What would you do if your partner stormed away during an argument?

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Her logic - if I go away while she's yelling I'm a coward, but when I calmly tell her I intend to work on Christmas and stop bothering me about it, she has to make a scene, yell and then go take her car, at nearly 1AM.
Who cares, I'm not worried. She's always out at night doing God knows what, so let her go.
I'll make sure she'll find I have prepared the couch for myself and that Hell will freeze before I'll get back to our bedroom or even let her touch me.
What about you?

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

I’d say don’t let the door hit ya in the ass on your way out , Partners that storm out of the house during an argument is just selfish petty behavior, Walk into another room if you don’t want to argue but leaving is just going to add more fire to the argument because now the partner that didn’t leave is worried about them and doesn’t have a clue what the other is up to , especially when the argument is over something so petty , People that usually walk out the home over a petty argument are up to no good , they are probably going to their secret lovers house or to a bar to mingle with the opposite sex , when I worked as a bouncer at a a bar that would get pretty crowded. I witnessed so many girls and guys that came there after an argument with their partners and doing stupid shit , I can’t tell you how many times a partner would come in looking for their partner to find that partner making out with someone else and fights would break out so My job was to break it up and get them to leave the bar I would just SMH on how pathetic people can be and I would feel bad for the non cheating partner , sometimes I would let the non cheating partner get a few hits in before breaking it up lol

TheorionMage · Accepted Answer

You are NOT required to attend every argument you're cornered into.
Let her fuss and fume ALONE... Its hard to punch smoke!

The essential element IS... is she angry over an ACTUAL issue
(which CAN later be calmly discussed) OR... is she manipulating the circumstance
as a backhanded way of renegotiating who's preferences STEER your relationship?

This COULD be a technique that once used to be termed 'pussy whipping'---
EG: the 'price' of MY presence & companionship is YOU WILL do everything
to MY satisfaction (like a spoiled child's demands.)

If so... "Bye bye!"

DevilishDarling · Accepted Answer

Uh what? Sounds like you two have different priorities, time to go your separate ways.

Though from what I know about storming off, they either want you to chase them (because they feel like a low priority to the other person)

Or they are trying to soothe anger and don't want to argue anymore about something that feels like no solution.

sejla · Accepted Answer

Let him go. Life it too short for to be with someone who isn't communicative.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I am concerned about the extent to which sex has become a weapon in your relationship.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Sometimes storming away is the right thing to do. It doesn't help anyone to say a bunch of stuff you don't mean because you're stressed out. That said, it's usually the woman who gets to dictate when that happens. That said, that said, if you're really being pushed that far you gotta stand up for yourself bro. You tell her "were not having this conversation right now, well do it when we can actually have it."

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I will first enjoy the sudden silence.
When I finished enjoying, I might feel worried if she's safe during her tantrum; she'll return anyway later on.
If she does not return (soon), I'll go to bed.
(that's theory only - the Missus and me have an extremely non-confrontational relationship)
About your warehouse: it would be a plus to have internet access over there?

OmNomaly · Answer

"Her logic - if I go away while she's yelling I'm a coward, but when I calmly tell her I intend to work on Christmas and stop bothering me about it, she has to make a scene, yell and then go take her car, at nearly 1AM.
Who cares, I'm not worried. She's always out at night doing God knows what, so let her go.
I'll make sure she'll find I have prepared the couch for myself and that Hell will freeze before I'll get back to our bedroom or even let her touch me.
What about you? "

Lead by emotions. Or rather emotionally unstable.
Not someone I would want to be with or stay with. Period. If you can't speak to me with respect then you can get the fuck out.

WesBrewer · Answer

I would think for a sec and evaluate the situation rethink it and make sure I wasn't wrong then I'd walk into the room she is in and try to resolve the argument peacefully, but since she drove away I'd be like "welp, I guess that's that", and probably watch a movie and wait for her, they say it is never good to go to sleep on anger, so I would try to resolve our disagreement before going to bed.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Give her, her space and let her cool down. I'm not going to needlessly prolong a argument that's only gonna spiral out of control.

Plus I couldn't even be mad at her for storming off because I have, do and will do the same thing. But for different reasons then they would be storming off for.

bolverk · Answer

I concur with your response to your girlfriend throwing a strop, but if it your flat (you paying the rent) and she's stormed out of it, put the bedding on the couch and you sleep in the bed, don't let her think she controls your flat or things will only get worse, if its her flat, just quietly gather your gear and go to your own flat, the argument was not about anything substantive it was over control and if she has the power to force you to change your mind over something you have decided to do.

Personally I'd go radio silent for a couple of days and ignore the phone or texts unless from work because I'm sure she'll start texting you the morning after the argument and until she sits down and talks out what the argument was about from her side you don't want to know.

locutus9999 · Answer

I storm away somethines... but without hiting anything. not even the door. i swiftly pick my jacket and to walk... and then walk till i calm down and she calm down... not long after i am walking she get worried and call me back to ask were i am... by that point i am already calm down... if the discussion wasn't on something really important... but an ant with elephant complex... by the time she is calling me. i am getting an choclate for us and a flower for her if i found.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

I'm not even going to bother answering the question, instead I'm going to ask you why a 23 years old would you possibly put up with this? You are too young to be involved in any type of this bullshit, I'm almost able to hear your age and I would walk out if there was this much drama. She's not the babe for you. Your time is valuable, the relationship is not.

slatyb · Answer

Sounds like fun. Why are you with her? I wouldn’t be in a relationship with someone who “stormed” unless they were able to own it and apologize for the drama.

JakeS00 · Answer

I would think my partner isn’t as mature as I thought they were if they aren’t able to take up a grown up conversation without storming out. Just my outlook.

Citizenkirk · Answer

Give her some space, and time for us both to calm down, before trying to talk to her again.

pleasestopthis · Answer

He can sulk all he wants, not my business! At least it was like this while I was with someone. I never had much patience for these things

JSmuve · Answer

I wouldn't entertain a relationship with someone like that. I can't stand screaming women who make a scene. She'd be out the door.

lata1373 · Answer

Make yourself the hurt one and walk around the next day like you are suffering. Try to make her not notice you eat or be “happy” act depressed and feel hurt as if she split you in half. Don’t cry in front of her. Like things like that might actually pierce her enough to feel guilty or bad and she might Apologize and mean it. Deep down though you know

robusn · Answer

So I'm an adult. I would be upset for a few min. While my brain told me that they needed some space. It would also tell me that it needed some diet Dr. Pepper, hummus, and pretzel chips. Cuz grrr

Sparda20xx · Answer

Sometimes you need to walk away. It prevents you from saying something hurtful.

iseekpinetrees · Answer

Let them cool down n come back or let m go for the time being.

OddBeMe · Answer

I grab her arm and demand she never see Eduardo again. She slaps me. I stumble back. I brace myself with the nearby table. My hand brushes against the revolver. I think, “Do I dare?” But before my mind catches up, my nostrils smell gunpowder. I weep.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

So she made a scene like that just because you said that you intend to work on Christmas?

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