What is the reason you don't want to be in relationship right now?

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The reason why I don't wanna be in relationship because I have depression and anxiety. And it's getting worse, I can't control my emotions. I also feel so insecure. So, I choose to be not in relationship for now because I have to heal my mental illness and I have to love myself first before I love someone.

hi_it_is_me123 · Accepted Answer

Funny how used up men with baggage in their 30-50s complain about modern women although women their age grow up with traditional, cuckservative, and stone age values but at the same they like traditional, cuckservative values etc. Maybe they mean young women aka minors as modern women (?) -if this is the case they have literally pedo tendencies. These incels who want women to be like 50s housewife just want beta cuck slaves. They can't just accept that women are no longer beta cucks that obey their husbands like a beta simp. I mean every selfish person wish a partner that obey them. If a woman prefered submissive men, she would be called feminazi. I also want to say that many people are not made for marriage. In the past divorce was taboo aka not allowed for women. So of course divorce rate is high now. I am from middleeastern/asia and i know many married couples who stay together despite disliking eachother since divorce is taboo, if it was not taboo, we would have a high divorce rate too. So i dont understand men who complain about the high divorce rate. Do you really want a woman who can't divorce you although she hates you? Why? Divorce rate is high for a reason. Women in the past were pressured to marry in western world which is not a wise decision but as soon as the divorce was not a taboo anymore, the divorce rate got high. Nowdays people marry wisely than older generations and as a result the divorce rate ain't high for younger generation. Many people are not made for marriage. So in the past the divorce rate was low but many married couples that stay together since divorce was taboo and not because they like it eachother so much. Then the marriage laws tend to be antiman-this should be changed but these antiman laws were a product of patriarchy and not of feminism-mainstream feminism in the media has some problems but you can't blame every shit on feminism

crazyish · Accepted Answer

Pretty much the same reason as you. Just add in the fact that I don't trust my own mind to know the truth and that I'm effing crazy. I don't want to put that on anyone else or expect certain things I need from anyone else but myself. I need to work on myself. Granted it does get lonely being single and I would love nothing more than to have someone who genuinely cares and wants me at my worst but that's extremely rare to find. Most don't see the broken as worth it. But it would be better for me to go it alone in the long run tbh.

Wisdom-Strength-Love · Accepted Answer

we probably all have a lot of reasons that contribute to being single, some we are fully aware of while others we are not. I truly think many are in denial of the biggest reason and mask it with a reason that justifies being alone, which also could be accurate. For me, I've been passive when it comes to exploring love and encountering women. I try to justify my situation by telling myself that I want to improve not only stability, but also my soul, mind, and body because I know my worth. I want to come into the game knowing It's the best version I know myself to be.

The question for me is what is holding me back from being at my best? The answer is another problem. Spoiler alert, it's addiction. I guess the real reason I am single is because of drugs. I don't want the person I fall in love with have to deal with my drug abuse and related issues because she deserves better than that.

coachTanthony · Accepted Answer

---------------It's not so much not wanting to be in a relationship. I just don't want to be in a relationship with just anyone. So it could take a while to find that partner you mesh with. Until then... having fun and traveling isn't a bad choice in life.

"Make yourself a priority once in a while. It's not selfish it's necessary."
~Coach T Anthony @thedatecoach IG

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I would rather be single than with the wrong person, or with a person who is not interested in marriage

Howdy13 · Answer

I don't even know what it would be like to actually be in a relationship. I haven't got real close to one before, so I'm still lost on how you even get into one. I guess thats the reason why I don't want to be in one, it's just an unknown feeling to me. And gettin my heart broke before without being in a relationship was horrible, I can only imagine how much worse it'll feel when I'm in one. and I'm not ready to put myself through that right now. And I guess there's still things I need to work on although I don't even know what im working on anymore

TruthBringer · Answer

I have to compliment you for choosing to fix yourself before you let another person deal with your issues aswel. Too many people who are depressed get into relationships in hopes of helping them get out of the depression. Which is an selfish act that saps the emotional and mental energy of the other person. I've been on the receiving end so I know how exhausting it is. Even though I'm currently in a relationship, I know how it feels to be down the weather for some time. I also took my time to recover before started dating, and it was an excellent choice. So that is one example of why I would be single.

Another example to why I would remain single like I have been is not meeting someone who shares the same mindset and values. Thankfully I've found that person. If not, then I would remain single until I do.

Overmind · Answer

Because I have not met *her* yet. You know? the one I'd be willing to commit heart & soul to. I'm beginning to think she doesn't exist :p I never had a girlfriend before (won't let them that close to my heart) although I had a shameless period of time in my teens where I went total sloot mode for 3 months. I regretted it ever since. Drives my friends crazy. "how could you pass that up"? All meaningless until I meet *her*. I'm a Virgo sun Pisces full moon Venus in cancer. Probably the hardest type of guy to land.

IcyPeppermint · Answer

I don't want to be a relationship right now because I want to value my single life before it's gone. A lot of teenagers nowadays don't value their single life. They're in such a rush to get a boyfriend/girlfriend, but don't put themselves first. Also, it's because I just don't feel like I'm ready for relationship right now. My life is so busy, so that means I don't have the time an energy for relationship at the moment. I want to live my life right now. when the time is right, God will give me the man of my dreams.

Quidthonian · Answer

I am an introvert and I like my alone time. Also, being on my own, I spend more than I earn, breaking even if there are no surprise expenses. Although I crave having that someone special in my life, I don't want the politics of a relationship. Also, from experience, women quickly lose interest in me and move on. I would want regularity from a relationship: I would want a shoulder to cry on, and be that shoulder. I would want her to check in with me on a *very* regular basis, where I can tell her what a rough day I had.

Anonymous · Answer

Most people disappoint me... and I’m having a hard enough time looking out for myself anyway, despite my honest efforts.

I’ve grown up in a pretty cozy environment, so then to go out into a world and see how irrational, lacking in decency, and just all-round low class so many people are, I’m in no hurry to associate with anyone of the sort.

I probably sound like a jerk saying this, but whatever. I just see a world of people out there that aren’t putting their best feet forward. And they simply don’t care, because if they did, they’d clean themselves up. Good people are hard to come by.

MLGbreezy · Answer

In love with a girl that doesn't wanna be with me and has a boyfriend, I laso know that we probably wouldn't work long term, but she's such an amazing person and we have some chemistry. But I can force her to like me even if I could I wouldn't want to. I'd want her to love me of her own free will but thing is I'm not her type. Which kills me inside cause she essential likes the thing I hate hearing about the most,. The things all girls love to preach and say is the ideal man the quote on quote bad boy

Anonymous · Answer

Freedom. I am kinda stuck in a seven year relationship which started in childhood. It’s harder to break up when it’s long-term and began in childhood. I wish I knew what it felt like to be single because I have literally been in a relationship all my life since before I got into a relationship I was a kid.

I sometimes think I just wanna live life alone without having to answer to anybody and just be able to do what I want when I want. I want to be able to make decisions without worrying about somebody else and how it’ll impact them.

WhiteWolf69 · Answer

I understand that completely. I was where you are at a couple years ago. I decided that I need help with it and went to get help. I've been in therapy for 2 years now and it is really helping. I've learned to control my emotions and figure out what the root cause of them are and worked through those issues. I still have anxiety and it does let me know that something is wrong and I figure out what is wrong and work though it. My depression hasn't been an issue in about a year. Cognitive reconstruction really helps.

Anonymous · Answer

Unable to find true love, I AM JUST SICK OF FLIRTY and emotionless people.
I mean why the hell people can't commit, love and stay forever?
People only love the best parts of you i. e. when you're cheerful, interesting, adventurous, charming, smart, independent, affectionate but will lose interest once you show them your sad, dull, angry and insecure side. That's why I feel like it's not worth my time to come in a relationship. If I'm doing all these good things for me I don't need an energy vampire who will enjoy my energy, love for free and won't CONTRIBUTE ANYTHING (be able to handle me on my bad days and provide unconditional love).

NyceGuyFinishingLast · Answer

I feel happier being single because I am free. I am not a burden to anyone else. I don't have to compromise any time besides for my kids and job. I get the whole bed to myself. I can go anywhere at any time and don't have to check in with someone. Holidays are less hectic. Less arguing or fighting. I can watch whatever I want to watch. Just me time until I don't want it to be.

nxxxxxxxxxxxa · Answer

I think you need to seek counselling for your anxiety and depression so that you can seek love successfully when you are ready for it. I see a psychotherapist and a psychiatrist and they have been very helpful for me.

I used to not want to be in a relationship because of my mental health, too. I’ve also been in trouble with the law (I haven’t been imprisoned) and I feel like that this is a barrier for me finding love.

VanillaSalt · Answer

I understand no woman will ever love me more then me. Women now don’t want to fulfill the role I need her too. It’s degrading to submit to a husband. I know if I’m accused of rape I will, without evidence, be locked up because next to a woman a man’s voice is silent. Marriage don’t have have any value anymore. Women today are rude, combative, and ugly both inside and out and society support their bad choice.

tatianamay · Answer

Ahh well, I don’t want to be in a relationship rn because I want to concentrate on my studies first. Im in my senior year, and that’s way more important to me than some stupid guy who’s gonna breakup with me after a few years/months. Im also too shy to talk to guys and would stutter a lot hahah

AnggieGirl · Answer

Men just enjoy the “honey moon phase” and then ditch. They don’t have any interest in making a good thing work unless it only always works in their favor, that’s why they date younger women or desperate codependent women or that’s why they pay for an escort as well. A real woman won’t put up any mans crap 💩 facts

hannahjo022 · Answer

I find the dating stages to be overwhelming and like everyone else I have not found the "person" who I actually want to be in a relationship with yet. My last relationship was last year and he jumped into a relationship fast. I'm just enjoying being single and myself at the moment until I find the person who I want to be in a relationship with and they feel the same way with me.

Cathy7734 · Answer

I've read that one of the philosophies of recovery programs is to get several plants first. If they aren't dead by the end of the year then get a dog or cat or several of them. If they aren't dead by the end of the year then you may be ready for a relationship.

The reason I'm not in a relationship is I can't find a guy who wants to get to know me. They just want sex. I do know some nice men but they are already in a relationship.

Vikkrram · Answer

People who says that they don't wanna in relationship trust me either they had break ups, love failure, depression, anxiety or they have extreme shyness that they can go to that person... and can even say hello to them..

Mine is shyness... i like a girl she is younger than me... but coz of my shyness i can't even said hi to her in 2 years... just a casual hi...
I thaught i will talk with her... but i don't know how she will react?

Saph765 · Answer

My parents ruined my last relationship and he left me because of how my parents treated him. I tried my best to stick up for him. Probs not the best idea to get in a relationship till I move out since my parents like to inject themselves into everything and state unsolicited opinions.

Mamaganja · Answer

Not wanting to deal with the headache of getting cheated on again. Hard to find anyone who is truly loyal. I am also a victim of Domestic Violence and have PTSD. Very hard for me to trust men in general because of it. I’m working on self, in fb therapy, and just want to focus on being a mother to my daughter.

FatherJack · Answer

After the marriage I endured , never again. Also , I am a single FT working dad , I cannot compete in the very male heavy , sausage fest " dating market " , even if I chose to. I am the type that is happy in , and prefers my own company. Relationships are stressful and nothing but dealing with conflict & constant complaining & similar BS , a big no from me !!

Backstage_ · Answer

Because of the lack of my trust to anyone due to some of my bad experiences in the past with my ex girlfriends so I have decided that I need to take a rest for sometime to recover up my energy to start new relationship with the correct person. It seems a bit tough but worth it to wait for.

ODC2112 · Answer

It is very rare for me to find people with whom it is possible to have communication. It is even more difficult to find people willing to have a relationship that is not superficial and authentic. Most of the women I dealt with were people who saw the relationship as a trading relationship, as if feelings and actions were a type of business.

DWornock · Answer

It is better to fuck women than to be in a relationship because relationships end up costing a lot of money especially if you end up in family court and that is more likely than not. Women should be fucked for about the length of a fishing season and then dumped because that is when they start making demands.

Rok4bakAR · Answer

I live in South Asia. The girls here lots of them are hot as hell.
But they’re extremely lazy. They’ve got zero drive ambitions they have no abilities to cook or any skills they just go outside eat rest lack of social aspects in their lives don’t really talk etc...

Fkin dead on the inside just good for couple pokes that’s it

dray995 · Answer

I do want one but all that stuff you mentioned isn’t gonna just go away when you’re in a relationship. Those issues stay with you the rest of your life. If that’s the only reason you don’t want to be in a relationship with someone, then you should take a chance with that person and be in a relationship with them anyways. If they really do care about you, then they’ll be okay with your flaws, support you and help you overcome all that stress when you’re with them.

Minx7282 · Answer

Yes, it's mainly I haven't met a man worthy of my time. But also im single because I have my son to think about as a priority. Also most guys that I've come accross are not suitable model for him. So I choose to stay single

Anonymous · Answer

I'm in a sticky spot with strained family relations and an uncertain but stable for now future intentions. Hoping for the best. Planning for the worst (its fine i merely move out, seek a hostel or charity support for a while, and get back on my feet renting a studio apartment. And i'll be happier for it 😊

menina · Answer

I'm sorry to hear about your depression and anxiety. I hope you get well soon. :)
I don't want to be in a relationship right now because I don't want to date guys from the country where I live. They're racist, violent and xenophobic.

havingfun101 · Answer

Relationships aren't worth the financial and legal risks. Marriage, cohabitation, sex and childbirth rates are at all time lows and women file 80% of divorces and get custody and alimony in 90% of cases. F#ck the future.

JDavid25 · Answer

I do actually.. But at my age even women younger than me most likely expect me to be further than I am right now.. Especially since I'm close to the settling down age.. I just need to get off of my feet really..

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I'm in a tiny house, now, not like the big one I used to have. Where would I put her? Sure, she can have the spare bedroom or even share my bed, if she likes but, I don't even have room here for all of MY stuff!! where would she put hers?

Woman1 · Answer

I want to get in my feet first. I’m pretty stressed right now and a pretty private person in general. I don’t have the energy to put into a relationship like that.

Anonymity123999 · Answer

to be honest I've always found the dating/talking phase to be more interesting/entertaining than being in an actual relationship. The relationships just left me disappointed and my expectations were never met.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Because for a man, relationships are far too much work, risk, pain. Modern women are just too problematic.

Avilash_ · Answer

Don't want to get hurt again,  Don't have the same feeling to love someone again,  Don't want to give the same efforts , Happy to be single now

HSSC12 · Answer

Because I am apparently super weird and defective, or at least that’s what I’ve been told and people don’t want that. They become immediately bothered by me unfortunately.

RawIronhide · Answer

Honestly, I feel all of that and it's made for a lack in my confidence and that's a huge turn off to most women. Also modern dating feels so comodified I really would rather not participate.

lightbulb27 · Answer

agree with you. because it's hard work emotionally, sometimes and gets exhausting, confounding

kitkills · Answer

It's a lot of work, you have to talk to the same person over and over again, and no matter how much you trust them they can fuck you over and ruin you.

just_a_potato · Answer

I'm a lot like you in a sense, I want to be able to love myself first before I drag a boyfriend/girlfriend along with me to my pity party. I'm praying for you ma'am. If you believe in that.

ohshee · Answer

To be honest with you cuz I'm looking for something looking for for quite a while now and I'm still looking

Account · Answer

I honestly can't deal with something like that right now. I can't invest energy and emotion into that. I need to focus on my goals

MCheetah · Answer

I do want to be in a relationship. Women just are universally not attracted to men who look like me, especially short ones.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

My last ex made off with the remnants of my cardiac muscle. What took its place is smartassry and sarcasm. Women only appreciate that for a few hours at best.

Anonymous · Answer

Well I want a relationship, but I hate the "process" to get there (dating etc). I'm also not a fan of drama, so that's one of the benefits of being single.

kc_4308 · Answer

I haven’t found anyone worth settling down with yet ( HER )

PBarlow · Answer

Pressure of expectation from the other one. I can barely take care of the pressure I put on myself.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Although I date on and off, I prefer to remain single to not only work for the things I want and I also prefer to explore my options for when it comes to dating and lifestyle.

damaster · Answer

It's not that I don't wanna be in a relationship, it's just that I don't wanna be with anybody. Other than that, having a hard time finding a woman that's interested in me to pursue a relationship with.

magiusX26 · Answer

unable to find anyone worth getting to know to maybe become a relationship.

Jenngirl00 · Answer

Too many covid cases and a lot of people still do not care

Nik1hil · Answer

I do like girls...  But I am Single...  Because I don't want to catch COOTIES!.. 😮👉👈

Alyssa11 · Answer

Girl if you figure out how to fix your anxiety and depression please let me know lol.

Anonymous · Answer

I didn't want to be in a relationship because of the same reasons you listed, but now i've met a nice guy who does everything to put my mind at ease. The right guy won't trigger your mental health

FictionalCharacter · Answer

I do want to be in a relationship. But I don’t know what I can offer to other person besides love.

AdithyaR · Answer

A couple reasons I'm too lazy to actually get out and meet someone. I don't think I'm cut out to be a boyfriend or husband.

Jackson8650 · Answer

Sounds like you’re on the right track. The right one will “get” you and love you regardless of faults. We all have them. In the meantime, enjoy being a Range Rover.

SlavBoi · Answer

I want to focus on myself and my businesses. I won't be packing myself in any relationships until I am sure I can sustain myself, my woman and the family future. Hustling over loving

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