Are housewives really less likely to file for divorce than working wives?

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sage2021 · Accepted Answer

It was my childhood dream to be a homemaker, not work at a job away from home, have 4 children, a loving husband we a good man, and a cozy house for us to be a family in. Nothing fancy, but I wanted to make our home that I would hear things from my family "It's good to be home"!!

After my son was born, for the first time since I was 16, I was a homemaker and didn't have to work.
I loved it!! I always had a very nice dinner prepared for my husband.

My son was always clean, well fed, and a happy little guy.

But unfortunately my husband found another woman where he worked at and cheated on me. Then he left us!

When he left us, he stole my car, left us without any money and didn't look back.

So my point is that it's not just the wife who is less likely to get a divorce but what about husbands who cheat on their loving wife and abandon her and the child and doesn't care how they are going to survive. He was making the money but he pulled the rug right out from under her without any warning.

I think that it all depends on how well they get along together. Sometimes after a couple gets married, some men think that the wife has to do everything that HE wants her to do and be. But not in all cases.

Women who live in the Southern part of America are more likely to want to be a homemaker than women from my estate.

But the way the economy changed significantly in the early 80's and we were in a recession during President Reagan's presidency, that's when women HAD to leave their house, find a job and put the children in daycare. That's when it took 2 incomes to survive.

So we must take a look back in history and see what caused the breakdown of the family unit.

Sure, if you made a heck of a lot of money and she wasn't forced out of her house and had to earn a paycheck, that was what made all of the difference.

If the reason why she wants to leave and get a divorce and he makes enough money to pay for everything, the obvious reason would be that they weren't getting along together and divorce is legal in America. 🇺🇸 It really stems on wheather they are getting along and are loving towards each other.

If the husband is making enough money to support the entire family and the husband and wife are happy together then she should be happy and want to stay and be a homemaker.

But I remember when women started having the opportunity to work or be a homemaker I had only 1 of my friends remain a homemaker but she married a guy from a rich family and he made a lot of money. But after their first child was born he was drinking and not treating her very well. She had her boyfriend from high school come and get her and her baby and moved in with him. Eventually they went back together and he stopped drinking and started treating her better and they also started going to church and became good Christians. Although she did have a selfish streak in her, whereas I don't have that.

If she has a family who is willing to take the wife and kids and live with them - then she has an option and could leave him.

So, it really comes down to if he's making enough money and if they both love each other and are happy together.

Simslover92 · Accepted Answer

More than likely yes because housewives are usually financially dependent on their husband's income and not having hardly any or at all finances to fall back on to help out with the children once she leaves is possibly a big fear she might have. Where a working wife has her own money and not dependent on her husband's income as much if at all.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

Men need to be VERY aware of housewives obviously not all are bad and working women also cheat. Make sure you’re marrying the right woman for the right reasons, and same for housewives marrying the right men for the right reasons.

From the female perspective filing for divorce even in a miserable marriage can be scary especially if she’s signed prenup agreements with zero protection for herself she now has no work experience for X number of years, maybe she pursued education maybe not, and is now starting square one. As a single mom now if she has her kids in some cases the man may have kept them…. But that’s a bad situation to be in.

From the male perspective if you marry a woman with false ideas and is narcissistic who’s wanting an easy ride in life. She will very quickly learn that being a full time mom is really work and will very likely become resentful. If she genuinely loves you she will be working equally as hard in a separate role. That’s how it’s supposed to work sorry to burst bubbles of narcissistic people who will attack me.

These marriages COMMONLY fail for one reason or another. Sometimes it’s equal parts the man doesn’t feel appreciated by his wife and the wife doesn’t feel appreciated by her husband. She’s exhausted wanting help around the house and he’s exhausted from work. Keep in mind LOTS of opportunities for affairs.

Affairs in traditional relationships are VERY common and can be difficult to spot. A man who’s gone for long periods of time on businesses, military, and even if he’s not out of town. Those days working late where he isn’t really working late and coworkers. For the woman….. It can be neighbors, men she’s met in public, friends, and yes even repair man’s and delivery boys please remember stereotypes are stereotypes for a reason…..

A woman home all day exhausted and having a man come home….. whose exhausted and probably putting most the effort into sex im sorry. It happens. I’ve seen apartment maintenance, management, and working odd jobs.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Probably. I think that it is because someone is taking care of the house and the other person is going out to earn money. This dynamic leads to a more balanced relationship. Whereas when both people work you either have to hire a maid (which increases the potential for cheating) or you have to divide up the house chores. And since both of you have a full time job neither of you have the energy to take care of the household chores and one or both of you slack off; often driving up resentment.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

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Traditionally, housewives were less likely to file because of financial dependence and social pressure, not necessarily more happiness. These days, working wives are more likely to initiate divorce simply because they have more independence and options. But emotional connection, respect, and communication matter way more than who works where.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Not likely. The system was designed to protect all women, and it does so quite effectively. Whether she works or not, every married woman is incentivized by the system to divorce her husband and take everything from him.
Marriage and childbirth rates are at historic lows. Instead of fixing the system that punishes good men, the powers that be have doubled down on manipulating men to recommit to a game that is completely rigged against them.

AviatorTom · Answer

I don't know what the statistics are, but I can tell you that my ex-wife was a stay-at-home mom; she filed for divorce after 20+ years of marriage and 3 kids. The divorce was amicable.

Miristheiss · Answer

How are they able to file?

Marriage is for life. Why is there no fault divorce training women to just divorce all the time? As soon as they get bored, or the marriage hits a hard patch. Well, I am not in bliss anymore. My lifelong promise is done now.

Did he cheat... with proof? Proof of him beating her up? No. Just, grew apart. She WILLINGLY LEAVES the covenant.

He gets no say. She just unilaterally decades to nuke the marriage.

Ok. Leave then. No one can make you stay. Bye bye.

Oh, but the legal system REWARDS her to leave. She doesn't just destroy the till death covenant. The courts steal from the man... against his will.

She willingly, unilaterally breaks the marriage and then he must give her his home, break his retirement savings and let her take it, he has to KEEP WORKING and then PAY HER ALIMONY for her to leave?

Does he still get sex? Does she still make him meals? No? Marriage is over he gets no more benefits out of her BUUUUUUUT, he must STILL FINANCIALLY pay someone who has left and he has no relationship with?

She can just bail anytime and then he has to pay her half his home, half his savings, half bis investments and pay her alimony? Because they lived together a few years and she decides SHE wants to move... but she gets to steal from him as she leaves. He still has to go to work and toil 40-60 hours a week at a job... to pay someone who left alimony?

Men, you better wisen up.

REDBRA36c · Answer

My assumption would be yes they would probably be less likely, but even more so if they also aren’t running a personal business from home.

The general perception I have seen across the board is that when wives have a job outside of the home or ran from inside the home, they view the money they have earned as being her money, not their money, expecting the husband to provide for everything and give her space to the point when the schedules of these working wives and entrepreneur working wives don’t give much quality time with their husbands, they start looking at the freedom of others and desire other pastures.

Stay at home wives get to put their energies to beautifying their home and take real ownership of the overall spiritual environment of their home and it being in shipshape for her to respect her loving husband when he comes home exhausted from the world.

The roles of the husband and wife are mutually complementary compatible where the husband should love his wife and the wife should respect her husband. Each mutually complementary of their spouses strengths and weaknesses.

Either way, in a civilized non-abusive marriage, valuing your spouse’s 90% satisfying aspects more than dwelling on the 10% unsatisfactory aspects is more in line with mutual unconditional love and respect as husband and wife.

It’s a mutual team-player partnership effort, both serving mutually the needs of the other 100%. 100% X 100% = a 100% marriage. Anything less than 100% on either side will be a <100% Marriage.

Screenwriter · Answer

I would think the biggest issue about someone who doesn't work outside the home would be how would they support themselves, especially if it's a contentious divorce. Also, if children are involved a homemaker might be less likely to divorce, initially.

But in a bad relationship, I believe most people can only take so much. When it becomes an issue of emotional and or physical suicide, I think most women opt to cut themselves loose and choose a better situation for themselves and their children.

_Maya_ · Answer

I'm sure that there are numbers and statistics on this. I'm not sure what they say but I would expect that statement to be true. Without an income it is harder to break dependency of a spouse that supports you. Then you take into account any children and that would be an even bigger concern weighing on someone's mind. Parents are always protective of their children and the uncertainty of what would happen to them would definitely be something that a housewife with no income to fall back upon would be concerned about. You'll also have to assume that she doesn't have much or any personal savings to get by until she finds work. In the US it is less and less likely for there to be a one income family these days due to the expenses of buying even a simple home. Even cars now average $50,000 new. That's the average price if you can believe it.

Zack-Bann · Answer

Imagine being completely out of touch with having a job and self sustaining yourself

You won’t want to take the major risk of failing at that by ending the marriage that brings you security

So yes housewives are less likely to end a marriage

Unycorn · Answer

Yes maybe because of the missing income and missing work to earn money.

Sure some enjoy being housewife. I only work because I need to pay my bills. But I would not marry because of money of my husband. Not my way of life.

WhitneySnow · Answer

I’m not sure, but I would suspect so because they are financially dependent their husbands and may not be willing to risk their livelihood on the good will of a divorce court. What do you think?

MisterWack · Answer

A violent father/husband figure presence in the house might cause the housewife to not only think about divorce, but see it through in a way to not only protect herself, the kids too.

molonski2 · Answer

For sure.. Because they have no freedom , no financial means and very little in terms of network contacts , they just don't have the same options.

KimmySchmit · Answer

Depends on what you mean by housewives. The upper middle class 1950s style housewife for sure.

Tarifa · Answer

Being financially dependant surely makes things not as easy. Unless you have a family net to fall back into.

jshm2 · Answer

Well obviously, as they don't have an income or job to fall back on. Alimony isn't always "half" or that great either.

ammar12343 · Answer

Likely yes because they are financially dependent to their spouse.

CherryLove007 · Answer

Neither. Conflict in marriage is what causes divorce.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

By feeling: no - they've got less to lose, and much to gain 😁

Amur8711 · Answer

I would say its far less likely. Her work load is less and as long as he expresses his gratitude for her keeping house. I don't see why she would want to leave.

SolitarySolace · Answer

I would assume so because housewives tend to be happier compared to working ones. 🤷🏻‍♂️

Xoirwinkan · Answer

I heard of a nice settlement before, where whoever walks away from the marriage first gets NOTHING.

LC75LC71 · Answer

These were never issues when marriage was an actual commitment.

msc545 · Answer

Probably so since housewives depend more on their husbands for money

Jeff51 · Answer

I suppose. They are not making money staying at home

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Never heard that, but probably. They usually tend to be more feminine, and thus less likely to feel like their man is not good enough.

purplepoppy · Answer

Yes because they're financially trapped. Try getting a job without a work history. It's why controlling men want their wives to stay home.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, they are. That's what the statistics show.

Ariesman81 · Answer

Housewives are more likely.

Kelly6 · Answer

@tonymetal___86 Sounds true

888theGreat · Answer

Working women cheat more than housewives

Smegskull · Answer

Correlation doesn't mean causation... but maybe.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Yes.

jackwise · Answer

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