though, it seems as though I never take her side and I completely understand where she's coming from. I let her know I want to take her side, but its hard when the things she says to others/describe to me makes her seems more aggressive then they ever were. I want to find a compromise or a solution, but don't know how. What should I do?
