Who is dominant in a relationship - generally speaking?

[Anonymous]

How do you define who is dominant in a relationship?

The one who makes all the decisions

The one who is always on top

The one who is constantly bossing around

All of the above

Something else (what?)

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[MannMitAntworten]

I son’t think I could ever characterize a single relationships of mine in a dominate/submissive context. We never behaved as if in a wolf pack. If anything our dynamics have always be similar to that of Winston and Clementine Churchill’s. You know, complimentary. Providing balance one to another. This lizard brain notion of dominate/submissive dynamics blurs human’s nuanced interactions with one another to fit some sort of un-nuanced gender studies bizarre narrative rhetoric of aggressor/victim to further divide the sexes. Human interaction is significantly more nuanced and civilized than this dominate/submissive dynamic. If I was off base here a good number of us would be walking around with bruises and bite marks from being kept in line and not from our behind closed doors intimate proclivities.

[MannMitAntworten]

Don’t*, not son’t.

[molonski2]

I make the decisions and will lead and decide , in most cases the man should be the leader.

[Asker]

But what if the woman is a modern Amazon?

[Abbycado]

Depends. I think me and the boyfriend are pretty 50-50. I am a strong willed person.

Now, if we are talking about @Valdemort, she is my bitch.

[Asker]

LoL, I thought so ;) 😊😅

[Valdemort]

Abby please, the people are watching! 🥵😮‍💨

[Abbycado]

Uh... oh 👀

[Valdemort]

C-can I be... on top, though? 👉🏼👈🏼

[Abbycado]

No..

[Valdemort]

🙇🏼‍♀️🙇🏼‍♀️🙇🏼‍♀️

[Abbycado]

Lower...

[Asker]

👀😳😅

[Valdemort]

You want me eye to eye with Pauly? XD

[Abbycado]

No, don't lie on the ground. It could be dirty.

[Asker]

LoL 😆😂🤣

[Abbycado]

It is not what I meant by getting dirty, so...

[Valdemort]

Well, if you insist on being on top... I won't complain 🙃

[Asker]

@Valdemort I thought you were more defiant 😐

[Abbycado]

I wonder if the little guy ever stumbles across these opinions. XD

[Asker]

He wasn't mentioned, but it's possible :D

[Abbycado]

I like to leave some things to surprise.

[Asker]

I get the picture ;)

[Valdemort]

@Asker Abby's in charge right now, I don't mind getting on my knees and taking things slow sometimes.

[Asker]

@Valdemort I get it, you like it when Abby is in charge, it's completely understandable ;)

[Abbycado]

Yes.

[Abbycado]

Ty for mho!

[Asker]

You're welcome

[Nikki1989]

Ideally, no one should be dominant over the other.

[Asker]

I know, but some people like it that way, it turns them on.

[Dargil]

At least in traditional culture the guy leads and the girl follows..

[Asker]

What if it's vice versa? What if she is like a modern Amazon?

[Dargil]

I was with a girl who was more of a self starter. I acceded to her wishes and we did fine.

[Asker]

Sounds like an interesting type of relationship.

[lolian94dl]

Women should be dominant in my opinion

[Asker]

I agree 100%.

[chocolatetwopointo]

depends what u mean by saying ”dominant”

[Asker]

I guess most people think about "sexually dominant".

[chocolatetwopointo]

ok then id say the one who acts dominant. it can change everyday

[Asker]

But if it can change, then the person is a switch, not really dominant.
Ok, what if "dominant" means in a relationship, outside the bed?

[chocolatetwopointo]

well it’d be boring to have the same shit every time, same person ontop every time gets boring after awhile, no?
and yeah I don't know how u can be dominant in a relationship.

[Asker]

Perhaps, but some people like to be on top all the time, on the other hand, submissive people like to be always on bottom.
I thought that dominant in relationship means acting dominant, bossing around.

[chocolatetwopointo]

so being controlling?

[Asker]

Exactly.

[chocolatetwopointo]

uhmm well not a lot of relationships have them since its pretty unhealthy

[Asker]

I agree.

[Anonymous]

Something else but I don't know how to define if

[Anonymous]

The person who makes the decisions

[Asker]

So why do you think the decisions are the most important to be the dominant?

[Opinion Owner]

Cuz if you make the decisions it usually shows that you’re in charge.

[Asker]

What about being on top? Some people think that it shows dominance on a physical level.

[Opinion Owner]

What do you mean by being on top?

[Asker]

During the intercourse.

[Opinion Owner]

Well that can switch in my opinion.

[Asker]

I know, but when someone is always on top, does that mean that person is more dominant?

[Opinion Owner]

In the bedroom yes , but outside no.