And maybe it is manipulative to do it this way knowing you may catch someone off guard and they will actually speak with you more out of obligation than want. I get that.
I have both had this done to me and done it. I have had people show up to my house after/during a fight to work it out or talk. Even times when I did not want to see them, but in the end was glad they cared.
I have also done it. One was an wx boyfriend who I dated almost 2 years.. he lived with his family but I stayed there a lot. More than at my own house sometimes. And out of nowhere he got weird and did not clearly break up with me or not break up with me and I showed up there to talk. His mom knew I was there waiting. I don't think he was the happiest about it, but he also was not that mad. I did it because I cared and also deserved to know what was going on in our relationship.
Another was also an ex who broke up with me completely out of nowhere-weirdest timing ever and just yelled at me on the phone said "it's over. Bye" and hung up. I was baffled and actually thought he was not okay. I respected him wanting to break up but felt there may have been misunderstanding. I went to his house and knocked on the door and asked if it was okay we talked since I just dropped by. He was so nice about it and we talked it out. We did not get back together, but he said he was so glad I came and that it was good to talk about it.
The situation I am considering doing this in is slightly different. I will probably get a lot of hate for it. Just wondering if it will be different being that I just respectfully wanna ask if we can talk. If they say no, I would leave and not be crazy. I maybe should respect that they are not speaking to me but I don't know why, am super worried if they are okay and also hurt and care a lot.
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