Well I guess my bad experience with one women my ex wife to be exact
My parents were gone when I was 16 so I was in a dark place I didn't even recover much when At 25 my relatives arranged a marriage, my marriage lasted less than 3 months. I don't fully blame her she has her part thats very clear , she wanted to have a rich guy pay her bills while she spends nights with multiple sex partners never committing to anyone
That's her plan and it didn't work,
As for my problems I belive I am a bit silent serious type not very romantic or emotional hardly anyone has seen me smile, I don't have friends in real life or online,
Now if I go to a psychologist he would probably write down a medical term for one or the other problem in a paper specifically any mental disorders
But I don't think that's the actually case, after the say experiences I decided ban all females and am not looking for love, I leaned to find happiness inside me rather than another person, I am not at all interested in sex or porn, I use my time and energy in doing what I feel is right by my viewpoint
Which is earn money and help the poor, weak,
Regarding myself I like to travel and I do Travel a lot all alone, and prefer to go to places where there are very few human faces around
I haven't met anyone I like enough.
I'm so used to being single that I don't know how to make space for someone.
I've got a few things to deal with yet before open up to others.
The guys I've met haven't been the right suitor for me.
The longest guy I dated, well that's just a series of controlling messy situations.
The other relationship, he was cheating.
The other guy he was a virgin, I didn't realise. He lied to me and said he hadn't had a girlfriend since college, but he was a 'virgin'. He spent such a long time being single he desperately needed to me to attend things to show he could get a girlfriend. It was really insulting to me, he started to act really unkind, because he had a good job and I was taking a career gap (I worked 7days p/w for 2 years) that that was the only reason I was with him.
He even went as far as trying to make me get fat (buying junk food, he had weight issues) so I'd be too miserable to leave.
It's sad that he went to such limits.
He's met someone now 10 years later. And they have a family (I'm friends with his cousin).
I don't need a man to do anything in particular other than be a good and decent partner.
None of this controlling, trying to constantly impress me and others. Just a confident chill guy.
When I meet that guy I'll be ready.
Nothings really stopping me. He and i will continue to flirt our asses off with eachother and see if something more comes of it
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Should have added one for "I'm in a relationship, and want to see poll results."
So I picked E.
Since super powers aren't a real thing, it's hard to know who's actually interested in me for me and not for my wallet. There are a lot of gold diggers, and it seems that no matter how hard I get into a relationship loyalty commitment the whole nine yards it's always an obstacle being put in the middle between me and reaching my goals with her and I prefer to be single because in a relationship I'm in with a woman they keep complaining about me blowing up their phone with texts but yet they refuse to text me back every now and then. Giving me the sign that I think I messed up in the relationship if they're not talking communication is supposed to be the key factor in the relationship then if the woman is not talking to me then I guess that's a sign saying that she wasn't interested in me from the start.
I'm an introvert did had to become an extrovert but with covid-19 I reverted back to introvert LOL so now you can see that I'm confused LMAO. I'm single today because basically I just don't have it together with the covid-19 thing going with this stuff going off and on at work and then I have my own side jobs that I get I'm just Spread Way Too Thin and when I'm in a relationship I like to put it all in and this. Of time in my life I just couldn't do that and I don't want to waste somebody's time or piss off somebody because I'm not 100% there I would be scattered everywhere
I'm more logical then anything else. Emotions be it own or someone else's can drive me up the wall. Simply because there are times where you can't make logical since of them. It's one of the main reasons I'm single and why my nickname has been Spock since grade school. I am the kind of person that gets lost in projects. There are times where I'll spend days, weeks or even months working on something and pretty much drop off the map when doing so. There is a very, very good chance that a relationship is something I won't devote much time to if I'm neck deep in a project. Also I don't think it would be good to turn a relationship into a project. A relationship isn't necessary to live. It's not as essential as food, sleep and shelter. Seeing people act as if it is does make one question getting into one.
Dating society for men is extremely garbage. Men are dime a dozen for women, which is why their inboxes are always flooded... guys, we are dealing with the current social change of what is acceptable and what isn't from what we were taught growing up. We also don't get flooded with invites and compliments from women either. It's even worse when it comes to online dating. We don't get to choose because the algorithms screw us over if we dislike a profile, we are bombarded with scams, bots, sexcam profiles, solicitation, and hookup offers. Not to mention the amount of ghosting and people who can't handle the most basic conversation.
I used to obsess over that shit, till I got what I had been wanting so bad. Then I learned how much better off I was before I took on all that constant drama, noise, financial liability, and general decline in well-being that comes with it. The moral of the story - Be careful what you wish for.
I go to a dead collage no one there worth any interest, and then volunteer in a charity shop which the only other people who do are old people. So my social surroundings don't really lead to meeting a girl.
So i cannot even interact with a girl IRL nvm one get close enough to be a friend or more. That's not even taking into account of them liking me, or me liking them, Or there always taken already.
u I currently have things to take care of that need plenty of time, focus, attention and dedication... and I am no in no rush, once I get this under control and it that is just a matter of time, then I might actually look into the possibility of a relationship or... one will just start happening as it's usually the case, in my experience but for now... I am just not looking into it
I don't like myself:
I don't give myself any credit, I hate me, I hate my looks, I pussy out of talking to girls, I don't really try because I feel like I'm not good enough for them.
I'm ugly and girls have said that to me so I don't really get a chance before I open my mouth.
I don't blame them though, it's my fault for not being a little more lenient on myself
I haven't had enough time available to realistically maintain a relationship for the last couple years and that will continue for close to one more year. If someone liked me, most likely it would stay at a talking stage for months the way things are right now.
Plus there aren't really people good enough for me that are single. they don't meet my standards, usually due to their morals and past behavior.
Don't have any self esteem or confidence... I would like to have a girlfriend... But jus don't feel worthy of any like all girls are too good for me... Also... I even lack bravery to talk to or look at a girl... Such a fear that I don't see it ever happening
i’m at this weird age that feels like a crossroads where girls my age are baby crazy and it frightens me but when i date younger i tend to no relate to them/find them really annoying 🤣 but being annoyed is better than an oops baby i suppose 🤔
Too scared to try, lol, at least for now.
I don't think a lot people where I live are compatible with me either, due to some cultural and religious reason.
not ideal living and financial conditions currently. i always say im not looking for anything but if i met the woman of my dreams o course im gonna go for it.
First of all i am not at all handsome or even average looking, second lack of confidence. Shy , Introvert, Negative Nature.
A very unromantic but hopefully temporary health problem. Otherwise I would be trying to meet half the city at this point :-D
I guess to be honest I’m a little picky right now and also just like be single and independent. I’m having some of the best sex of my life with women and girls of all ages. So unless i meet a nearly perfect mate i’ll stay where I am.
As much as I wanted a relationship, after so many rejections, it seemed like a wasted pursuit. While my friends encourage me to keep trying, I'm not convinced that anything would change if I happen to get back on the market.
I’m too ugly to enter the dating world. But, I have a king heart for friendship :)
I know I'm a toxic person and pulling someone into my world will end up in hurt.
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