Who is the dominant one in your relationship?

[wonderingaboutboys]

Who is usually the one who has control over most decisions? Who is more dominant in bed? Who wears the pants? etc.

I am

My partner is

It's an equal partnership

[Smoke-n-Growls]

I'm the more dominant one in most aspects, often the one first to take charge, etc.

That said, my partner is sexually dominant and I'm on the submissive side of switch.

It's more like I have more initiative.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

I make my husband dominate me during sexual activities and make the decisions regarding our safety & security. Other than those, we have an equal partnership.

[OlderAndWiser]

I try to choose partners who can be equal partners.

[Xoxocutekitty]

I'm usually the first to 'bring up' expectation setting conversations, things we should talk about, scheduling logistics. My partner if he has a strong opinion will say. He's more often sexually dominant or in charge, but I am probably more sexually aggressive if that makes sense. I think we have a pretty equal partnership. No one makes decisions without consulting the other, but no one objects unless its personal.

[wonderingaboutboys]

Interesting, what do you mean when you say he is more sexually dominant but you are more sexually aggressive?

[Xoxocutekitty]

Im more into pain inducing things like biting, scratching, spanking, choking. He likes being in charge but for him, pain turns him off so its not as natural of headspace to want to induce it

[Nxtawm]

So far I'm usually a bit more dominant and even outside of romantic relationships, I tend to be the more dominant person/the leader with the exception of me just wanting to be the follower. It's cause I tend to want to have control of the situation, not having that control sometimes makes me feel that things aren't as efficient or that i would've done something differently/better. I do want an equal partnership tho 😂

[Nawlins34]

I'm the dominant one in the relationship. We started off 50/50 for the most part, but once she had a body of work (She trusts my decision making, etc) she had no problem with letting me handle it all.

She's dominant in her businesses because she owns them, she's docile with me because she trusts me.

[jgokgotit]

I'm not in a relationship at the moment, but usually she is the one taking charge in most cases. There are very few things that matter to me enough for me to care to be the leader. I prefer to take the backseat, let her work her amazing God-given talents and watch how amazing she is. However, if I do feel strongly about something I'll say it and she will listen.

[SimpleRhubarb]

I do, and I love my boyfriend to death, but I’m getting bored of being the one “in charge” of everything (just in life) all the time. It’s not so dominant that he doesn’t get decisions or respect or input or anything, though.

[Jon12125]

Even in bed?

[SimpleRhubarb]

Less in bed. He’s usually on top, but there’s not a lot of domination going on really lol. He’s so gentle

[Jon12125]

I think gentle is so boring and isn't satisfying

[SimpleRhubarb]

Different strokes for different folks! Pun intended. Lol

[Jon12125]

Rough Is more pleasing

[Jon12125]

I'm always dom I don't enjoy gentle sex

[Mickey9999]

In my marriage, it was me but it was forced upon me because of his health and ultimate death. Having had that experience and extra stresses, I’m more than willing to hand over the dominance for more of an equal partnership. I’m more submissive outside of my career as I’m dominant in my career so it wouldn’t be a big leap for me either.

[Jon12125]

I'm always the dom

[Mickey9999]

It’s too much pressure for me

[Natehunter199]

Im the more dominant one. When it comes to sex it was 50/50, when we had a good sex life. But i loved it when she was the dominant one when it came to sex. When it come to making decisions, we do it together.

[nerdybutlazy]

My partner is more dominate in bed but I'm more dominate in making decisions about things like date night but besides that we have a pretty equal partnership

[DizzyDesii]

Im single atm but I prefer to be the boss outside the bedroom the majority of the time, and I’d let him be the boss in the bedroom the majority of the time

[Unit1]

I'm not going to have such a weird relationship dynamic unless she wants me to (in bed). I'm looking for an equal teamplayer, not a slave to abuse and walk over and not a master to bow down to and kiss their boots.

[jack187625]

I am, but try and get her to make decisions. It's like pulling teeth.

[Myk13]

That’s an easy one. It’s me, and as long as I remain single, there’s no arguing it either.

[katiesmuff]

I picked C for us as we have a pretty equal decision relationship

[fishlipsfriend]

I like a leader out of bed... meaning he takes lead not control. In bed he takes full control of my body. My body is his to...😏

[Anonymous]

I am a normal heterosexual man, and I am attracted to, and only date normal heterosexual women. Thus, I am the dominant one in my relationships, in life and in bed. It is the natural order in normal heterosexual relationships... IF both parties want to be happy and satisfied long-term.

[hellokitty96_18]

i want him to be dominant. it allows me to not have to think for a change

[TonyMetal___86]

It was always me and in the future if i'll be in a relationship again and get married, i'll be the same!

[Posterboy56]

I am.

She occasionally pretends that she is. It's funny.

[jahaims]

I am more dominant in bed. I let my wife make all the choices I am pretty indifferent as a person.