My girlfriend is upset she likes me more than I like her?

[Anonymous]

I met my girlfriend (F23) off a dating app for 5 month now. She is kind, sweet, cute and really caring towards me (M25). I like her but I think she loves me. For example she wrote me a long card saying how much I mean to her, planning what to buy for my birthday, comforting me when I am upset and remembering little things about me. She initiates hugs and kisses as well. She got a bit upset today cause I don't have the same feelings as her yet. She organise most of our date plans. She plans for the future whereas I do not. After we became official I still used Tinder and had my account as active and checked it sometimes but didn't go out with anyone. She was really upset over it and I deleted it. Today I told her she likes me more than I like her and she got a bit upset and teary. I also let her know I can't guarantee we can be together forever since something could happen in the future. She said she is scared to be hurt in the future. I like her and this is my first relationship. I think she loves me but I don't feel the same.

[btbc92]

Then why are you dating her? You are not being a good lover nor a partner. She can't force you to love her but relationships are about sacrifice and mutual desires. You don't need the same thing so you shouldn't be dating her. You two aren't compatible. But something is holding you back from stability and intimacy from past hurts, lack of loving parents, or abuse somewhere. Maybe something is wrong that needs a professional psychologist. It's not to hurt you, but your not healthy is this is how you are treating your first girlfriend. I am not judging or blaming you or her. It's just best, to be honest and tell her it has to end. Not because she is at fault. But because your not good for her and everything you are doing is obviously hurting her. Until your stable minded and ready for a mature relationship you can't afford to hurt her anymore as your hurting yourself. You're not ready. And she has to respect that. Overall, I think you two are moving way too fast anyway.