Do you hate other couples when you are single and alone?

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blank_expression · Accepted Answer

No, not at all because I have grown way past that. I realize how short life is and how the excitement of a relationship is so fleeting. I see new couples buying new houses, autos, and falling into the debt-stress trap. I see them out bragging about their vacations but I hear them later complaining about the crowds, heat, and other things that went wrong as if this vacation was a task that they had to do to be “in.” Moreover, unfortunately, the excitement of new sex is severely fleeting too. I have been through many of those fleeting wondrous coupledom sprees and I come to realize that I am one that must have my total freedom to do what I want when I want without restrictions. I trade the coupledom daily grind for the uncertainty and excitement of an unplanned day and the trail it may take me on. I see these couples putting on their happy face while I know that down deep they feel severely stuck. The happier they appear on the surface the worse it usually is as many have fallen apart in front of my eyes. I feel sorry for them as they have much to learn the hard way. The couple is my singlehood inspirational fuel.

ThisDudeHere · Accepted Answer

I don't hate them but I do envy them.

aWes0MeNeSs · Accepted Answer

Not at all. I'm single by choice and although I don't share the desire for a relationship that those couples do, I don't have any problems with their choices or relationships. As long as you're not hurting anyone, do what makes you happy.

If I were to seek another relationship and not want to be single anymore, I wouldn't dislike other couples out of jealousy just because they had what I didn't. I know it's easy for people to dislike others or try to invalidate their choices because they're upset they have something they want, but it's honestly so much better to focus on YOUR situation and getting what YOU want than to worry about others.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

No, I'm not that petty, jealous, or insecure to hate on couples.
I used to when I was younger, but I'm past that stage in my life now.

I DO hate the couples that blatantly throw how happy they are, or post nonstop on social media about their relationships. You know the type: they want everyone to know they're in a relationship and seek out attention? Those kind of couples I can't stand!

Mickey9999 · Answer

Sometimes to be honest. There’s just always that one group of friends or those activities in which it seems EVERYONE is coupled up. The worse is when you get sympathetic looks... my husband died in 2017 and I go to many concerts but I can’t help but to buy a pair of tickets to each one... I’ve only recently began to purchase a single ticket... i literally drive to Nashville to see my eagles a few winters ago and I let the couple next to my empty companion seat place the coats there with mine, the man didn’t know of course but he gave me a funny look and said insensitively that’s an expense coat rack. It was a bit of a dagger and i could have made him feel like shit but instead he made me feel like crap. It’s really no ones business if we are alone. Doesn’t matter how young or old for that matter we look. Bad things happen. Break ups, deaths, prison sentences etc. if they’re alone big deal... no need to single shame them

cheapshotbob · Answer

no i laugh at them and they notice and i lift my coffee cup up and toast them too there head ache XD, i have been single for 28 yesrs im at the point where i see other and observe there way of getting along it cn be fun some times.

like this one time i was having some coffee and this guy and girl were talking about going to the beach then he made the big mistake of saying he is going too d a lot of fishing which made her mad lol

i laighed at the guy fr such an obvious mistake she asked me what i thought was funny and i told her i could not help but over hear the conversation and thought it was funny then he smiled a bit which i got but i did wonder f he slept on the couch that night lol

it kind makes me want to ask hows the relationship going guys? still going fishing or some other thing? XD

TruthBringer · Answer

Only weak and insecure people hate on what others got that they don't have. Instead of hating, work on yourself to get what you desire. Even though I know that I'm perfectly capable of finding a new relationship, but at the same time, I know that there are certain phases in life that you will be single. A few years ago, I went on a vacation by myself after my breakup. Seeing couples all around me didn't affect me much most of my vacation. At some point it did start to affect me emotionally, because of all the couples showing affection towards each other while I came out of a fresh breakup. I managed to sleep it off. Instead of hating on them, I was happy for them and focussed on enjoying my vacation. In two weeks I'll be going on another vacation, but this time with my girlfriend. Good things come when you focus on your own life, not others.

ioan12 · Answer

Yes. I hate them soo... Much. I'm not a prise, I get it, but if I'm skinny (even though I trained for a hole year) and don't have a car, that doesn't mean I'm a "lost cause". I try my best to be civilised, and act like a man, not a boy, not a player.
I get more and more frustrated day by day, just looking at couples on the street and see the guys (from muscle-monsters to much thinner guys then me, to big guy) and I just... Juuuust can't stand it. Makes me wanna just... Die. Just last week I was thi king "what could happen if I would blow my brains out?". I just want to stop hearing stories about "how my boy/girlfriend did this.. Did that.. Made me feel this way... Uuuhh aaahh". Since high school till this day.. I freaking hate every god damn couple. Because I couldn't be with someone... At least... Once...

bluetoblack99 · Answer

Yeah I saw a lot of this when I was visiting some long time family friends. I don’t “hate” other couples. I will get pangs of jealously but I’m mature enough to realize that’s just a natural psychology and silly.

However one thing I do hate is when couples try to give me unsolicited advice and pressure to date other people. I especially hate when women try to say that crap and assume that dating is the same way for me as it is for them. It sure as hell isn’t. Much different and much harsher challenges for men vs women when you are single and all else is equal.

ineedatan · Answer

Hate is a strong word. No, I love, love and seeing my friends happy when in a healthy relationship. Do I get envious and miss having a boyfriend when single... sometimes, yes. I tend to distance myself and not head out when majority of my girlfriends are going to a social event with their significant others.

KeziL · Answer

No, I sometimes feel more lonely but I don't hate them just because they're happy. I wish I could have that with someone, or I "catalog" things about the couple that I would want in a future partner, like I see slightly older couples who came back to their college campus after graduating together to walk around and visit all their old favorite spots, and I tuck that away in my mind as a cute moment to maybe live out on my own someday.

nandinikhaneja · Answer

Not at all, I mean I also have the ption of dating;There are so many people who are horny, who will to any extent just to be in a relationship. I mean, I am happy to not be in a relationship, I am happy to be single and that's the choice that I have made for myself!

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

Nah, I usually feel sad for them- they both gave up their basic freedom and liberties to be with each other. As the 'single' guy, I only shrug at their ignorance, as I continue to be myself, free and without my words and actions being governed by a ball and chain.

Lov2PlezUgurl · Answer

No I just want to help them to show them the mistakes there making... that I made and show them how to fall in love for a lifetime the answer's to these questions didn't come easy I payed dearly for them and if I can keep people from making those same mistakes... it want be worth it... nothing is worth all that pain

coderedcerberusnight · Answer

Nope! In fact, I tend to appreciate them more. The fact that they have a relationship is completely fine to me because it's their personal life and I shouldn't be mad because of how they are keeping a healthy relationship.

It's honestly baffling when single people seek to ruin relationships...

ZackBan · Answer

I only hate it when they shove it down my throat. Like if they overload my Instagram feed with stories of them holding hands and some shit like that.

But if they keep it to themselves I have no problem with them even though they do remind me of how lonely I am it's not their fault so I can't blame them.

supercutebutt · Answer

No because in most cases, they are miserable. People put on a happy face in front of others but secretly, they regret being stuck in their suffocating prison. After a peen has expelled its load, don't we all want the other person gone so we can enjoy sweet freedom?

Nxtawm · Answer

Well I do cringe or am grossed out by some couples that are too lovey dovey and are all over each other. But for most couples, I got no problem with them. I actually think girls that are in love or crushing are super cute lol I often listen to my friend talk about her crush 😂

Jjpayne · Answer

All the time... Especially when i try to ask a girl out and she goes, you know I have a boyfriend or husband right... So frustrating... Even Facebook, just looking through all my friends with their wife and kids 🙄 I don't wanna hate but it's frustrating... Id say more hate than frustration

jgokgotit · Answer

LMAO Sorry to laugh. I remember feeling this way each time a relationship was just freshly broken off. I am vulnerable to feeling this way immediately after a breakup, but once I've had time to heal I do not feel this way. I've been single for almost 6 years and have had my hands too full to worry about love.

cth96190 · Answer

Hate is an extreme word.
No, I do not hate couples.
I do not dislike couples.
I can resent couples, if she is a woman of obvious quality who has chosen to be with a knuckle dragger.
What I feel often is a dagger through my soul, when I see loved-up couples.
That is a happiness that I will not know again.

A1513 · Answer

I do not hate the couple themselves, but sometimes I envy what they have. However, I know why I have no one and that is because I cannot see the point in embarking on a journey which has a 90% chance of failure of some kind. It would be a waste of time and heart ache. Lastly, whichever couple I happen to be looking at at the time has just as much the likelihood of failure. It is almost impossible to preserve a thing as precious as love in an imperfect world.

shortster · Answer

Sort of. I hate how much women complain about how awful their boyfriends are; yet won't even give me the time of day. When I would love and cherish them if only given a chance to. I don't know, maybe I am just a little frustrated with dating these days.

missangelavoss · Answer

No but I hate being the third wheel and they act all cute and start kissing and making the whole situation awkward smh I never do that with people but they do It to me to the point where I just get an uber home cause I’m uncomfortable

Reaperbot666 · Answer

Currently singe and trying to enjoy it to the fullest. Since my most recent ex cheated on me. Nearly the whole time we were together.

But sometimes do miss having girl to hang out with. And have some occasional sex with.

HMcClellan · Answer

I have a lot of different couple friends and I have third wheeled many times. The key is to be friends with both people who are in the relationship.
But I wouldn’t recommend third wheeling often, it can kinda get you in your feelings and you may start feeling resentment or envy.

Jdgirl87 · Answer

I wouldn’t say I hate them, and I’m usually fine being around couples, however sometimes it does make me wish I had that, and I am guilty of feeling envious and dare i say jealous towards them, because I’ve had terrible luck with relationships and sometimes it feels like finding love for myself is impossible.

SomeGirl88 · Answer

It used to bother me, but after getting out of abuse, toxic relationship, I'm much happier alone. I really don't give a shit about other people's romantic life.

Hermes-Paris · Answer

As long as they are not slobbering and grabbing each other and making super loud kisses. As they say here in Latin America " Please don't eat your banquet in front of the starving ones."

FatherJack · Answer

No , not in the slightest , I am glad NOT to be coupled up ... the only problem I have with some couples are the dawdling slushy hand holders , that block busy thoroughfares... walk single file , until you find a less busy / wider path !!

Cherokeehp · Answer

Nope, because I’m never alone. Even when I’m single I’m constantly going on dates, or I have fab, or I just like flirting for fun. I don’t actually mind being single. It’s fun.

JackSmy · Answer

NO!! When they are together, and I am single, the women in those couples almost always want to try to set me up with their single female friends!! Sounds better than it actually is!!

sd1223 · Answer

Don’t hate seeing other couples but if anyone is like me, you wish you had that for yourself. Hopefully one day it will happen for me. But for now it is what it is.

Pyrofox · Answer

Most part no. Just when they obviously DON'T belong together and are constantly seem to be at one another's throats. Then I'm like a half expecting them to go like vlad the impaler on the other half.

Vulskanik · Answer

I only hate them when they sit in front of my fucking locker and make out 🙄 get a fucking room or at least get out of my locker corner.

Hans222 · Answer

I don't... I'm single but I'm not jealous of couples. When I like the people I'll try to make them friends.

HannahSparkles · Answer

No of course not, it gives me hope that someday I could share the same kind of happiness with someone❤

menina · Answer

Hate? No. If I hated other couples when I'm single, I would spend my entire life hating couples. If they're happy, I'm happy for them.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I hated it when all my friends had boyfriends and I couldn't even get a date. I would have been fine if I was single and dating but being invisible to the opposite sex sucked.

kidnextdoor · Answer

I don't hate them really. But I tend to keep some distance. Distance from where they both treat you like a friend.

MissDawn7961 · Answer

no for I know that these couples - fight , argue and do mean things to each other - so I have no reason to feel this way ! thanks

jkm1864 · Answer

No I'm happy that My friends found love. I am sad that I can't find it but it doesn't make Me hate them the reality is it makes Me hate Myself more.

JosyJosy · Answer

No that's stupid. Just when I was watching a movie alone I'd be thinking "Cuddling would be so nice right now"

TheFlak38 · Answer

never. The stereotype of the happy couple is always untrue. Behind the scenes it's always about the irrational demands of the woman and how the man never does anything for her.

front2back · Answer

Not really. I have had my relationships in high school and college. Due to my status as a man of my craft I am not likely to find a partner until I'm reaching my 30's which is okay.

Sweetener_ · Answer

Not really, I envy them but it's a feeling that just comes and leaves. I'm too young to be thinking about relationships anyway.

Zeus_66 · Answer

Hate is a strong word in almost every case. It definitely doesn't apply here. Focus on yourself and your well being. You'll be glad you did.

sdtabot · Answer

No. Anyone who feels that way may be subconsciously envying the couple.

SphynxUK · Answer

I did when I first became separated. Hated families too...

Unit1 · Answer

That would be like hating the rich because you're poor. So petty. i prefer working on things to get there.

Hepy82 · Answer

Hate is such a strong word, there's many things in life which should be hated, happy couples isn't one of them...

ArrowheadSW · Answer

I am fine with it. I go a lot of places alone so I am used to it.

rudramishra · Answer

Yes I do hate Coz being an Indian most of them do the most famous saying in India BABU , SHONA,  I hate these things as a result I also do hate couples

Shuri · Answer

No, but it did make me sad. I was mostly sad because I had been single for so long and it didn't seem like there were any good guys left. Now I have one, so I'm good lol

red324 · Answer

Not at all, but I do wonder why I can't get more than one or two dates with a girl before she disappears. I blame online dating and the fact that the women have too many options.

BlueKittyWolf · Answer

No. I'm fine with myself, being alone and single. It feels much better.

sensible27 · Answer

No... I don't really think... about them... like wot?

DCooper · Answer

No. The grass is not greener on the other side of the fence.

maadison · Answer

I'm aware that me being single comes from a personal choice, I put myself here so there's no reason to envy/hate others for deciding differently.

Chester_Cheeto · Answer

If they're doing it right in front of me on purpose, I would fucking blow up. I get jealous of people extremely fast.

ChiTown33 · Answer

No, but when i see guys uglier than me with a decent looking woman i say " wtf, what am i doing wrong". Lol

LeoElias · Answer

No I'm happy for them. But if it's my friend who is dating someone, I make sure he's being treated right before I accept her.

jasco · Answer

Nope I wish for them the best when I see a couple cause it's a good thing when a two people love each other

Grond21 · Answer

Never. I wouldn't want them to hate me either when I start dating. It seems like putting chains on yourself to hate someone else like that

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