Would you wait until marriage?

[Anonymous]

Guys, you’ve found the person who you think is “the one”. She’s everything you’ve been looking for but she wants to wait until marriage to have sex. Is that a deal breaker?

[Psychoanalytical]

I wouldn't have sex before marriage myself, so I hope I can find such a lady. It depends on the person anyway. If you want my advice, try to find someone who shares a similar view/mentality as you, life will be far easier and more comfortable.

[Asker]

Thank you. That’s great advice.

[Everyoneisplastic]

It's not a deal breaker at all. In fact, it's my preference that a girl focuses more on a connection than sex.

[Asker]

Noted. Thanks for the response!

[abc3643]

I waited.
I would not do that again.
Why?
I loved her and was with her for 17 months and she wanted to hold on to her V-card until marriage. I was fine with that because I wanted to marry her. She knew I was in love with her. Then she dumped me. So, I basically threw away 17 months of valuable fucking time when I was still in my prime health fucking years. But, because I was so heartbroken and devastated by my loss of her, I basically threw away the rest of the next 8 years not having sex. By then, I was in my late 30s and my ability to have quality sex was coming to an end. I got ED in my early 40s.

So, now, I would not do that again and I encourage men not to wait - why throw away your best years for sed?
Furthermore, you need to sample the goods too because sexual chemistry is critical to a happy relationship.

Is it a deal-breaker?
It wasn't when I was in love.
But, looking back, it would be now.

[Asker]

Thank you for the response.

I totally understand what you’re saying and I’m sorry that you had to go through that.

May I ask though, does that include anything else sexual? Oral etc? Or was it just nothing Beyond a kiss?

[abc3643]

I am not sure what you are asking...

With that girl, we did sleep together and had __some__ fun, but she was 5 years younger than me so a bit immature and worried about what her parents thought, so she stopped sleeping with me after a few months.

[Asker]

Ok I understand. Thank you.

[slatyb]

Totallly. People aren’t always sexually compatible. If someone insisted on waiting I would wonder if they had much interest in an active sex life. Most people in western countries don’t wait and have not since the 1950’s. The professional class is now delaying marriage until the mid-20’s or later and that’s a long time to wait. Much too long for most people.

Thae alternative of May ring early is much worse, as young marriages often fail.

[CapnHawk]

Not at all. My late wife was a virgin up until the day we were wed.

[Asker]

Thank you for the response. I’m also sorry for your loss.

[CapnHawk]

Thank you. I miss her everyday.

[clampfan101]

I myself am waiting until marriage, and am hoping for someone who also wants to wait. (As apposed to just putting up with me about it.)

[Asker]

I understand. Thanks for the response!

[Dchrls78104]

Not for me. I'd wait with her until we got married.

[Asker]

Thanks for the reply

[AD240pCharlie]

She would have to be VERY special for me to consider celibacy until marriage. But if she is, then I would, even if I have yet to meet anyone I would do that for.

[Hermes-Paris]

Waiting until after dinner... well OK I could do that. Til marriage? Not what I am looking for. Who knows if we will even be alive tomorrow? Seems like some kind of torture.

[Anonymous]

Personally, I think you should know your mate as well as possible before you commit to marriage. Intimacy and sex are an important part of this.

[Anonymous]

Yeah me and my girlfriend are doing that although neither of us are virgins

[Asker]

Thank you for the response!

[Opinion Owner]

Sometimes I think it's unfair but willing to do what I got to do

[Asker]

I understand.

If you don’t mind me asking, are you refraining from anything else that’s considered sexual. Eg. Oral , dry humping?

[Opinion Owner]

A little bit of other stuff but not a whole lot

[Asker]

Ok. Thanks so much!

[TylerKuykendall]

I've been waiting for the 26 years I've been alive, and will continue to do so.

[magiusX26]

i would not wait because i would have to truly kniw (through experience) that she could handle at least the majority of my kinks.

[TheAfrikan]

Sex never gets expired even am to be 80yrs old I still hit and nut her. So I would wait for her if she prefers it easy.

[msc545]

It might be. There may be something very mentally wrong with her.

[SunnySri]

Why not mam? I would definitely wait for her.

[BCRanger10]

I waited until I got married.

[Iron_Man]

No it’s to be respected and that’s what I want

[Asker]

Thank you for the response.
Just to clarify, are you saying that No you will not wait until marriage?
Or No it’s not a deal breaker?

(Silly me added 2 questions so I’m confused with the responses now)

[Iron_Man]

I will love to wait until after marriage, she's very respected for that and should be put on a pedestal

[Asker]

Not a lot of men say this. In appreciate the response

[Iron_Man]

You are very welcome I am not like most men

[startingfitness]

depends, is she a virgin?

[Asker]

Yeah she is

[REDHOTLINE]

No never actually marriaga sex is deal breaker

[Asker]

I appreciate the response

[REDHOTLINE]

Thanks i did snd now I am regret sbout it

[Asker]

It was that bad huh? I’m sorry

[REDHOTLINE]

I was a virgin until 30 marriage.
I was no sex in my life
Now again no sex in my life.

[Asker]

If you don’t mind me asking, was It difficult waiting until 30? Did you want to wait?

[REDHOTLINE]

I you borned a conservative country end of the 1970s and if you were poor and you you are a guy Its not a choose. This is a must

[Asker]

Ah ok. I understand. Thanks for sharing.

[REDHOTLINE]

Not at all but live the sex like a crazy. you have chance and also you are young yet.

[Asker]

I don’t mind it. I just have a fear of being used for my body. I’m looking for the right guy to do it with.

[REDHOTLINE]

First sex is most important sex for a woman... you should be find right man but. Sex not mean a man use woman body you are wrong about it

[Asker]

I agree with you.

[REDHOTLINE]

Where are you from young lady?

[Anonymous]

Id wait

[bklynbadboy1]

I'd try