Negging: making fun of someone's appearance in order to decrease their confidence so they'll be more likely to want a romantic/sexual relationship with you
I haven't, because it is not the way I prefer to make myself appear desirable.
But the point of negging isn't to "insult" or to decrease someone's confidence to a level where they will be willing to accept you, or something. Negging works by simply elevating the status of the one doing the negging and making them appear out of the subject's league. Which works on women because they are attracted to superior, unavailable mates in general.
You won't attract anyone by simply insulting them, lol.
Yeah, but I was younger and it was a playful thing. I thought the girl would respond back saying that she wasn't ugly. Then I'd tell her that I was just kidding. Then we'd fall madly in love! But... She never responded back... 😂 Then I got yelled at by my sister for calling her hot friend ugly. So never did that again.
No. I’ve read that pickup artist stuff and rejected all of it. It feels inauthentic to “play games” to get someone to like you. I can proudly say that every woman who’s dated me, kissed me, had sex with me, was doing that stuff with 100% me. That’s the way I prefer it.
I don’t want to meet the woman of my dreams and have her fall for me because of I was doing something another man told me to do in a book. She’d be falling for him. Not me. Maybe it’s pride. But when it comes to women I attract them in ways that are unique to me. It’s always spontaneous and original. She won’t meet any other guy who goes at her the way I do.
I guess I have but the critic is about them self in the past never of the person in the present.
Trying to hammer in how much they have improved and changed since then or that is at least what I try to convey.
Only negative if they strongly identify with the past but I am a person that always think and hammer in what I and other could be not what we are or was.
yes. It works and its totally necessary. Its for those girls that have huge egos. Like "eww i just dont like men with brown eyes. Sorry dont know anything about you but i see brown eyes so im out of your league" <- this is the kind of girl negging is for.
Negging is basically anything that mildly insulting. Can even just be a backhanded compliment
And yes, I engage in Negging instinctively. I did it before I even knew what it was. Most people just call it shit talking though. Very normal part of male-male interaction, and a very powerful tool for male-female interaction
When i went to ukraine last year, i meet an black American friend. He is soo good person. One day we were at the bar and he started to fight with a girl. Fight mean not punch, just bad words.. anyway.. he said me , i can sleep with her.. i said no way. And he sleept. I can not do that :)
It doesn't make sense to make fun of someone you are interested in dating. That grade school behavior not for adults and its bullying/abusive not at all sexy. Its just so cruel and I wouldn't want to do that... To anyone much less someone I really like.
To me the way I read it, it would just do the opposite and I would have a negative attitude against you. If someone was negging me I would tell them to f:::off then walk away and never let them in my life. Plus payback is a b::::.
As on of the following & someone who is genetically superior to you and the vast majority of people, in multiple ways, your claim makes me laugh! At the near- genius level (an IQ of 145), brilliant men outnumber brilliant women by 8 to one. Do you want to get some; because this is how you get some?
I have never heard of negging, nor do I condone it. As someone who has experience with emotional abuse, what da f*ck are these people thinking! This must be where bad boys get there influence over women. I never understood it!
That is a bizarre approach to compelling someone to go out with you... No. I have never done anything of the sort. Nor has any woman ever done this to me. Nutty.
@lilyanony1 negging is intended for high self esteem women who are tired of being hit in over their looks and look down on guys who do it. It’s a little bit the equivalent of playing “hard to get”. Most men hate it when women play hard to get, but guys who have girls throwing themselves at them can find it intriguing and enjoy the challenge.
Negging is for the female equivalent. She expects you to hit on her based on her looks. By sending signals you’re not impressed by her looks you can trigger a couple things. One is she may try to get you interested to sort of restore her idea of how things are supposed to be. The other though is you can let her win you over with her other traits. So instead of drooling over her looks you act actively disinterested and then get intrigued because of whatever personality or intellectual aspect she demonstrates - the thing she wants to be appreciated for and thinks nobody sees her as more than a piece of ass.
Note that some guys don’t do it properly and just retain “stop sucking up and be more of a jerk” which frankly works better than. sucking up... but proper negging should intrigue and challenge her to win you over.
A woman who actually has low self esteem wouldn’t respond well to it.
So let me get this straight, you down her looks to draw out her smarts? Ugh! Why negg at all why not just be decent and not so available. The 'hard to get, nice guy' is the biggest mindf*ck. And it messes with you mire because I mean why would he be so great and so "unavailable"... That's more intriguing
@lilyanony1 basically you’re downing her looks to be slightly less available and ALSO then allow her to win you over with her personality. So it allows you to seem - slightly less available - like you have high standards (which she will then be more excited to have met) - like you then see her as a real person and not just some hot girl who you’d say anything to.
Negging would best be combined with being charming and funny. You want her to like you, be surprised you’re not falling all over yourself trying to get her and make her want to try to get your interest. Which you then let her do.
Wouldn’t be a good strategy for girls who DON’T expect you to want them just due to their looks or girls who don’t have the self esteem to think they can impress you.
