Not really... men just don't look at women as providers. In my experience, even when a woman has a good income, she's usually not spending the money on dates and that sort of thing. Women making more money is only appealing in the sense that she'll generally present herself better and sometimes it means that life might be slightly easier if we live together. I care more about the fact that she is doing what she wants to do in life than about how much money she makes.
Yes, because I want to support her career and help her succeed. Want to celebrate with her when she gets a good review and raise. Want to listen to her challenges and learn enough about her job to understand venting.
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No.
For the most part it is irrelevant.
To be honest her job really only affects me if I do not like the job or it affects the relationship.
I'd never make a stripper, escort, nude model, actress... etc. a girlfriend or wife.
So if the job isn't one that is a deal breaker than I kind of don't care.
Also, more money is never bad. I mean if she made 70,000 instead of 25,000 that isn't bad... if we married. I mean that is more money for us to get a home, vacation and such.
But, it would have no bearing as to whether I cared for her and wanted a relationship with her.
Her being available for an intimate, long term relationship was more important than the money.
I would have picked a woman who made 40,000 a year over a woman who made 100,000 if the girl who made 40 was emotionally present for our relationship and was home and free at 5 in the afternoon and worked 5 days a week, 40 hours. was off most evenings and maybe only worked one or two nights... getting off at 9.
If the woman making 100,000 was a lawyer for example and just worked around the clock, always was off late, was always having to work overtime, I wouldn't see her for 4-5 days at a time, she was traveling a lot, had to cancel plans because being a lawyer was her life and I was just there for the few times she had an evening off... etc.
I would never even try to date that much less marry that.
That job would be anti long term, bonded relationship so the money would be irrelevant.
So, unless it is a job I morally hate... or a job that made the relationship 2nd... then I wouldn't care what she makes or what she does.
Nope not at all princess alyssa rapunzel and you i guess you know why 😊
I'll never marry a girl who doesn't adores becoming a housewife after marriage which means i'll be her everything and her whole life...
Even before marriage, while we are dating, she won't dare to pay, cause a man feeds his girl and the girl needs to know that her man is able to provide for her and take good care of her 😌
I don't care about her income but i do care about her career, just want to know what kind of a job she's working 😄 and that's it...
She can work until marriage if she wants to...
I want to reach a point where my income is enough that my wife can choose if she wants to go out to work or not. Right now I only care how much she makes because I've spent most of the last year in hospital and lost my leg so my career needs to have some changes made to it and right now I have zero income.
I'm not prepared to let that remain the case.
Most men probably don't care. But I do.
I don't want to know actual numbers. I am more interested in not settling for poverty-like salaries but making the money to sustain survival and living in our modern everything-revolves-around-the-money world.
Financial disasters and housewives are not for me. Career women all the way 😍
I had an insecure ex who couldnt stand that i made more than him. I tried to help him get a car and all and he just wouldn't let me help... I didn't even make that much in my opinion. I was fresh out of college and starting my first real job. He still had 2 years of college to go. Plus i was saving up 75% of my checks towards my future. He was saving only 25% of his and kept blowing it on family cruises
For me, it doesn't, because I want her to be more successful than even me if I do consider this person my love, but I can see how that can hurt some men's ego and manhood since a lot of them still have the idea that men should be the provider when in reality it can be either way or ideally both. The real question is, will she care if she makes more than me because women rarely date down.
Well in 2021 men expect women to bring something to the party especially given the high standards women set on men.
You ever see a 6ft+ handsome guy that makes good money, is well educated with a fmgrwat sense of humour with a kind of short chunky average looking woman? Well she brings more to the party than looks.
Short answer, yes but wish I didn't
It really should not matter at all. Two independent people have two independent lives and they can work together to build a life together. That's how is should be. But because misogyny is pumped into my brain by every person I meet, I do feel inadequate that I can't provide enough for my wife on my own
I do care. That give me somewhat idea of her back ground past. What kind of back ground she is coming from how will she manage money. On the very high level probably. Her life style if she is liability or not. What she will consider extra expense or not. I like to be with someone in same income bracket or one or two down no more than that. And again it can change when we are head over hills every thing else goes to hell. 🙂
No, whether she wants to work or not in the first place is her choice, if that makes her feel content. It is not a choice for men however because that's a part of their main masculine role, to provide for the household and protect it.
u To some degree yes where I live in London I dont make close enough to by myself support a family so she will need to make somthing to help support our family
I demand that my partner make the exact amount of 66,103$ and not a penny less or more or I denounce her and leave in my gilded helicopter.
I do not care at all, so the answer is no, even if she was homeless I wouldn't care. as long as she isn't racking up credit card debt, I don't care because she isn't going to be paying for much anyway (unless she wants to) and I enjoy treating my girlfriend.
If you're both diligent and productive... no big deal. A relationship is a mutual thing... both parties need to contribute as they are able or strive to become able. Cooperation, not competition.
Yes and no, if we were to pool our money together to make a a large purchase that we both wanted then it does matter. Like she can't be working a dead end low paying job and want a nice house with goodies in it.
I wouldn't like/love her any less if she made more or less.
Couldn’t care less. However I would love it if any future wife would work with me on my company. Young people don’t understand that this is a powerful dynamic when men/women work together with the same goal, the man being the driving force and the wife being his biggest supporter. It’s biology men lead and women follow, 95% of the time.
No, it is not like I want her money. And neither have I seen women sharing her money to contribute to family even if she makes 100 times more.
So why expect when it is her money anyways
I don't care much as long as they are happy about themselves. I find people stay happy as long as they have some work to do and if they are able earn some amount which they are proud of, then I will be proud of them too. If they aren't happy with themselves, then I care a lot about how much my partner can make themselves happy
Nope, as long as she's passionate and has some ambition I give zero fucks what her income is like.
Not at all. Beyond looks, it's about personality, compatibility and being good company.
Personally I've always seen it as a beautiful thing that in a guy's mind a waitress is competing on the same level as female CEOs and whatnot. We're not going to care about your education or career or any of that mess.
You spent years studying and now have a doctorate? Good for you, but in itself that doesn't evoke my attraction. But if you're just a cute cashier that's good company? Sign me up.
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