- If he doesn't put much effort into our relationship
- ignoring my text for hours
- if he confuses me more instead of being straight/direct
- if he gives his attention to other girls more than me.
- if he lies he is busy, but he is online chatting with other girls ( which mean he is ignoring me)
- if he treat me like he doesn't like me, but wants me for himself ( selfish/egoistic bastard)
- if we don't become official after a month, then i dont want to keep putting effort ( it is useless.
- if i am the one who always go at his place and he dosn't come to my place, then i won't put any effort anymore.
... and so on
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I love this question for some reason. It's so important to know what makes you stop effort so that you could fix stuff or leave reasonably.
It would definitely be when the other person stops effort themselves or become distant without valid reason. When they aren't sweet or honest with their promises.
There was this one relationship that I didn't put much effort into. I suppose it was the one sided nature of the relationship, her references too me being her boyfriend, my reference too her being that annoying girl across the street my landlady insists I spend time with because she's a nice girl and young men like myself need looking after. Landlady lived in the fifties, the girl across the street, La La Land. My roommate insisting I put more effort into the relationship, the ending part of it, anyway, because she really was annoying.
-If I'm putting in more effort than him
-If I'm trying to calmly talk through our problems and he just wants to argue all the time
-If it becomes clear we have different life goals and therefore the relationship isn't going to last
-If he starts trying to manipulate me, make me feel guilty for things that aren't my fault, or just generally control me. I spot that shit instantly and shut it down
And obviously any abuse or abuse red flags will make me stop trying to make that relationship work and start planning my exit
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Maybe when the other person stops putting in effort.
And they only comment on your flaws and say criticisms. Then, what's the point?Just Now... The Love My Husband Shows Me. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
If I lose respect for the person as a moral being
I've only ever given up and stopped putting work into relationships under two circumstance.
1: they made no effort to talk to or spend time with me like I did for them
2: they kept threatening to leave me and used my feelings for them as a weapon to win fights. Eventually I broke and could not handle it and told her I loved her but if she always tries to leave then it's obvious the relationship isn't gonna lastAround the time I got tired of ALWAYS initiating sexy time... also when I did tons of nice things and no thanks were given... ladies gratitude is necessary... just because it’s normal for him to do the trash or hold the door after years of doing someone and never feeling appreciated makes a man lose feeling... And for the love of god INITIATE sex!!!
When someone stops communicating, which shows lack of interest. If you're the one always initiating communication then somethings wrong: they're uninterested, they're emotionally unavailable, they take you for granted, or whatever else... Something's up. You can confront a person about it. Or you can't move on from them. In either case, you'll take action knowing you deserve better
The moment the negatives start. it harsh and true, a friend of mine once made a comment to me he said" I have never seen a man like you! you can take a woman to feel the highest and best that she has ever felt in her life, one can see the changes it is incredible to observe! Then you will just stop and they crash. "why is that. I simply said one thing when they start moaning I take as they enjoyed where they were and stop being me hey in no time at all the relationships falls to pieces because I allow them to run things.
Why I don`t save the relationship because moan just devalues it for me and the interest disappears on my partIt's a combination of when I can look in the mirror and say I've done everything I've can to make this work and lack of effort from them.
I don't drag it out either, the moment I stop putting in effort, I'm ending the relationship. We've already discussed it and I'm done talking.If I don’t feel like putting effort into my romantic relationships then I consider it dead and will break up with them. With friends however, what causes me to step away is when my friend feels that she is better than me or judging me.
When I'm the only one putting any significant amount of investment in.
Being in a a relationship.
The whole point of the effort is to get the relationship, and then it’s time to chill out and enjoy it. Something seems wrong if I can’t stop putting in effort — I should be able to stop, if I can’t then it’s not the real deal.When they stop putting in effort or I feel like I’m being lied to and taken for granted
When taken for granted or not appreciated. When I'm the only one trying
When I am feeling alone in the relationship. And when I reach the point where I don’t know how I feel
Me, im stubborn as hell, so i stay and try to make it work if i see the slightest effort from the other side.. But when im certain that i can't do nothing about it.. I leave.
A mixture of being comfortable in the relationship and being tired from work and adult responsibilities, so the idea of then putting forth even more effort at the expense of free time to decompress is... undesirable.
I think it kind of goes both ways. If you see the other person starting to slow down the effort they put in it might make you do the same.
When you stop being happy or being able to make your partner happy because of what ever she's going through and in time you take it personal or something that it might not be or is and that's when things start to change
I’m not going to do more than half the work. Sometimes women think the man needs to do 98%. Ha ha ha!
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