Are working women more likely to divorce?

[Anonymous]

[Adaeva]

Working women are more than three times more likely to be divorced than their stay-at-home counterparts. https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/this-britain/working-women-more-likely-to-seek-divorce-5346460.html

I suspect a primary reason is because working women have more options. If a women is working she is not dependent on her husband for the necessities because she knows she can support herself. The thought of losing her husband support must be scary to a stay-at-home wife because she is not certain she can get a job that pays enough or to even get a job.

Add to that, she is still the one that does a majority of house hold chores and that leads to resentment. Furthermore, working women will be meeting with engaging with more attractive men in the workplace so there will be opportunities to have an office affair.

[Sasha0426]

So should I quit my job and have no money until a man comes along?

[Adaeva]

@Sasha0426 You don't want to be destitute. Therefore, you should keep your job until after a man comes along and marries you. Then, if you wish, you can quit your job, if he can support the two of you in a style satisfactory to you,

[Sasha0426]

But, I want to be a veterinarian someday.

[Adaeva]

@Sasha0426 You need money to become a veterinarian. Therefore, don't quit your job until you have enough saved to pay the expenses required to become a veterinarian. In the meantime, you might take some of the courses you will need in night school, and/or you might get some training through internships.

[Sasha0426]

I’m aware. I already thought about that.

[artgorgeous]

What is more important in life? Have reliable and stable family, or keep chasing for some better options? Especially when families have kids, and then an independent woman decides - you know what, I can have better options, so I'll gonna ruin my family and look for a handsome man... What kind of mindset is that?

[Adaeva]

@artgorgeous Women never have the mindset to ruin their children's lives. They just want what they want and will rationalize that divorcing their husband and marrying this other man is best for their children.

[artgorgeous]

Do you see how selfish is that?

[Adaeva]

@artgorgeous What I think is not relevant. Only what she believes is relevant. If she starts f**king another man, she will rationalize that she is neither selfish nor is she harming her children; and, if it harms her husband, it is his fault because he didn't do this, that, or the other.

[artgorgeous]

If you say that what you think is irrelevant, can your initial comment in this case be simply dismissed?

[Adaeva]

@artgorgeous Not the first sentence because that is supported by the link I provided. Furthermore, we are discussing two very different things. One explains what a working woman may do. Therefore, my opinion is not based on what I believe a working woman should do. It is stating what I believe women actually do. What I think women should do is not relevant. However, what women actually do is relevant.

[artgorgeous]

Ok, then it makes sense.

[monorprise]

@adaeva
If your job is to be a stay at home mom or housewife, how is all household chores your not job?

Seriously this isn't even the 19th century, with modern tools household choose take may be a few hours a day. Is that really too much to ask of a woman who has 8 hours a day in which to do them?

This asking a man who has to work 8+ hours a day to pay for EVERYTHING to also do her work as well is basically treating a man like a slave, and holding herself to such a low standard of laziness and entitlement that she is useless.

To then turn around and divorce him over that is insane. But still as @jennifer_bloom pointed out certain governments are soo unfair in "marriage" and divorce law that they let wife's exploit tier husbands as effective slaves.

I am sorry to say I have met such women because this view of men really isn't as uncommon as we want to think today.

[monorprise]

@adaeva
Sadly thats true, a lot of girls particularly today are nearly constitutionally incapable of taking responsibility for their own actions.

I think it has a lot to do with the way we have been raising girls today, and frankly the toxic anti-male culture that has dominate the last 40+ years of media.
Everything from the Simpsons to family guy and half the entertainment options out there threat men and fathers as stupid and women as perfect.

I didn't beleive this growing up when my dad didn't want me watching theses shows for this reason (I did it anyway) but he really was right. The cultural leaders making and distributing this fairly one sided view were selling something very toxic and we are dealing with the consequences.

[Adaeva]

@monorprise While I may or may not work (Likely I will prior to having children), the responsibility to earn a living for our family will be my husband. I will do the cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, and child care. When my husband comes home from work, I'll cater to him. If he wants a sandwich, I will make him a sandwich. If he wants to a football without me pestering him, I'll allow that. Except for a couple of things that I will not do if he wants sex, I'll do my best to please him. If I want sex, I'll seduce him if I can.

[monorprise]

@adaeva
If you can find a husband that can afford to support you alone. As a direct result of changes in education procedures starting in the 90's , most boys fell thou the floor academically. As such they became an ever smaller minority making it thou collage and able to afford anything.

Only a minority of men actually managed to success regardless and only an even smaller number of them can afford the outrageous cost of living today.
Before we ran out of gold in 1971 your average house only cost a few times your average annual salary, today its more like 7 times that, the same is true of most other costs.

Its not feminism which drove women from the home in the 1970s and 1980s, but basic family finances. They simply couldn't afford to give their time and attention to their family & children anymore.

The politicians responsible spun it as women's liberation but for most women it wasn't voluntary, they knew instinctively this would harm their children and it turned they were right..

[Pegases]

Tis idea that its only women that do housework is outdated.

[Adaeva]

@Pegases That is what desperate men say as if though that would help them attract a woman.

[Pegases]

Lol a lot of western women today will sleep with practically any man because they've been conned into believing that objectifying themselves is empowerment. Men dont need assistance getting most American women, because many give men exactly what they want without realizing it. Lastly, all I did was point out the inconsistency in your logic. There are women that don't even know how to cook and clean today. And men that are being taught how to by women that understandably want their sons to be self sufficient. The days where men relied on women to do thing most modern women clearly don't want to do anymore, are in the past.

[Sharkstealth]

Your just the Google fiend aren't you young lady? Did you happen to notice thus as a British posting? I bet you wake up every morning and walk downstairs to breakfast on the table and sit wherever on your parents high speed internet connection. They probably take you to back to school clothing shopping as you complain that the clothes aren't popular enough.

[mstbooblover]

Sure enough women have the right to have a professional career, exactly as men have. Sure enough though, the time spent that way outside home is time lost for the household, but then, the problem for men is the same when they have a classic job to do to earn a living. The worst situation, I think, is when both partners work on their carreer: no time left for each other, or worse, not even for the possible children...

Basically, it's a matter of choice, but indeed, having a time consuming job is a potential risk for a marriage, as well on behalf of the man as the woman.

I can very well understand women for wishing some indepency instead of having to rely only on their husband, certainly when things go wrong. Meaning a working woman is as well a risk as a safeguard to the household... Perfection is not from this world ;0)

[Kaamraj]

More than half of the marriages end up in divorce, with women filing more than 70% of divorces and finances (money) being the no.1 reason not cheating as some women would tell you. I whole heartedly support women working as it is in agreement with core feminist principles, in that way in case of divorce men would not be paying so much alimony, child support, or have to part with half of their things. Women must also have a stake in the marriage and divorce. currently women treat divorce like a golden parachute where they are incentivized to break the deal by the state.

[jennifer_bloom]

I find a lot of high status women divorce cause they don't believe they need the guy so if things turn unhappy they end the relationship. I believe some of them might also believe they can replace him with another guy or with a happy lifestyle without a guy in their lives. I know a woman who divorced and used her money to go on vacation all day long. Her husband made $60,000 a month and she got 100% of the money in the divorce so she would vacation basically 300 days of the year if not 365 days of the year after he cheated on her and left her for another woman.

[Sharkstealth]

Now that there is one of the main reasons people stay away from relationships now. I would say in my life amongst people I know including my sisters that it's usually the woman cheating and leaving for other men or to turn gay for a woman. Guess what? They still get the money.

[Pinay_ako]

Are high status men more likely to divorce? That’s unfair for a lot of hardworking women and men who only want to support their family and their dreams. The most likely people to divorce are those who don’t feel secure in their marriages.

[Adaeva]

High income men, men in the top 2 percent, and up to #200,000 have the lowest divorce rate.
www.marylandlawhelp.com/.../

[Sharkstealth]

@Adaeva what about Brad Pitt?

[Adaeva]

@Sharkstealth Are you a woman pretending to be a man? I am being facetious, but I watch Pearl's (Just Pearly Things) videos and typically it is women, not the men, on her show who are always arguing and pointing out rare exceptions. However, as she often states, exceptions don't make the rule.

[Pegases]

@Adaeva well said.

[AviatorTom]

I don't know if they are more likely to divorce... but they are probably more likely to survive the divorce better... since they have already proven their independence.

[Avicenna]

That's a good question, and it deserves some data by income quintile to see if that's true!

[Screenwriter]

Nope. Women who are dissatisfied with their partners are more likely to divorce.

However, women who have never worked might be reluctant to divorce because they have no means to support themselves. So they stay married longer because they feel they are trapped, especially if they have young children.

That is the only connection with divorce and employment. If you flipped the script and the husband had never worked and was unhappy, there would likely be the same reluctance to initiate a divorce if he had never supported himself and he had young children to consider supporting too after leaving his wife.

A non-working spouse does not know how much alimony or child support they will get in a divorce, or how long the alimony will last, unless they are some celebrity, so it's a crap shoot.

[Lliam]

🎯🎯🎯 My thinking exactly. Very well said.

[Finchie40]

They are more likely to cheat if she feels she is carrying all the weight in the relationship, I had sex with a couple married women that lied to me about being married but when the truth came out and I asked them why they cheated on their husband with me , they all pretty much said he treats her like shit and expects her to do everything in the house , cleaning , taking care of the kids etc on top of working a full time job to provide , so Guy’s if you want to keep your working girl faithful to you , start helping with the chores in the house and stop depending on her to do everything , it’s ok to clean dishes and do laundry and vacuum and sweep , when you help your partner with things in your home, it releases stress from her , if she is stressed , she is more than likely going to go release her stress on another cock. Your partner needs to be your team partner , you and her VS the world period. Your a team not one sided

[Lliam]

Yes!

[Miristheiss]

I haven't read the study myself but I've heard people quote studies that show the more educated a woman is the more likely she is to get divorced.

The standards for women just keep going up and going up. No longer is it ok to find a guy who has a good, stable job... his earnings level must keep going up and up and up to where many women just want guys with Master's degrees and who make 150,000K.

What? I plumber or an electrician making a stable 75,000K a year? Pfffff, that is beneath her. He must make more than she does.

All the while women don't save themselves for marriage any more, they sleep around a lot more and are more argumentative and masculine and are full of face piercings and tattoos and they are drunks a lot more... so the quality, virtuous, traditional women levels fall off a cliff as the standards for men to "modern" women just keep going up and up.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I think so. When you are financially broke or don't have parents who have money to fall back on and you depend 100% on a husband for everything you are more likely to stay put but also more likely to be controlled and abused in such situations.

When you work, you have your own money and if things turn bad then you don't have to depend on no husband to feed and put clothes on your back etc.

Remember this. The person who has the power to feed you, also possess the power to starve you.

[IceCreamSandwich]

I'd think working people in general are more likely to divorce. A divorce is less life-changing for people who are already able to support themselves, so if you have a job a divorce just changes your relationships. It doesn't change your career, or as much of your income. Not that that makes anyone want a divorce more, but for the people who do want a divorce, having a job makes that decision a little less of a scary one to commit to.

[Anonymous]

I don't know if statistically it increases the odds. But being without a career and raising kids CAN make a woman feel like she's trapped and unable to leave an unhappy matting if she wanted to. So I can see how a career woman might be more likely to divorce. Also career women have co-workers who share 8 hrs with her every day. This increases the likelihood that another guy that she works with tries to poach that p*ssy. It's probably harder to stray if she's a housewife always at home never meeting anybody.

[devilish-cutie]

yes, but if a woman is working it doesn't mean she is more likely to divorce cause she is working but because if she is unhappy in her marriage she can divorce cause she has her own income while the one that doesn't cannot divorce cause she cannot depend on herself

[curlyfirecracker]

Yes, I think so. It's not about the money or independence. I think it is about the alone time or more time with others around them sharing job/interest being the people they spend most of their time with. It is hard to not be sexually aroused by a mystery man, caring about what you do, smiling at you, good with his words, intimately shares details of life, and seems he's got it together.

[Pegases]

Not necessarily. I think working women that are arrogant are more likely to divorce. Often women that are the breadwinners, become the same assholes that most women have complained about men being for so long. The irony right. So Id so yes in most cases, but definitely not in all cases.

[jimmy2]

For 40 year dad been gone in the house
Ok had 2 jobs to make it sometimes 3 jobs
Little Jane mom took care of her and taught her how to be a woman
Little Johnny was left out no dad around
For generations boys grew up with no knowledge of being a man
Therefore today we have judge group of single men
The answer; women who are married if the want the marriage to last they need to teach men how to love.
In other words teach them to be a man like dad should of.
The church today could help in This

[haana]

yup. In my country women get pressured a lots to meet the standards. To be a good mother, a good wife, a worker, must be able to cook. Some men took advantage screwing around with other woman with an excuse their wife are busy. High status woman can simply ask for divorce, they have no problem with financial situation. Some of em’ don’t even beg for their exes to give financial support to their children

[Justneedtokno]

It all depends on that person. When you’re dating in the beginning stages of the relationship, you should establish. Each others priorities, goals, and ambitions. And what you’re willing to deal with that’s why they’re called dealbreaker’s red flags, signs, intuitions, and feelings.

[EyesOfGod]

Whether accepted or not, there is one fact that cannot be disputed. And that is that women initiate divorce more often than men on average. Numerous studies have shown this. In fact, nearly 70 percent of divorces are initiated by women.

Straight from a divorce law firm.
https://www. whitleylawfirmpc. com/3-reasons-why-women-initiate-divorce-more-often-than-men/

[TonyMetal___86]

Usually a working woman is more prone for divorce because of the finances and some other stuff too...

Usually a housewife is more attached to her husband not only because od the finances but because she feels a lot more entitled to hee man than a working feminist!

[Paulalove98]

I mean nowadays married or not it’s expensive and everyone has got to work… I would never give up on my fiancé/future husband due to my job though it’s just part of having money to make it in life.

[MikeTheBartender]

I likely will never get married, however I will note if the woman is working, it is less likely that she gets half your shit when it's a 50/50 state. If she has not worked for example a 20-year marriage, bend over and get ready to take it!

[Fireguy17]

If things are not good at home being independent can make a world of difference in her decision.
She doesn't need him for financial support, so if their home life sucks she doesn't need to be with him/her/it anymore.