What's stopping you from being in a relationship?

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Babygirl_S · Accepted Answer

Being surrounded by Indians right now is the best answer. I have seen them peeing in the streets, flashing their tiny dicks, feeling like they’re next level with big round eyes, a nice unibrow and a chubby face and EXTREMELY JEALOUS if I even look at a lighter man’s PHOTO and I could add more to my list. Any girl who can have anyone more in control of his behaviour and still chooses an Indian boy is masochistic. Even more if she has “her pick of the litter” You don’t want him to flip out when you say NO to having sex with him. That’s what they usually do. In fact, they start bullying you after you reject them saying you’re not even that attractive in the first place. If I’m not (like your fat wife with lots of hyperpigmentation on her face or a receding chin) why do you even bother me? Shouldn’t I be insignificant to you? Shouldn’t you not even notice I’m in the room? Why do you create groups saying “relax boys, the dude she wants is black” Okay maybe he could be black but black dude is not the same as you if you look at yourself naked so why do you even feel like you “won” I know you want the skin tone and facial features of a white man. It shows because you’re never jealous of a hot black man. Rather you think he’s “beneath you”. How? You’re a night of frustration with no orgasms and morning without peace. Why are you only jealous of white boys? Start being jealous of black boys too as the toxicity comes with orgasms at least. Your bullying comes with subpar skills in and out of the bedroom. Who are you to feel like you’re “winning” if a black boy is winning? Haven’t you looked at him carefully. You can go to the bathroom to get a reality check before you tell me to sit in your office or else lose my job. Before you tell me I’m nothing, I can tell you I don’t look like a petite little boy with a robust girl dancing to a Bollywood song. So they keep bothering me saying “if a black boy wins, it’s good because he’s dark like me”

You have a problem. Your size is not my preference. They keep bullying me at grocery stores with a unibrow they refuse to shave. Very disrespectful behaviour and their mothers always try to start fights over the smallest things. They’re often heard gossiping about their daughters in law.

What makes you think a hot black boy is equal let alone beneath you? Why do you only feel bothered when it’s a white boy?

abbyjgriffin98 · Accepted Answer

People these days just aren't serious about relationships. Whether they are men or women. Cheating is very rampant. A lot of people are also very superficial. They want the best without bringing anything to the table. My ex wanted me to help him clean his entire apartment, take him places, visit him at work, take him lunch, do his laundry, etc. I kind of acted as a doormat but not because I was trying to keep him intrested in me. I just wanted to help him out because he worked so much and I wanted to show my appreciation. He had given me a ring and wanted me to move with him to Seattle because he got a new job without even considering me and how I would feel about him moving. Red flag. But I decided I was going to move with him. But a month before we were supposed to move, I saw his ex-girlfriend's credit card in his clothes while I was doing his laundry. He denied anything happened, but ultimately, I didn't believe him. And when I was unpacking my clothes I retrieved from his apartment, I saw some woman's underwear. It's kind of funny, because he constantly accused me of cheating. He even searched through my phone. I never searched through his, but, clearly, I should have. Anyways, it's hard to find someone you love, share chemistry and are compatible with who will also remain loyal to you. Regardless of gender.

DonaldDarko · Accepted Answer

I know too much about it now. Human sexuality doesn't work the way I thought. It's just for reproduction. Think of it like this. You love your friends, you want to be around them because of who they are. You love them because of that alone. They might be fat, ugly, lazy or what ever else but you like them because the are them. With the opposite sex it's different, they look a certain way , they're a certain age. They make X amount of money and so on ad nausium. See, it's a job not a relationship. Those are job qualifications and ultimately that will take precedence over who they are as a person. The fact that the whole thing evolved for reproduction will always contaminate it with that as an ulterior motive. That's why people cheat or break up and why they say all is fair in love and war. Think of break ups or cheating as you got fired from your job. It's disgusting, we just coat it in a veneer of romance and respectability. We don't like to think of ourselves as some sort of reptiles.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

Just a lack of genuine interest honestly I’m not going to waste my time or the time of someone else if I just don’t feel the connection. Does it hurt to reject people and tell someone they aren’t for me? Yeah I don’t like it. But it’s better then wasting their time so they can’t find someone whose right.

If I just genuinely never feel anything romantic for someone even after going on dates. As well as just find we aren’t compatible maybe it’s personality or maybe we are simply looking for different things. Could be politics or religion…. I’ll break things off on a respectful basis.

So really. It’s me… yes I could string someone along and pretend to really be into someone but that’s disgusting and wrong to do. I see people do it and it never ends well.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Great question! As a relationship coach, I often see fear of vulnerability playing tricks on the mind, making people shy away from love like it's a Monday morning. 😂 Past heartbreaks can make someone cautious or hesitant to jump back into the dating pool. Sometimes it's about timing or personal goals. You know, focusing on yourself isn't a bad thing; you gotta love yourself before love-bombing someone else. Whatever it is, remember that love works in mysterious but hilarious ways! 💞

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

I can’t trust women and i’m not attracted to men.

AlexBlack007 · Answer

Well... For a good portion of my life it was a lack of confidence, self-esteem issues and social anxiety. Lately though it has switched to certain insecurities I've developed and major trust issues. I happen to be an overthinker and am convinced my romantic relationships will always fail. Either because of a disloyal partner or my own trust issues driving her away because obviously no woman (or man) should have to constantly keep proving their loyalty in a relationship. I can see how that would destroy any partner, whoever is crazy enough to get into all that mess and deal with me. So it's best if I don't waste anyone's time and energy. Maybe if by some miracle I manage to work out my issues before too long, I can maybe consider believing in relationships again.

Bricealan · Answer

@simslover92 The one, pretty woman that I am crazy about, is married, lives hundreds of miles away, and is married, for some reason to man, not her equal, and has been married to him for 18 years.  Another woman who lives in Oceanside, that I have been seeing for several years, is just not someone I want a long term relationship with. I feel like I know you somewhat, and will tell you this. We only had sex once, with me being the aggressive one, and her passive, (oral sex) and she was not willing to reciprocate, and left me 'cold' in terms of carrying anything further with her. NOT TMI, I hope? .

MannMitAntworten · Answer

What likes me lately is far different from what I am used to. Up my mountain it is boozing 60 plus women who largely seem to want my attention. Down the mountain, it is fluffy handsy latin women. How the demographics have changed.

On a different note, a married couple I am good friends with want to set me up with their “very very …very single friend.” Their words. I met her once and spent some time with her with our friends. Far more along the lines of who I would be used too so I am
Not opposed to their, ‘intervention’. She neither drinks nor smokes so I don’t have to worry about boozer moments either. Bonus…

Screenwriter · Answer

Availability of men in my age group who are unattached.. And a host of men who are no longer sexually interested or able.

Not many men from 59 to 69 are unattached. And many have sexual difficulty. There's that too.

And I don't run into many older men, period. And then there's attraction. They might not be interested in me and I'm not interested in them. It's all the factors applicable to younger people, but far fewer people to choose from.

Berethor · Answer

Good women are rare and I am not perfect, also I highly prefer a virgin and it hard to find.

Steelcore5280 · Answer

Well for one, I don't think I can meet women's overly inflated expectations they demand out of men now in our current relationship and dating climate.

For the other reason, I can no longer trust women and now even view them as a threat to my well-being.

I'm not gay, so like many men, I find myself in long term (possibly lifelong) bachelorhood.

WonderingManII · Answer

This isn't easy for me to answer. Some of it is because of my learning disability. Some of it is because those that were around me didn't like me like that. Now days, I don't have anyone in my life that I could be with. I just keep getting older.

samael_kmarty · Answer

Not getting a chance?
Can I say that,
I ask out like at least 1 girl, in 1 or 2 weeks
And swipe 10 to 15 profiles on dating apps
So if I do the math from 5 months near about 300-500 swipes (sometimes one day premium)

I am not exciting enough i think or I don't have good looks.

ananias55 · Answer

Relationships suck. I've tried them and they've left me broken. Nowadays I just stick to fwbs. And it's so much better. Less stress and more affection.

With me, I can't date because my lifestyle isn't fit for it anymore. But, life is great.

OneViewpoint · Answer

Choice. I have too many opportunities. But at the moment, I'm enjoying my freedom and a lack of drama. Friends and getting laid once in a while is a better option for me than the entanglement of a "relationship.

HighValue · Answer

The immorality of most women making them totally unacceptable as a partner. Also, I don't want more stress in life, or a financial burden that contributes nothing. I'd only be in a relationship if it would make my life better and make me happier, not if it would make my life worse.

queenofcardio · Answer

It's the type of relationship I'm currently looking for. I don't wanna waste my time anymore on a relationship that will lead to nowhere.

Circushowcowboy · Answer

I kind of have been enjoying the luxuries that come with being single. Being able to go wherever whenever and not have to coordinate with others about any choice I make is something I’ve become accustomed to.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I tend to be too judgmental in romantic relationships. I expect what my mom and dad had, but that is exceedingly rare and I am not as good of a person as my dad was.

NathanDavis · Answer

nothing really... I'm just not actively going for it

sawno · Answer

Partially health, partially not meeting people I want to be with.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Nothing has ever stopped me. I have been in relationships for the past 24 years.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

The desire to remain single. It’s much more peaceful and overall beneficial to me.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

My past experiences, the fact that i'm about to hit 40 and my son is 18, also i don't think that i'll ever meet a woman in reality who is able to truly love me forever... etc

elizamichale1 · Answer

Nothing... thatswhy I m very happily married

BeechImFabulous · Answer

Most women don't want farmer boyfriends, and my work is one of the few things that makes me happy. So I choose my work unless a farmer chick comes along.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I am happily married.

Guanfei · Answer

I'm ugly, shy, stupid, awkward and basically I don't even have the smallest opportunity with a girl.

Darkest-Knight · Answer

I'm old, fat and ugly. No woman is so desperate that she would date me.

dougeats · Answer

Too many incognito gold diggers so friends with benefits for now

dragoblack · Answer

Having mutual attraction and women interested in a healthy relationship with me.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

The thing that's stopping me from being in a relationship is me

qwerty2469 · Answer

My wife. Divorce is the only thing that gets less affordable l, the more you have

Anonymous · Answer

My shyness, introversion, and lack of self-confidence.

Peace0fMind1994 · Answer

I'm in the "good things happen to people who wait boat" especially the situation I'm in

Anonymous · Answer

Shyness not wanting to be hurt anymore not wanting to face rejection or be cheated on anymore

RavVid · Answer

Don't want to be. It is not allowed now.

sage2021 · Answer

Lack of guys around me.

Flower7 · Answer

Don’t want to.

katiesmuff · Answer

Nothing I'm in a permanent one as I am married

exitseven · Answer

If my wife found out it would be bad.

Shiprex · Answer

Moving to another country.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Current anti polygamy laws

blondfrog · Answer

Women you all have way too high standards lol.

JailyneMariaH · Answer

abuse & cheating

Dongie · Answer

I guess it's a mix of experience and common sense.

msc545 · Answer

Hard - earned wisdom.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Freedom. Mostly freedom.

nawtee_me · Answer

About 8,360 miles…..

Arcadian222 · Answer

Not been able to find someone right lately

Abbiii · Answer

Not having anyone interested

dustybiker2 · Answer

Foresight.

Anonymous · Answer

Being an old broke bastard.

beebella · Answer

Literally me. 😬

jazzy34 · Answer

No prospects, lol.

biraileeşkadını · Answer

This is not an obstacle to true love.

fonduegirl · Answer

My mother

McSteamy · Answer

Emotional damage

smahala1991 · Answer

Myself and time

Blackcat1952 · Answer

EVERYTHING

raaz222 · Answer

Loosing of freedom.

Anonymous · Answer

Nobody like me

eagle1951 · Answer

old age

Anonymous · Answer

Small dick

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