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1) Yes I would date, fuck, marry or be in a relationship with someone that had stretchmarks
2) I've been in relationships with many women that have had stretch marks and it was never a determining factor when it came to deciding how I would treat them or if the relationship should end or not.
3) It bothers me a little. I'd be lying if I said it didn't. Most of the time though I just don't care about the appearance of stretch marks and I usually can't see them unless I go looking for them on purpose (which I never do)
4) Stretch marks don't come from your genes. It happens when the skin is stretched faster than the skin cells can heal which causes a separation that eventually get's healed over. That comes from one of a few things:
- Rapid weight gain. This is preventable.
- Pregnancy. Not preventable but there are plenty of remedies and skin care regiments that women can go through to reduce the appearance and a few to prevent them. Suffice it to say it's not something you should hold against them. Just be prepared and know it's coming if you plan on having children. You'll get over it and won't care.
- Extremely rare cases where the bones grow faster than the skin does. Again this is an extremely rare case and the chances of you coming across someone that went through this is slim to none.
5) If she had them filtered out in her pictures then yes it would prevent me from pursuing any type of relationship with them. Be real with yourself, accept what's happened in your life, learn from the experience to make better choices and move on. Furthermore you don't really need to be taking pictures of parts of your body that would possibly have stretch marks. There really isn't any good reason to do this. The negative results alone outweigh the positives.
Like I said: let's be real. Yes they exist, but let's not pretend that it's just something that randomly happens out of nowhere. A person that believes that is only lying to themselves. I'd have deep respect for someone that said "Yeah I got them because I made some bad choices in my diet when I was younger. It was a hard lesson but now I take care of my body." or "Yeah I had a kid. I tried looking into it but the doctor said it was normal for pregnant women to get stretch marks, and made some recommendations". But I would have zero respect for someone that makes excuses for their choices in life: "Real women have stretch marks".
So the real answer is the same way most people should treat life: it depends on the situation. Evaluate the persons values and go from there.
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It's too much of an influence and something culture especially western culture puts emphasis on. Having beautiful skin in order to be beautiful. I believe this will all boil down to is this man or woman willing to look past imperfections in order to have someone that they connect with on a deeper level. If that's even what they are looking for. I met my fiance and mother of my child and I did ghost her simply because of the stretch Mark's. It was shocking and my reaction to it was embarrassing I was so ashamed that I ghosted and it wasn't till fate re introduced us that I began to overlook and give the person for who they are the love they deserved. I feel as though if you are with someone who you love and you have a kid with them, then the stretch Mark's become an issue that's disrespectful and shameful. Especially after you sacrificed your body for Both of you to have a product of your love (a child) before hand is a little different and may show you their heart and true colors. Though as I said before I was shocked and grossed out and at the time was only looking for well to be Frank I only wanted sex with a beautiful woman. Uuf I know. I was shallow and i did however say so in the beginning of meeting. However i am a man of many colors including empathy hope and i however am able to look past these Mark's that weren't from us having a kid together but rather her ex husband and hers however I love these children as if they were my own and in fact we have just recently brought a new life into the world one that these stretch Mark's are no longer an issue for me. My suggestion is to bring it up prior to sex and or foreplay and mention how they make you feel as well look into the different creams and treatments if you can afford them because it is always best to be proud of who you are. I hope this helps and also in deciphering if they only want sex or possibly a life together.
Most females have stretch marks.
You get stretch marks because your skin stretches.
Girls go to puberty and most of them will get bigger hips, bigger thighs, bigger butts and they get boobs. Alle those things make the skin stretch.
I went from nothing to a curvy queen in a blink, it happend so fast, my skin really didn't like that.
And after pregnancy the skin of the belly will be stretched what also causes stretch marks.
Stretch marks? Just stretch marks? Are people really that shallow nowadays? People need people. They need a connection with someone. They need touch. They need intimacy. If you’re alive, clean, and make the effort to be as healthy and attractive as you can with what you have physically and personality wise, normal body flaws are insignificant.
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If I refuse to date a woman because she has flaws, I'll never have another date. And if women have that attitude of wanting a flawless guy, none of them will ever date me.
One of the things that happens with maturity in dating is realizing and accepting that your partner will have flaws. Maybe she has spells of depression, spends too much money on shoes, is sometimes unkind in the midst of PMS, doesn't care about current events, doesn't like the music I like, etc. Anyone I date - if I spend enough time to get to know them - will reveal flaws and weaknesses. Love means loving people despite their flaws, not because you think they are perfect.
And, hopefully, she will feel the same way about me. Most wouldn't be a problem, if they were extreme that might be an issue but at the same time they fade with time. For the above ones only the first one (which I'm fairly certain was due to a pregnancy i. e. perfectly understandable) and the breast one where she clearly just a got breast augmentation surgery, bother me and even then its not that big of a deal. The other ones I have no problem with and I kind of like the light ones on the second pick for some reason (tiger stripes). So no, not really an issue.
yeah and have done a few times before... stretch marks dont define a woman or anyone of who they are exactly they are merely a result of things like for example baring children or being a little bigger or you can have them if you have trained aggressively etc
Yes sure I marry her because in a marriage relationship not only skin or physical appearance matter, if both partners understand each other and love deeply from heart ♥ no physical appearance matter in true love 😍..
Hell yeah😍 its never something that would stop me from dating her, as a matter of fact i would kiss every spot she feels insecure about
I chose her for her, and not for her perfection but for her perfections and imperfections as wellYeah I don’t care and most mature people wouldn’t either. A comedian said it the best “either you were big and got small or were small and got big, either way we are still fucking”
What? That is like saying "Would girls marry a guy with scars" It is absurd! Of course we would marry a chick with stretch marks... Tats are way uglier! And girls cover their body with them... that is a deal breaker for me!
I have them, so why should I care if she does. However, if they were from fake breast, I already wouldn't seek that. I have acne scars on my chest as well, I'm working to reverse them. If she had just stretch marks, then I wouldn't mind reduction, but it would be stupid to reject over them. I grew really quick, so I have them on my shoulders, arms, and waist.
This question has been asked thousands of times on this site, a simple search will get you answers. Short and simple answer is that men simply do not care, because most women have them, it's part of growing up.. Smh..
Yeah, I wouldn't. I'm not going to let something like stretch marks be the determine factor of me wanting to be with a woman or not.
not my first choice... not sure why I find women who never got pregnant previously more attractive... but, that a minor thing, so I can be convinced to sway.
My first wife had some and my second wife does. I only thought/think about it if they brought/bring it up.
Yeah, that's fine.. There is not a problem with stretch marks.. I actually find them kina sexy in some spots.. Lol..
I accept and appreciate how women's bodies look in the real, non-photoshopped world. Stretch marks are normal and very common and aren't an issue for me at all.
If a person can't look past a small physical thing like that, they're not worth being with in any way.
I've said this before.
Tigers have stripes. Does that make them look bad? No, tigers look awesome.
Body shape matters. Stretch marks don't.Stretch marks are normal, and while I wouldn't say they're beautiful in their own right, they're a part of you- and you're beautiful.
Few things bother me physically but stretch marks are one of these few things unfortunately. I'm sorry, I don't want to be mean, but they look way too off for me, especially when they borderline look like crevices or like a skin disease.
To be honest, a lot of men won’t even notice them.
I personally don’t have an issue with. That’s life.Sure as long as they dont care about mine, make fun of mine I'll make fun of yours
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