Do guys who look at other women really love their partner?

[Anonymous]

I am curious because I have so many men who are MARRIED eye fuck me and I see a lot of men in relationships look at other women. Do they really not love their partner if they are looking at other women? 🤔

[btbc92]

No they don't love their partner. In what way are they doing is showing and proving that they love who they are with? The problem is that a lot of people are condoning bad behavior, and they want to know why people end up cheating and having Affairs and all these other problems. Common sense to tell you that a person I really love their partner would not be looking at other people. There is a difference between noticing a person is attractive versus a person staring at you and making lustful stares at you. That is a person that is doing that deliberately, and they will do it as long as they allowed to do it or refuse to get caught. If you don't go ahead and say anything about that, they're going to continue to keep on doing it. It is a shame that today people don't hold those kind of people accountable. Decades ago, you was caught doing stuff like that, your butt got exposed right there in public when caught in the Act. It is a real shame that people do not have any morals anymore.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

Looking and touching are very different things.

[btbc92]

@ThisIsMyOpinion No, it is not. Touching with your eyes is the same as touching with your physical body.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

It really isn't.

[btbc92]

Yes it is. No matter how you want to think, it is what it is because the facts are the facts. You shouldn't even be thinking about it. It's wrong. I don't care who don't like the truth. It's wrong.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

Why is it wrong?
My vows to my wife were to never cheat on her. To look at anothe rgirl and think "oh she is cute" is not cheating.

[btbc92]

Yes, it is. Just because a girl is cute, that doesn't mean it give a You the right to engage in it. Especially now that you have a wife. It's called respect. You can hurt somebody a feelings and their trust in you in those ways.

[btbc92]

Worse if the other who you think is cute may not like it either.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

Engage in what? Looking? Unless I go blind I can avoid that.
Because I don't stare or anything.
When I walk around if I pass a cute girl I think "oh she is cute". That is all. I don't look back trying to see her, I don't stare and I don't smile at her.

[btbc92]

@ThisIsMyOpinion That is not the point. You know what the intent is. I can see who I see and know not to allow those thoughts cross my mind. It is a choice. Either control that or risk getting in trouble. That's all. It only takes less than 3 seconds. That has to do with entertaining the idea of if there is a cute anything. Don't entertain the idea and the idea won't cross your mind. If I can avoid that, so can you. It's a choice.

[btbc92]

It ain't like you looking at a cute 8-year-old girl. You are talking about a woman you sexualize. That is what is wrong. I have seen plenty of handsome men, that doesn't mean I sexualize or lust after them. So no. Looking and touching are not different things as I said before. Touching a person physically is obviously wrong. But looking with your eyes is even worse because you often can't let it go from your conscious. People choose to entertain this because they subconsciously desire what they see. That is what makes it wrong. The desire itself. When are with somebody those desires shouldn't even be something you want. It should be something you mentally throw away. You people don't do that. You bring misery to everyone around you, both to the one who never asked to be harassed or sexualized with your look, and who you are with feels twice as victimized, upset, and even shamed that they are with you. Your wife deserves your utmost respect. If you can admire a person in front of her, then I hope you show the same amount of 'respect' by admiring what your male peers have physically as well. Hopefully, you think their handsome without thinking it's gay to do so. But I bet you can't because your looking is NOT out of admiration. It's lust. Period. And I believe the Asker pretty much summed it up by the keywords: "Eye F***ing". What does that say? Your lusting. Let a woman do it, you'll swear she is a whore. She actually screws him, then she's a slut. Come on, man! We're not stupid and this is how you men end up cheated on for real or divorced. And more than half of you do not have the balls to say it to our faces before a few of you end up slapped, then swear we're abusive to you. You don't want these problems, don't do it. As a married man especially, that is greater disrespect to your wife who never asked to only be looked at your convenience. Enough with the hypocrisy and double standards.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

Even if I had the opportunity I would never do anything with any girl othe rthan my wife no matter how attractive she is.

[btbc92]

@ThisIsMyOpinion If you are unloyal with your whole heart it doesn't matter what you do on the outside. That's what you refuse to good. You're not truly loyal in your heart. That is what matters. The heart. Not your actions.

[btbc92]

You already did with your mind and heart.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

When I look at them I don't imagone myself having sex with them! It's a harmless "oh she looks good"

[btbc92]

@ThisIsMyOpinion That's LUST! The moment you said, "oh she looks good". You lusted. That's it. Nothing harmless about it. Nothing. You don't have to imagine being in bed. You already have the desire to say it. It's wrong. There is a major difference between "Wow, she looks pretty/very beautiful." VS "oh she looks good". What's the 'good' part? Because entertaining by looking. Don't try to deceive yourself in not knowing what you doing when you know you doing it. God is not mocked, man. When one has a desire to change they change. They don't continue adding hardships and heartache to others. It is still WRONG.

[btbc92]

You do not have to imagine being in bed with somebody. You already opened the door to your mind by inviting it if it wasn't already opened. It may come later, or never. But imagining something isn't always the issue. It is the intent with it. You just refuse to put away contrary thoughts, and this is the very thing women hate and will not tolerate in a man. You being physically there is not ENOUGH. Your wife either has your entire 100% or she doesn't have you at all. Your whole heart. Not part of you, 3/4, the whole PACKAGE. You cannot expect us, women, to be 100% loyal to you and only desire you if you yourselves aren't equally doing so. Now unless she doesn't care which I believe you said this prior in our dispute, once again, that is between you and HER. Any other normal couple, human being, etc would NOT tolerate that. And that is something you have to respect regardless if you agree with it.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

When I am at the gym I also notice guy that have a great shape. Am I lusting over them too?

[btbc92]

@ThisIsMyOpinion No. Because you "noticing". You know what you doing. And you know what is being said to you.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

But I notice their good shape the same way I notice gilrs cuteness.

[btbc92]

@ThisIsMyOpinion Shape having 0 to do with cuteness, and you know it.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

Ok, if I see a girl with a good shape on the gym and thing "nice shape" is oukey then.

[btbc92]

No it is not okay, because your saying "nice shape". You never said she had a good shape. You know what your implying.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

Why me looking at a guy and thinking "he has a trainned body" is bad and me thinking the same about a women is?

[btbc92]

Because your intent with the guy is not the same with the girl. If a guy has a tanned body, then he has a tanned body. If a woman has a tanned body, then she has a tanned body. You don't go from a woman saying "nice shape" and get you respond or think woth a different command about the guy. Your not being slick and think your trying to trick me with what is being said.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

But in my head I am not thinking anything else regarding either of them.

[btbc92]

It's not about what's in your head, it's what you choose to do with your eyes.

There are plenty of people who are looking to get tanned or already is. You ate twice as likely to look at the woman than you are at the man. The woman your looking at desierably sexually while wigh the man your comparing or subconsiously competing with. How you chose to think and where you choose to direct it at is where you get caught. Women do the same thing. A woman often sees a man that is attractive, she lusts. A guy she is not attracted to, she won't blink an eye. A girl she don't like she is often jealous. It's the eyes.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

Who said I am lusting over her? Simply admiring her beauty. I don't see anything wrong with that.

[btbc92]

Admiring a person's beauty is not what your talking about. There's nothing wrong with admiring a person's beauty. If notice a person you did, but you think or talk about how good the look. Then that's when it's no longer admiring, now it's lust.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

But I dont think or talk about it.

[btbc92]

So where does "Oh she looks good" come from? You would have to think it in order to believe it.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

That is just admiring beauty.

[btbc92]

Look up the word lusting. I'm pretty sure what your say I g is not admiring. And I gave you prime examples of it.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

I can't make you believe me.
But let's say I do think "uh she is hot as fuck!" why is that wrong?

[btbc92]

Because it's lust. Do you not understand the words that comes out of your mouth or your that seared in your conscious that you refuse to see the errors of your ways? Your right you can't make me believe you because I see it for what it is. Not what you wa t to try to present. I am no fool.

[btbc92]

Don't call admiring, lust, and lust, admiring. That is how impure your heart and desires are.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

I will let you know, I love my wife. Whatever you believe it or not she is my princess! I would never do anything to hurt her!
Just like I say Gal Gadot is hot she also says Henry Cavil is hot.
There is nothing wrong with looking. I can assure you we don't love each other less.

[JustinTheGreat]

Just because you’re married doesn’t mean you suddenly don’t find other people attractive.

im married and I’m very in love, would never ever cheat and I’m very happy. But sometimes attractive people will catch my eye. I might look for a second but I genuinely have no interest flirting or doing anything more with anyone else

[Bad_Man55]

It's just looking, men are ultra visual we see something that we find appealing we are definitely gonna take it in doesn't mean we are not in love with who we are with

[Disguise]

Well you see, their eyes are perfectly normal functioning!

Thats all i can say.

Eye fuck! Lol i dont even know where you people find such ugly words...

[ecfresh]

Frankly married guys who don’t look at women are the ones to worry about. Their lack of testosterone and drive means a lack of energy in all aspects including towards their wives.

[teamvic]

You can't really help who you're attracted to. Its the acting part

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

I am married.
I look at other girls for eye candy.
I deeply live my wife and I would NEVER cheat on her.
Those things are not related. Just because we look doesn't mean we would act on it if he's been the chance.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

given the chance*

[Anonymous]

get over yourself and lose the ego. when guys check out other women it's because they're eye candy and sometimes they imagine them naked and imagine fucking them, but they wouldn't actually do that in real life if they have someone. Some would still cheat some wouldn't it all depends on the guy.

[JTGoat]

You have to realize that not everyone lives by the same set of rules. My wife is perfectly fine with me looking at other women. Sometimes she joins me, and even points them out.

[jasco]

For one just cause i look other people does not mean i want that person same way with how people like looking at cute, attractive or funny things thats just human nature to look doesn't mean i don't love her

[madgoat]

Yes , they love their partner. But that does not mean they are dead and a pretty young lady is likely to catch a guys attention for a moment or two.

[chriscdi]

well them being eith someone doesn't change the fact you are attractive, if you are attractive then you just are, know what i mean

[Prof_Don]

Of course the man still loves his woman, he’s just looking.

[A1513]

I was dating a girl one time and even though I genuinely liked her I still checked out men and women.

[Ripper_E]

Their sex life might be stale.

[asshole_]

do women? Yes
Do men? I'm sure they do

[es20490446e]

Nope.