It's really wrecking my self-esteem that I'm one of the few girls that actually gets friendzoned, when it's usually men that get friendzoned. I keep thinking I'm making 'progress' when I hang out with the guys I'm attracted to, because we share intimate conversations and experiences. But of course, guys don't work that way. I don't know how to maintain my sanity. Please help!
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Understanding men can be quite a hastle. Allow me to dig into the probable psychology behind this issue from a male perspective.
In today's dating society, men are often hesitant to make the first move, primarily due to the fear of rejection. Deciphering subtle hints of attraction from women can also be challenging for many. Sometimes, men might perceive the woman as being out of their league. Alternatively, a man could be keeping his options open, not being sure, and waiting for the woman to make the first move. I wouldn't recommend pursuing relationships with these types. Another possibility is that a man may genuinely like you as a person but is not interested romantically, choosing to keep you as a friend due to your personality. The complexity arises because even if a man finds you attractive and enjoys your company, he may still refrain from making a move. This seeming paradox is influenced by factors like fear, discomfort, lack of confidence, a reluctance to appear vulnerable, and many more things.
Even after enjoyable and intimate experiences together, the relationship often remains within the friend zone. To address this, my suggestion is to identify what might be lacking. For instance, if he doesn't show signs of attraction, he's likely not interested romantically. If he doesn't exhibit interest in your presence, it could indicate a dislike for your personality. Signs of fear may suggest hesitance to confess, and you can look for cues in this direction.
Identifying these hints, however, requires many books on human behavior, deep research, and understanding... To decipher such cues and understand the root of relationship problems, you'd need to get good at reading people through body language, speech, words, actions, etc.
In reality, it seems you're caught in an unfortunate situation where you may lack certain qualities to address the factors leading to friendzoning. Identifying the root cause proves extremely hard for most, making it challenging to find a solution. The dynamics are intricate, and successful relationships pretty much involve a perfect match, with both individuals possessing unique qualities that complement each other and facilitate open communication.
Side note: We have to deal with this throughout our lives, and believe it or not, women are even more complicated than guys when it comes to this, even if it doesn't seem that way to you.
Ok I've been following you a while because I think you have good questions, and i try to hop in on them rather regularly when I can. First off, everybody gets friendzoned at some point (or they haven't met the person who would) so inherently nothing wrong with that. Secondly, I've slept with a lot of my friends, so nothing wrong with that, thirdly, is that actually you in the picture? I've always thought you were pretty and I don't like blondes, so that says a lot. I say that not to hit on you, but if you're NOT getting friendzoned because you're busted then there's two possibilities that I can see...
1) a bunch of people are FZing you for the same reason... figure out what it is, isolate it, mitigate it
2) different people FZ you for totally different reasons... then it's more a selection issue on your part... you pick guys that aren't going to be into you for their own personal reason and you're not good at discerning that ahead of time. One of my ex girlfriends had a sister that would only date black men. I mean black black. Like if they didn't look straight off the plane from Kenya she wasn't trying to hear it. I'm not going to get her attention (or I'd have to work triple time to overcome the complexion issue) so just scratch that off the list. Now that was an extreme case, but if you are hanging out with a guy that insists on having a dog and you are a cat only person... well... here's your ticket to FZ Land
Do you have a hunch on 1 or 2? Or is there a three I haven't considered?
Well, it seems that the men who are FZ ing you simply aren't attracted to you as a romantic interest, doesn't it? Ever thought of looking for different types?
What do the FZ men have in common? Make a list. Then discover if you can seek men who don't have those qualities that you're attracted to. Process of elimination. Good luck.
Just find someone that is at a better level than him and date that new person, while staying on friend zone. You might just be lucky you get someone better, or he’ll probably catch up.
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Does flirtation never happen?
Are they telling you, “Let’s just be friends.” Or are they just not making a move?
Are you doing things to show that you’re interested in being more than friends?
Some guys are really careful about boundaries and do not make any moves unless they can sense that you’ve inviting them to do so, non-verbally or through clues.
u At what point in the process are you getting friendzoned?
Friendzoning happens a lot to women. Men just pretend like they don't do it. I have done it to women in the past.
You really have to put your foot down with men who do that to you.
When I did it, it was because;
1. I didn't want to be alone when going out. It was great to call up women whom I knew would always be available to go to a football game, basketball, concert, show, etc. It always felt good to have a pretty woman on my arm.
2. Friendzoned women are always doing stuff for men. Like washing my clothes, cleaning my house, or car, etc.
3. And they would never forget a birthday or holiday. They would always have gifts for me.
I have since see how hurtful friendzoning can be and I don't do it anymore. I wish everyone would stop it. It you don't have any interest in the person have the courage to be alone and let them find someone who cares for them.
Are you sure these men are even into you? Are you even on their level? A lot of people, especially women think they’re on a higher level because their friends or family keeps telling them how cute they are. Are you sleeping w some of them? I’m thinking you’re not as cute as wha they’re looking for.
The reason girls don't get friendzoned is because they like rarely ask and they settle for shitty men constantly.
If you liked them, might be best to distance yourself though, staying friends with them can be hard.
There's no such thing a "friendzoned" you're foolishly choosing men who are minimally interested, and or chasing them away.
Based on your questions I can see the latter reason. Based on the fact that you're a woman I can see the former reason.
Good luck.
Friend zones don't exist and if you still think you are in one, you probably put yourself there.
I call bullshit, you are the one friend-zoning them. Men don't friend-zone women we fuck-zone them.
m focus on urself n dont make those guys the center of ur life
Give us some details to help us understand. For example what happens when you ask them to be your boyfriend?
Masturbate and focus on your future instead of relying on these knuckleheads
I'm a father of four daughters and I've always taught them that a man shouldn't make you. You're stronger than that move on
Breathe…. Again, slowly…. If you are just hanging out then you are becoming friends with them.
Let me guess; You've been just friendly and now you're surprised that you have made friends?
IF GIRLS PULL THAT SHIT ON ME I TELL THEM TO KICK ROCKS... EVERY SINGLE TIME
I don’t think you were sane to begin with.. lol
Welcome to the world men deal with every single day..
u Start asking them out on a date
What is wrong with you Canadian?
are you hold hostage too?
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