How can I stopped getting friendzoned as a girl?

[Anonymous]

I have had guys interested in me but when 3 or 4 months have passed they usually lose interest or friendzone me. I do not know what I am doing wrong.

I regularly work out, I am working more on my style of clothing and wearing make up daily. I am trying to be more feminine, a lot of my guy friends say I can come across as a tom boy (most of my friends are guys. I have 1 or 2 girls as friends).

When a guy is interested things seem to go well and we get to know each other, talk regularly or almost everyday. Then they suddenly stop pursuing me or even talking to me, or push it off like he only wanted friends even though it was obvious (e. g. flirting).

I really dont know what I am doing wrong. What are some things guys would be looking for in a relationship? I am a very loyal person, pretty direct and good with open communication. I have a good career ahead of me, well travelled and can be one of the guys if needed. Im introverted as well but I can make conversation. I can be a little bit of a pushover and people pleaser at times but I have my limitations.

[RoseySarah]

Having the same issue but I learned it is more them!

Your doing amazing and being a great friend often flirting trying for more but often guys don't want a romantic girl from the friendzoned...

They want her out front date only romantic only!

Kinda like we often do...

My advice from one who got her man... just ask him out if you like him. Can't wait for him to make a move!

Make it known it is a date! Don't waste time being friends!

As hard as that might be!

[Asker]

Thank you! I do pull away when the guy friend zones me and they often get a bit upset about it because they see me as a good person to be friends with. I already have plenty of friends to rely on so why would I need more of them. It definitely crushes my motivation to date, I do not feel like I am a bad person, I might be a bit bland but I enjoy life. Maybe one day I will find the right guy.

[RoseySarah]

You do also need the right guy and when it is! You both know there is that romance!

No guys do that a lot like hey I wanted a friend how dare you... they act like girls are the only ones with friendzoned!

Nope guys do it too... that just does not make good tv

[Avcfhcic]

I would agree with the other opinion that it's them is the problem and not you.

I would say though you shouldn't go out of your way to change who you are for someone. Be yourself! You clearly get guys attracted to you then so it is trial and error until you find one who doesn't get bored or whatever after 4 months. You sound attractive with your traits and working out, so just keep at it!

[Asker]

Thank you! I appreciate hearing that. I wouldn't dare try to change myself for someone else, it would be a waste of time. I just get confused why most guys I meet go cold after 4 months, I do not know if my speed is too slow for them because I genuinely enjoy getting to know someone from the inside out, and would rather spend more time on that than finding out what they are really like 1 year into a relationship.

[Avcfhcic]

Maybe they get bored, maybe they lose feelings but the right guy will go at your speed and not leave after a little while

[In_Trance]

I think it's the time. You're letting the talking stage go too long

[Anonymous]

Stop punching above your weight.