Firstly I would like to point out that I have Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD). I get very fixated over my appearance. Ok so, I have some small-ish stretch marks on both my hips from my hips widening too fast, and a few small stretch marks in my inner thighs (photos below). It makes me extremley insecure & all I think of all day everyday is "How can I get rid of these stupid stretch marks", and "What if a guy sees them and thinks they're gross?" My whole family is worried because I am going ballistic over this ): I wish i could accept my stretch marks but I can't. However, everyone says I have the figure of a model (slim hourglass shape), and everyone says I have a beautiful face, apparently because i'm a Russian and Korean mix (I really don't think I am beautiful). But now that I have stretch marks, I feel on the edge. Like how could I get any worse... I think everyone is going to harcore judge me once i'm in a swimsuit at the beach or something :/ My mother said that she has bad skin elasticity too, so my stretch marks are probably linked to this unfortunate gene. This means that no creams or remedies will prevent more stretch marks or make them disappear because it's inherited :C Here are photos of the internet, they look almost identical to my stretch marks. (looks very similar this on each hip),
(looks very similar to this on each inner thigh except my skins much more tanned) Please give your honest opinion. If you saw somebody who had a nice figure and face with these stretch marks, what would you think?
What do guys think of small stretch marks on the hips and thighs?
And FACE with these stretch marks? That maybe she's the one, and how did the last guy let this talent get away? Delightful, I really treasure moments like this. The pen is mightier than the sword? No... the penis mightier than AND DONT THINK I won't POINT OUT I HAVE DYSLEXIA, so there, we are equals. Body dysmorphic disorder? Oh, that coping mechanism developed by the soccer mom who said, "lets give the losers trophies too" and then a doctor also wants his trophy says restless leg syndrome: look I can't stand still, totally restless, 8 years of college means you have to believe me, no doctor can be wrong, lets all go to college to be doctors, like they do in cuba, then everyone can be right. where is the line drawn? the line between girls always having low self esteem, breast implants, and MENTAL ILLNESS? why can't I sue the tattoo artist for fading? cause its my skin and retaining a lawyer hasn't included any dialogue I have ever heard whether they feel a deep inner struggle for the teenage girl who doesn't feel pretty today, and besides, I can't sue you to make you believe life isn't fair, if i had a doctor offer eyewitness testimony, a cat scan of the adolescent female brain that shows beyond a shadow of a doubt some neurons on strike in your frontal cortex, you mean I can get a 2nd opinion? And keep looking for the doctor that identifies headupyourassitis, but drug companies won't churn butter, and my ahmish doctor butters you up and yanks your head out of your ass in the maternity room, it won't mean you are born again, but go ahead and look for the virgin mary's stretchmarks... ooooooohhh, purple cush, breathe in, now im medicated, so uh... you tried butter on those skin features you dont like, make them look AND TASTE butter, i am smoking butter medicine than you, hootie hoo, take a rip of bubbling dis more if i order more der err sin dumbed
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Honestly, this made me laugh because you spent all that time to write that lol
thank you, sounds like you are normal, some people have the hardest time admitting how funny the crap i dream up is, and it scares me, everytime i do this, usually to make me laugh first, but when others are smart enough to know its too dumb, therefore not real, it warms my heart. But elements are true, the sooner you accept your birthmark, whatever... you may not even remain aware of some lesssor flaws, my exgf had to point out to me her flaws, cause i had no idea, she had a carnival mirror too, body dys/how the hell you see that disorder, it really can make those around you think you're nutz
of course, i forgot, laughter is the best medicine, and that cuba thing is true, i like mixing fact with my fiction, cuba has more doctors than you would believe
These are quite normal, you will find these on most people on some part of their body! I hope this helps a bit but i know it probably won't because your worry is so deep rooted! You can try bio-oil it reduces the appearance of scars and strech marks and makes them even harder to see.
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I've already tried bio oil, guess it doesn't work for me.. everyone's different. But thanks for trying to help c:
Freckles are cute but what i mean is a lot of people have freckles.. on their arms or face and nobody really notices them! unless you have like millions on your face haha!! but yeah people won't even notice those marks you are so worried about
Hm, well i've noticed stretch marks on others. Probably because i'm so fixated over them.. I've never noticed stretch marks on other peoples bodies until I got so worried over mine!
I don't think your mom's genes has anything to so with it. Even if it doesn't seem like it, after reaching puberty, most people have them. It's what it is.
I understand being fixated on these things at around your age. I was too very worried no one would love me due to stretch marks on my boobs and that anyone would be grossed out by it - and many other body issues. Well, not so. A person with a good heart that really likes you will accept you for who you are and be happy just to be with you. It's true. It may take some time, but your job is to weed out the people who don't really like you for you and would make such ridiculous demands without a thought about your comfort and well being. When you think about it, these little flaws are actually a great weapon in weeding out people who don't really like you and would only take advantage of all the good things you have to offer.
Be strong, ambitious and proud of who you are. Don't invest on people who don't deserve it and learn to recognize who they're. Your life is just starting, there's a bunch of other things more worthy of dedicating your time and thought to - like studying and practicing sports, cliche as it sounds. All these things, I wish I had been able to do when I was your age.
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Thank you so much for this, i've realised that i should be doing more productive things & not be comparing myself constantly to others. People will love me for being my true self and being confident about it. Because those shallow guys out there aren't who I want to spend time with anyways :)
You're very welcome. That's right. It may be easier said than done, but you will be much happier and pleased with yourself down the road for not wasting time on things you cannot control and having enjoyed your time doing the things you love and other more productive activities. Take care!
I have a big, bubbly butt that's full of stretch marks. When I hit puberty, my body changed so quickly that I was left with many on my butt, inner thighs and love handles. Do you think I care? Nope, I've been with many guys who actually like them, it shows you're a woman who has curves and curves come with stretch marks. They're beautiful, just like you..
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Awh, preach!! This was very reasurring to read :) You are what we (insecure girls) need.. thank you.
Your stretch marks will fade with time, and I have never met a man who even noticed mine. Sure, there will be some utter twats who might make a big deal out of it, but they are by and large the minority and not the kind of people you want to be spending your time with anyway.
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I am fearful of that minority of people who will make a massive fuss out of it. That's why im too afraid to wear a bathing suit anymore. I take things very personally :(
Yeah but out of a hundred there will be like 1 who will do that. By numbers, it's unrealistic to want to please just that set of people when you could (and already do) please the majority instead.
In my opinion women think they have to have the stereotypical "perfect" body like most every porn star has to be considered "perfect" or "pretty"... That's not true the perfect women have flawed bodies I. e. Stretch marks, scars, cellulite. What ever it may be women are growing changing living people stretch marks will happen it's natural; it's beauty, they form on boobs when women enter womanhood they form on legs and thighs, they form on their butt they form from loosing weight and pregnancy, it's natural it's beauty it's life... Stretch marks and cellulite are flaws and that's what makes every woman different... A woman's flaws in her body is natural beauty and no one should ever change that and no woman should ever feel like they have to cover up her natural beauty with clothing or makeup to feel beautiful!
"Real men don't care about stretch marks because they mean one of two thing, you were either small and got big, or you were big, then got small... either way... we fucking" - Katt Williams
don't let that stupid shit get to you... guys would date a 400 pound girl if they know she could take a joke and not get offended over every fucking thing. we'd also reject a "model"... if she bitched about everything.
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People don't just get stretch marks because they've gained orlost weight. I got them because I had a really fast growth spurt. And i'm just that type of person that takes things personally when it comes to appearances. Maybe it's normal at my age I don't know!!
lol... so when you have a growth spurt... thats not you gaining weight? you know if you get taller... something was added right? and if something was added... weight was gained lol... ur cute... are you blonde?
Speak for yourself. You can have the disgusting 400 lb chick, I woudln't want to even pass her on a sidewalk even if she had the personalty of Mother Theresa, I'd rather jack off. I;d fuck the model , bitch or not. I just wouldn't keep her more than a weekend. The vast majority of guys (other than you apparently) have at least some standards when sober, that's closer to the actual truth.
Also, i'm not a model thats bitching over everything. I'm a normal girl that seems to be insecure. And models are confident.. otherwise they wouldn't enter the industry if they were bitching about all their flaws..
@IEat70sBush hahahaha... it was just an analogy... i was gonna say 300 pounds but in order to drive my point (which no one got) home... i said 400... but you did get the other half... you would still fuck the model... but you won't keep her around... and that is what im trying to explain to @Asker over here...
stop worrying about your body... guys don't give that much of a shit... work on your personality so you aren't that "hot bodied" girl that every guy wants to fuck but NO GUY wants to marry. You don't even have the confidence to ask this question as yourself... red flag.
400 lbs = that much lost (even if accomplished, that's ~70% of her body weight coming off) wouldn't look much better, there'd be so much loose skin hanging off of her she'd look like one of those bipedal sea monsters from a 1950's B movie without surgery to remove the extra skin, and even then there'd be scars all over the place. I have standards, so I guess I'm a twat, oh well.
@IEat70sBush omg!!! please stop... im drinking... i can't laugh this hard... Jesus... ur a cunt too!!! i fucking love it. Hi, im Diesel... hey...@Asker and i know 70sbush can back me up on this... did you just say models are confident and don't bitch about their flaws? you need to watch a behind the scenes video is what you need to do... models are the most insecure fucks... but once that make up is on... they just ACT confident. for the camera. why do you think they say the most beautiful girls are the most insecure? but smart guys like me... use that against em lol... think kiddo. and no... just because you are Asian, doesn't make you automatically smart... I've outsmarted most Asians I've met... but the intelligent ones... scare me.
I don't think I have a hot body.. I literally hate everything about myself lol. And plus i'm that girl at school who hangs out with the people that talk about politics. Not with people who talk about who they fucked last night.
maybe you should start hanging out with the people who talked about who they fucked last night and try to make your own stories... you won't be thinking about those stretch marks then. cuz guys don't give a shit... in all honesty.
I like what I like. Crap like personality I never was interested in. Simply being nice doesn't make me hard and horny. My female friends are nice but I wouldn't fuck them even if I was on my 51st year of a dry spell. And I was married 2x back in the day (yeah, stupid enough to do it 2x), hated it, never doing that again since voluneering for monogamy prison and putting that in writing is a dumb idea.
@IEat70sBush i can totally understand. at 43... you have EARNED your right to be shallow. when you tried doing it the right right way... not one... but TWO cunts... ruined it... im still decently young... i just learn from your mistakes... or should i say... make my own lol
I'm black, and mine look like beige stripes across my butt and hips. I've had them since about puberty, and they haven't faded much. Sometimes I use lotion with collagen in it. Hasn't helped the appearance, but it has smoothed them out. They felt like rough cuts in my skin before.
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Thanks for the advice, i'll make sure to keep moisturising.
You don't have to worry about it. Most models wear clothes and a few times when they have to wear bikini or smaller clothes , they are with proper make up and artificial tan. What is your height. ?
Try to keep that nice form you talked about that will make guys crazy for you and they won't care about the marks. In the end some will care since the world is not filled with great people but I'm sure most won't.
Ill be honest im a body builder and i have them on my arms... no strech marks are not attractive if they get super big. But small to medium ones are fine dont worry about it ur human
Quit tanning then the stretch marks aren't as visible. Tanning just gives you wrinkles and cancer anyway. Stretch marks = gross. Wrinkles = even more gross. Counter intuitively if a girl is otherwise perfect and that's her only physical flaw it's going to be a lot more obvious and look worse than it actually is.
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Well, I play a lot of outdoor sports & I have a high amount of melanin in my skin! So I get tanned on basically a cloudy day.. also, I never get burnt so i'm not really prone to skin cancer. And wrinkles are natural as you age as the collagen in your skin starts to decrease.. stop being so immature.
Don't like the answer = don't ask the question. I speak only truth, not white lies. And I don't date old women with wrinkles (for some that happens by 30's if they get too much sun and are fair skinned, others 40's, if they are lucky 50's, that's just my standards and I'm superficial like that). If that makes me immature so be it.
You speak only the truth? Firstly, that was an opinion and secondly, i'm sure there are at least a few decent guys that aren't as shallow as you.. I mean, you won't even date women with wrinkles ! You're 43, i'm sure you have a few yourself. I don't think I should take advice from a guy like you.
Sure, go ahead and listen to the white liars since that's what you want to hear, sugar-coating it and feeding it to you like a powdered donut. I have no wrinkles since I avoid sunlight (I get my B vitamin from a mutivitamin), my pic is from last year. If/when I start getting them eventually that's what plastic surgery is for (and why they exist, no one likes physical flaws when given a choice), so I can still get 20-somethings even if I'm 90.
I think you mean botox. And faces that have went through plastic surgery are worse than wrinkles in all honesty for me. Makes them look fake. Botox is just as bad..
Actually I meant vitamin D. No sunlight = end up with osteoporosis without the multi. I'd rather not inject poison (botulism toxin) into my face. At least a face lift will just have 2 scars behind my ears, that will probably be covered up by my hair. That will work until my ears are on the back of my head, hopefully by then I can get a brain transplant and have it dropped into a 20yo cloned body of myself (that's been genetically modded to only have a stem to avoid the ethical crap). Better still a clone of some model better looking than me.
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