How would you react if you were in an argument and your spouse called you a bitch out of anger?

[Subarugirl]

[Screenwriter]

Name calling is NEVER good unless it's done for fun. Calling your wife a female dog is out of bounds. The intimation is that you sleep around. Bitches go into heat and any dog that comes around can fuck them.

And dogs aren't bright compared to people, are they? I'd weigh the length of your relationship with this person and the reason for the argument. Has he done anything like this before? Does he fly off the handle more often than not?

You need to have a discussion with him. And using this kind of language with your wife is the TIP of the iceberg. It's emotional abuse. So what he apologizes. It's been done. When's the other shoe going to drop? I'd be worried.

[AmandaYVR]

That's not nice.
People do say things in anger.
Did she call him something similar?
How often does he use words like this?
It would be upsetting. But it wouldn't be at all one of the worst things he could say. I'd let it go, personally.

[AviatorTom]

This is really something girls should comment on. From a guys view, everyone gets angry sometimes, and says things they probably wouldn't say if they thought about it. If "bitch" is a one-time or occasional thing, I'd ignore it.

The other day, I was at a party and a guy in his 30s called his mother a bitch. She quickly replied with the middle finger and a verbal FU, then they continued the conversation.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Bitch is common word now that is used for anything it has lost its real value and it has become just another word or like some slang it's more commonly used now in any regular sentence.

Well if he called you cunt whore or something amongst those things you would had required to had a talk on how he should behave.

But did you call him something as well or assulted him like tried to slap?

[Subarugirl]

No I didn’t say anything, just got out of the car and took a nice walk to the convenient store.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Why was he angry on you if I may know

[Subarugirl]

I was in a bad mood and we were bickering about it.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Who started it?

[Subarugirl]

started what? we weren't fighting. Neither of us started anything, I was in a bad mood, so then he was in a bad mood, jabs were made and that was it.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

What caused the bad mood

[Subarugirl]

Long week of work, rushing to get out of the house with a 4 year old in tow. Fatigue, hunger, stress, and frustration.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Why do I get the feeling that you wanted to pick a fight like a small banter just curious

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Anyways it's just comment like when she's in a bad mood she acts like a bitch or something like don't act like a bitch its to say that you might be overreacting. Nothing biggie well husband and wives fight and makeout at night 👻

[Subarugirl]

I didn’t want to fight. He could have just left it alone and given me space but he didn’t want to

[Aakash_Hangargi]

I would dig deeper but I shouldn't anyways just try to look at what he was trying to achieve there was it your well being wanting to know how he could fix things for you? Too end your worries well people who often love you more than anything forget the boundaries yeah you might feel that you should be left alone but they couldn't see you worrying or stressing out and would do anything to help

[SteveSmith1985]

You can't be calling your wife a bitch. Even when your mad.

Unless you're 'pack-your-shit-and-leave' mad. Then it's fine.

[Screenwriter]

I agree. Only time it's appropriate. You're headed out the door. Thank you for that wisdom!

[SteveSmith1985]

@Screenwriter I don't know if I'd call it wisdom, but you're quite welcome 🙂

[Jouth]

That's pretty not okay. Like you can't go back from that. Though I would also ask what was said right before that would cause him to respond with "Bitch".

I remember one of my friends in high school telling me her boyfriend called her a bitch, which I thought was awful. Though I asked her why. And she said that she told him that he deserved to have his grandfather die (who died a few months prior).

If my girlfriend said that to me I wouldn't even call her a bitch, I'd just call her an ex, right then and there.

[Subarugirl]

I was being bitchy lol

[Jouth]

lol are you saying you deserved it?

[Subarugirl]

Yeah pretty much

[goldenlily947]

If he called me a bitch then he is calling me an object if he is calling me a animal or object sorry hun I don't think I should be you so called toy anymore... you need to work on you communication because that is not mature at all (gets in car fucks off for a vacation alone)

[dustybiker]

It would never happen.
People who get angry are people who don’t know how to talk to one another. They don’t listen, they don’t share what they need from another person. Communication is important.

[humpbackjack]

Hell I call her my bitch all the time and she calls me her daddy or big guy I’d have to call something worse than bitch to get a rise out of her honestly though we rarely fight like that cause I don’t like to yell so if it’s gonna get heated I just leave for a minute and when I come back at worse we don’t talk for a minute. I grew up in a house with a lot of yelling and I refuse to let my kids grow up in that kind of environment

[TonyMetal___86]

If i was married, my wife would never call me such thing no matter how much angry she gets because she knows that i'm a tempered man and such humiliation coming from her especially cause she's a woman would make me like a monster, she might end up seriously hurt, i wasn't raised to never lay a hand on a woman, if a woman messes with me than she's going to get it worst than a guy!

The only way for my future wife to stop my anger is treating me in a nice lovely way!

[Subarugirl]

Did you just admit that of your wife pissed you off enough you’d beat her?

[Subarugirl]

Sounds pretty bitchy to me

[TonyMetal___86]

I won't beat my wife unless she attacks me in a violent way!
If your a respectful woman, you'd never think about laying a hand on your man which means that he will never beat you, but if your going to act like a man than your going to be treated like a man, does it sound bitchy now? 😏

[Hanrej]

I would end it. Reasoning that clearly what I want is not the same as my partner. The use of such words means the other has given up on reasoning, admitted defeat but will hold it against me for a looooooooong time if not the rest of our relationship. It would be selfish to keep a partner that clearly wants somthing different that badly.

[Subarugirl]

What if you really were being a bitch and they called you out for it?

[Hanrej]

Same thing.

[Hanrej]

The issue isn't who's right or wrong, The issue is that you disagree to such an extent. Regardless of weather you're a bitch or not one of has to bend to the other. Clearly you wanted somthing bad enough to argue well beyond the point of his anger and he clearly cared about his loss enough to call you a bitch. If that's how arguments are handled you're only going to look at your man as an adversary rather than a partner down the line.

[Hanrej]

One of you*

[Subarugirl]

No I didn't want anything, he didn't loose anything, I was just in a bad mood.

[Hanrej]

Then what was the argument about?

[Subarugirl]

Over the fact that I was in a bad mood after work and was over reacting

[KrisPW]

My skin isn't that thin... I've had some good blow outs with past bfs. I was a bitch at times, they were assholes, it all evens out when passions are flying.

[Angela_S]

My b/f only ever calls me a bitch in one situation, and that's when I know he's dying for sex, and I refuse him because we've argued. It doesn't happen very often at all, but when it does happen he's right, I am being a bitch. Do I care? Not really.

[Mortdikeuu]

I threatened to call thd police if he texted me again. That was after him ignoring me for about a week. He never spoke to me again.
Your situ is not as bad as what I did

[yofuknutz]

You sound like an asshole from Brooklyn

[AnthonyJ01]

That happens, I have been called much worse. I refer to the guy my ex cheated on me with as her Bitch. He is a county deputy and I don't care. Nothing he can do about it. It is just a word. Why let it bother you? A good response is thank you. Or maybe---I know you are, but what am I. Turn it back on them.

[t-8900]

I don't know I think the context and words leading up to it would decide how/if that word was going to have any significance for me. But I'm a guy and i know a lot of women take that word far more seriously.

[Shizunk]

It is odd how many people here seem to have super thin skin. One angry word and it's over? Good luck with that.
Sticks and stones...

[Adam1978]

That's normal in a very heated argument. That means you crossed a line you shouldn't have if you can't handle those words. Don't push if you can't handled to be pushed back and called out for it.

[Celtero]

Is there any proper answer when there is zero context and no way to get the full context?

No.

Maybe it was justified. Maybe the husband is evil. Who the hell knows?

[Anonymous]

Your in an unhappy marriage lol. It's pretty obvious you're going to divorce so you can get that sweet alimony + more male attention.

Yes you were being a bitch. Now your going to use the dumb ass calling you that as an excuse to get your divorce.

[Subarugirl]

LOL well that escalated quickly haha actually I am not unhappy, and its just a question jeez

[Opinion Owner]

Women bait and switch... they act a certain way to get their partner to say something ALL ALONG they just wanted to be able to say they were abused

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah thats what you did

[Subarugirl]

Who said anything about abuse? Stop victimizing yourself, I deserved to be told I was acting bitchy because I was hahaha. Stop projecting and trying to turn this into something its not

[shepardmaddison]

Calm down, go for a walk, wait until he says sorry and does something to compensate. Plus be sure that it's been said really only in a discussion context and that he doesn't believe that.

[ChrisMaster69]

I’m shit with that and would laugh.

i am bad at just laughing at stuff like that.

[slatyb]

I would never say such a thing, never have, nor would I stay in a relationship with a partner who insults me.

[lilyanony1]

I'd be incredibly angry... I mean how unkind could you be?
Insult my behaviour, guide be to be better but directly insult me. Ugh!

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Huh are you agreeing lol?