Why aren't househusbands more common?

Question

It sounds like a dream, can spend 30 minutes cleaning and the rest gaming, working out, chopping wood, drinking and the lot

DJB72 · Accepted Answer

I was supposed to be a stay-at-home dad after our son was born but an injury has complicated things as I've been on crutches almost two years and thanks to a covid weakened body I'm now missing my right leg below the knee as well. Once I get out of hospital I will still be aiming to be a stay-at-home dad, I've just missed a year. I'll be responsible for the running of the home as far as I'm now physically able to, and I'm going to be starting my own business working from home the rest of the time.

Most "alpha" guys would be afraid to be admitting they weren't the higher earner in the family. I'm not threatened by my wife's qualifications (medical doctor) vs mine (business management). I studied to bachelor level. She has a doctorate. 8 years of training to my 3. Her industry average income at her level is nearly 8 times mine. I'm going to be doing a very different job once I start my own business, but incorporating the management skills I'm trained and experienced in.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Statistically married couples with househusbands divorce the most. Look it up. It sounds like a dream until it actually happens, and then the women lose attraction.

You also replied to the whiteknight dude about hypergamy, asking if the woman was supporting them both comfortably whether it would be okay. Statistically when a woman earns over 60% of the household income that couple is 38% more likely to divorce than a married couple with a male breadwinner. Look it up.

It's almost as if the way we've been living the last few thousand years has worked and that trying to turn everything on it's head is a really bad idea, as was giving women the vote.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

Being a real house wife is not easy - I spend an hour in front of the stove to cook just 1/2 of my dinner and my dad cooks the other half and I only cook once a day - if I was living myself and could not afford take out or help - I would be cooking for 2-4 hours a day - plus another 1 hour washing plates and wiping tables and floors - and then laundry once a week - making coffee - counting money - buying groceries - when I used to work - I had to wash my clothes once every 2-3 days cause I did not have a lot of uniforms - Also we get a lot of unexpected events - the fence broke down a couple of weeks ago - my bed broke down a few weeks before that - light bulbs sometimes break too - sometimes sinks break - and replacing things too - like shampoo or tissue or towels or soap or baking powder or yeast or salt or sugar etc...

Akachan · Accepted Answer

Imagine coming home after a long day of work and theirs your husband in an apron sleeping on the couch with the kids with smiles on their faces and you can smell the ingredients all over them that they've used in tonights dinner!
So cute💕, honestly it's kinda making me wish i was that interested in men.

Derekk · Answer

I'm not a house husband, but I AM a "house boyfriend". I keep the house clean, cook, baby sit, laundry, etc. To be honest, it's not so much a tradition thing as it is an introvert thing. My current girlfriend is a really extroverted status achiever and I'm a hermit who wants to be an author. We plan to have kids at some point, and we've decided that I'll be the one to handle the minutia of the day to day work at home. And if I get rich from a book, I'll hire a maid and play video games all day.

v851234 · Answer

If it was suggested a woman stay at home and was only doing 30 minutes work there would be outrage. So I csnt imagine why it would be 30 minutes work for a guy either.

As for why it's not more common, I d k, i personally wouldent like it 24/7, but if it fit for my relationship i would do it.

serious · Answer

Traditionally that is not how it is or how it has been for centuries but now slowly but steadily things are changing and eventually a balance will be reached at some point in future.

The reason why it hasn't been common because men are seen as strong, physically and mentally as well. Men are there to do all the hard work, physical work and women are seen as nurturers and a person who takes care of family and children.

AndrewMG · Answer

I've worked my whole life from having a paper round at the age of 12 up until the present day and usually while studying, so I couldn't be a full time house husband, but I think I'd pass the interview if the position was up for grabs. I'm a fairly decent cook, a competent cleaner, not massively into gaming but do a little bit of working out and a good amount of drinking, so I think my CV shows I'm qualified! lol

Not_Average · Answer

Men are mission based. If a mans mission is simply to clear, play video games, drink, and work out- then he's weak in my opinion. My mission in life is much bigger than that. Women statistically see it to be weak as well considering the high divorce rate within marriages who live within that dynamic.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

A friend of mine is a househusband & I told him he’s a luck bastard. He recently lost his job due to the pandemic & his wife makes really good money & she suggested he stay home & take care of the kids. It bothers him that he isn’t working however maybe this is a learning lesson or something like that.

DrunkenMonkey1423 · Answer

With my ex I was a house husband (lmfao 😂) for 2 years. It's nice but can really get boring actually. I had to get a part time job once or twice a week for extra spending money and to not be as bored. She broke up with me months ago and will probably be starting a full time by next week.

Anonymous · Answer

Because while you work diligently and gone for long hours, he'll get bored alone without you and will crave attention of other women. Majority of men are like that. The rare man will be loyal no matter what. But in today's modern world he will bang another chick, while you'll be bringing Thousands of dollar home and his net worth won't be even above $100. He'll probably spend your hard earned money on his mistress.

Anonymous · Answer

It's not that it wouldn't be a great situation to be in. It's just that a man's likelihood of getting a desirable woman to pair up with him if what he's offering is "I'd be a house-husband" is approximately zero. So it's a pretty poor dating strategy for a man.

Tonytoutouni123 · Answer

I recently read a study that said that macho men who don't help with the housework are sexually more attractive to women and have on average 1.5 times more often sex with their partners. Maybe that’s the reason 🙃

havingfun101 · Answer

Briffault's law, that's why. When the woman makes more money, divorce and separation rates go up by 50% and women file 75% of divorces.

Madhatter920 · Answer

Because only men are dumb enough to actually consider having their spouse lazing around at home while they work a good thing. And believe me, I've tried. lol

Zeus_66 · Answer

Because women have children and men don't. But I'll tell you straight up. If my wife made my salary and wanted to be very dedicated to her job. I'd be a stay at home father in a snap.

Avicenna · Answer

Not on a World of hypergamy. The wife will constantly hear from family and friends that she can and should do better in her choice of partner.

White_King2000 · Answer

Hypergamy. Women always want a man who can support them, earns more and is ultimately better.

wankiam · Answer

how about thirty minutes cleaning and the rest of the day wanking? oh hang on i do that anyway just without the cleaning lol

Unit1 · Answer

Love doesn't pay the bills.  and women loathe unemployed men.  we have little to no choice. Money is everything.

Liam_Hayden · Answer

Not worth it. In a few more years I will have more passive income than expenses, without having to spend the rest of my life dealing with the daily preferences of another person.

Tomsta · Answer

Househusbands also generally look after kids as well. If you think that you can live of 1 person's income and afford a house you need to do some research. Mortgages, bills etc.

CuriousCat123 · Answer

I don't know. It might be because women still have a long way till they are considered equal by all, so men feel they shouldn't be left to clean and cook, so they leave that to the women.

Angelo75 · Answer

A lot of times women will get payed less to do the same job as a guy. Very sad, but yeah. I wouldn't mind being a househusband.

Givemore · Answer

Maybe because you can't get a decent housewife these days😜

jasco · Answer

Because of the past and how people view men. However some men simply don't want to be househusbands as for me i really don't care i don't mind staying at home if she's making enough to last both of us

FakeNIK · Answer

In my house most of time I do cooking & cleaning but yeah when my mom is around she doesn't let me... it's like people are hardwired like that...

AFellowWeeb · Answer

bc women are inteligent and dont want their husbands giving them only emotional support, they preffer being the ones doing less

Twalli · Answer

Men typically make more money for the same job in the workplace. Also they are more likely to be promoted to a position that pays more.

Anonymous · Answer

because unlike women, when men stay home to take care of the house we are shamed and attacked for being “useless” or “sponges” because we are not providing for our family.

UrBrotherCain · Answer

its not as fulfilling as hard work, working my head around a problem is better than sex

Anonymous · Answer

I am a househusband in a Female Led Relationship. I still work out of our home, selling real estate. My wife has a much bigger income.

Anonymous · Answer

Because society including the women don't accept and encourage it.

Kaneki05 · Answer

I dunno it does seem sorta beneficial though.

pigoat · Answer

I never met one household husband

Redstang88 · Answer

Most of us would be bored crazy in 2 weeks

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

House husbands are pathetic that get cheated on.

msc545 · Answer

Nobody has any respect for a househusband.

Gedaria · Answer

There are more than you think...

Kelly6 · Answer

It is getting common now

Anonymous · Answer

Relatively few women are willing to support one.

bclbn77006 · Answer

because they have more self esteem.

Dman19 · Answer

I guess because a lot of people make fun of it

Anonymous · Answer

Cause patriarchy

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