Why do I still have moments where I think of my ex who left me and randomly start crying? I am seeing someone new for months. Am I not over him?

[Anonymus2001]

[Finchie40]

It sounds like it to me , that you clearly aren’t over your ex and you probably shouldn’t have entered a new relationship with someone else just yet , since you aren’t over your ex. Sadly this sort of thing happens a lot , your new boyfriend is just a rebound for you , you can’t fully love him, because you still have feelings for your ex , so really ask yourself if you want to continue your relationship with your new boyfriend or set him free , so he can find someone that wants to fully love him , because it’s selfish of you to string him along , while you are still grieving over your ex. Understand your ex is an ex for a reason , if he was so Great? He wouldn’t be your ex period , so why hold on to someone that didn’t hold on to you? You are best to focus on moving on from your ex completely and realize you deserve someone that wouldn’t walk away from you , Start focusing on Your current boyfriend and realize your current boyfriend is standing by your side , so you should do the same before losing him as well. Never take an ex back unless you both split up for minor reasons with no conflict , but if there was conflict causing you both the split up? You would be stupid to think things would get better the next time around , it would just be a matter of time before that conflict comes back around.

[Anonymous]

Don't know if that's true. Some of the best snipers in ww2 were Russian women. I guess the big problem for women as frontline infantry is that women are just not built to carry the gear over the distances required. Helmet, uniform, boots, armor, weapon, ammo, food, canteens, compass, first aid kit—everything a soldier wears and carries (their “load”) can add up to more than 68 pounds. In a combat mission, that weight can skyrocket to as much as 120 pounds. In Iraq and Afghanistan a lot of soldiers and marines had to be given medical discharges not due to enemy fire but because the weight of carrying their gear which resulted in fractures, breakages, arthritis etc in their ankles, feet, knees and back. They feminists in Israel tried to enforce equality in the Israeli army with women drafted into frontline infantry roles like the men but the women kept getting injured in basic training. My platoon's lieutenant is a woman and on a few exercises she has fallen over with her full gear on and not been able to get up again and we've had to carry her back to barracks because she is so exhausted.

[sheikalana]

You may be over him but you may not yet be over the breakup. The breakup obviously hurt you deeply. It takes time heal.

[Anonymous]

You don't sound emotionally mature enough for relationships at this point in your life.

[Fireguy17]

It doesn't seem like you are.
It's a loss, and a grieving process.
Look it up and see what stage you are in.
If it lasts too long you might want to see a professional to help you move on.

[Miristheiss]

Because they left you. If you left them you wouldn't care, but they left you so it is getting to you.

[noohair]

I have discovered that I can't grow if I live in the past. It is also a waste of my energy to dwell on things that I can't or don't want to change. Purge all photos from all devices and platforms and live going forward.

[he-takes-a-part]

You answer this. It's just fading phases of him. You are gaining new strength and for it to have space You must empty older ones. Generally You cry more hence the same. Others empty through drinks smoke.

[Anonymous]

Probably need some sort of closure. Your heart, your feelings are still w the other dude. The breakup doesn’t sound like it was a mutual thing. Was it?

[exitseven]

It is normal. You go someplace that you went with him and it brings back the memory. It is unexpected and you are not prepared.

[Staximus]

I don't know if you are over him or but, but you definitely aren't over the hurt caused by him leaving you. If you would take him back, you're not over him.

[jahaims]

You aren't emotionally healthy if you can't identify why you are crying. That usually means you aren't introspective enough and or honest enough with yourself.

[Yannae]

You are indeed not over him. Maybe wishing for him to work things out with you. I'm sorry to hear all that.

[RossyBoi]

You should dump him and be friends with him instead. That way you can't get dumped again.

[SotiCoto]

You answered your own question. Well done.

[MrDaveAPSI]

We really never forget our friends

[indianguy786]

You will be ok after some time..

[Aiko_E_Lara]

*hugs*