I recently started a new job and work for my male boss who is renowned for being quite fiery, passionate about his work and speaking his mind. Although I was not attracted to him at all, I have over the last few weeks become drawn to him, mainly because his strong personality, confidence and charisma in how he manages people seems to have had a real influence on me.
What I am confused about is that a few of us went for a couple of drinks after work to welcome me to the team and my boss seemed happy enough, although I felt a bit of an odd one out going with a group of men. I stayed for a couple of drinks and remained professional throughout. At the end my boss picked up my tab when I went to pay (although he didn't pay for anyone elses) and casually asked me what I was doing the rest of the weekend, just being friendly I guess. Anyway, on the Monday morning I came into work and he completely changed, was in a foul mood which no-one could understand and practically ignored me all day! Since then, sometimes when he comes over to my desk to show me something or to talk to me, he will move in so close that he is literally inches from me if he is showing me something on the computer, or brushes his hand against mine. He's been fine with me, nice and chatty but I noticed when I talk to my other male colleagues, he tends to appear and joins in the conversation or interrupts out of nowhere.
The other day, he was having a conversation with his girlfriend on the phone but seemed to be talking so loud on the phone in his office that I could hear everything he said, and even came out of his office at one point to continue his conversation with her. I thought that it was strange that he was being so vocal and loud when he was having a private conversation. Another time, a male colleague was really rude towards me and raised his voice when I asked him about some work which shook me up but later apologized. When I told my boss about it, he looked really upset by it and took it upon himself to reprimand him even though I asked him not to, that he had apologized. I didn't understand why he still felt he had to say something and at the end of the day, my boss offered me a lift to the train station where I catch my train, which I accepted. He didn't have to as it was out of his way but maybe he felt sorry for me for what happened.
Lastly, I went out for a night out with a few of the women from work at the weekend for one of their birthdays and on the Monday, when I was on my own in his office, he asked me how my night was with them and seemed very interested in what we got up to. I'm starting to feel like I am developing feelings for him (I don't know why as he is not my 'type').
My question is, as my boss's behavior seems a bit odd at times, the invading of my personal space, the interest in other men talking to me and his weird mood swings. He also plays these little power games whereby he'll schedule a meeting with me then at the last minute rearrange
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