How can I stop friendzoning guys?

[Anonymous]

I always end up putting guys I really like in the friendzone because I want to get to know them more before I get into a relationship with them. I just had the guy I really like tell me in full detail how he asked another girl out.

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

Well it's relatively simple. See if you're the one putting them in the so-called friend zone in the first place, then it's your own fault. Fortunately it's easy enough to fix. You just make a move on the guy you like all on your own. You ask him out. You break down whatever metaphorical wall putting you between friend and boyfriend.

If you're the one being put into the friend zone, then the solution is very similar. You tell the guy you like him, maybe ask him out, and let him either say yes, or give him time to think about it. If he shoots you down, then you need only walk away from it, and try to stay friends. If so, you stand a chance of him changing his mind someday, or realizing what a catch you are.

Other than that, the only thing I can suggest, is to try not to wait so wait so damned long next time, and maybe you won't get into this kind of situation in the first place. I'm not saying jump into bed right away. Just don't take as long as you've been taking. Maybe that will help your chances in future. In the mean time, I hope this all works out for you in the future.

Good luck.

[Lovelesspassion]

You ask them out.. Maybe to hang.. Maybe a party.. Maybe just out with friends.. But you do it..

Keep them active enough you can get to know them but they can't just walk away.

Keep doing stuff with them..

But the biggest key is.. You need to keep asking. Don't get your friends to ask just you..

[TC123]

We want affection, flirting, we want you to show that you want us. If you don't do those things then we figure you aren't interested in us and we move on. It's that simple.

[bigheadteam]

Maybe your guy friends see you not ready to be in a committed relationship yet, or you are too happy enjoying single life?