Do men care about how much money a woman makes?

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If a man makes a lot of money (over $100k), would they care if a woman makes way less than that? I make enough money to afford to rent a house and for all of my expenses. But I don't have a lot of disposable income. I feel like most people want someone on their same income level. I usually date people in my same income bracket for that reason. But im not sure if that's something men even care about to begin with? Curious to hear your thoughts on this

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

No. That's a female-only trait because most women like to use men's money for themselves (not to sound "sexist;" it's just the truth.) Men don't expect to ever see or be a part of any of women's money, so it's a non-factor for us.

"I feel like most people want someone on their same income level. I usually date people in my same income bracket for that reason."
No. Again, that's only (most) women, because they want to use the man's money, while also keeping their own. Very few men are gold-diggers like that. Why would anyone need their partner to be rich if they're also rich?

But yeah, for most women, even wealthy women, the thinking is "Your money is OUR money, but my money is my money only." It's pretty f*cked up.

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

Everything depends on the women in question. So I make over 100k. But I was never concerned about how much she made, as long as she had a job and was working or had her own money.

But nothing turns a man off more on a women who see dollar signs and wants to chase money. I don't spend money on women or go out of my way to impress them with money... just not what I am looking for.

Guys with money that spend on women to impress them just want to get laid. And men with money that don't spend on women, just want a good women.

FictionalCharacter · Accepted Answer

I only have enough income for rent and bills. Nothing luxurious. And if I do want something luxurious, it takes me a year of savings of what I want.

Either way, I was on tinder and 3 guys who work. Didn’t want to date me because of my level of income.

kylee2437 · Accepted Answer

I promise you the women I serve at the restaurant I work at (rich oriented restaurant) do not make the same money as their husbands (if they aren’t the bread winner already) if they even make money at all. I noticed a lot of them are stay at home mothers

Avicenna · Answer

Someone in your situation? A guy generally wouldn't care, as long as there isn't some debt bomb like student loans or kids to feed that he'd be expected to help pay for. If that isn't the case, a higher-earning guy probably won't care unless he really feels the need to date a high-status woman to boost his career.

So it's not just income, debt is also part of it. I met a woman a few years ago I really liked but who had a mountain of student loan debt that would never be paid off, so I didn't get into a relationship with her.

Gent207 · Answer

It's not so much about the money but the willingness and drive to achieve your dreams and financial goals. If she is not self-motivated then I'm out.

Life istoo short and time is too valuable to waste on people that refuse to help themselves and are content in their current state.

That being said the opposite is also true that anyone with too much drive i. e. workaholics are no better than those without especially since they typically range on the high competitive with narcissistic tendencies.

Friendlybro79 · Answer

I wouldn't care about who makes more I'd care more about how I'm treated because of it. I make a good salary and one time I met a woman who made roughly double me and she was the most condescending person I've ever met about it. We went on a few dates and her salary came out because she seemed like she wanted to flex a little lol. I told her it wasn't going to work because she "required" a man to be a man and make at least... x lol. I was like check please... Such a turn off. Mind you I do well but she was doing better. Good for her but not my kind of relationship lol.

Why do I bring this up? I would never treat someone poorly because of their salary if they're working hard and doing the best they can.

Anonymous · Answer

No a large majority of us don’t because we’re taught to be the bread winners, to be the head of the household. To be able to provide for our family. I think that’s more of a female thing. Whether it’s cause she’s just a gold digger or she wants to be sure they will be ok if they decide to start a family which may require her staying home for a while if that’s what they choose to do once the baby is born. Men will usually date down, not so much women. The one thing he should be wise about though is making sure she isn’t drowning in debt. But no we usually don’t care how much you make. That isn’t sexy to us. Your bachelors degree or doctorate degree isn’t sexy to us. I’d date a girl at working at Taco Bell if she’s hot.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Some likely do, some don’t.

it’s always funny a lot of guys say they are, however same guy also wants a traditional stay at home wife, bit of a conflict lol.

personally I really do not care if she earns way less, close to or way over.

hahahmm · Answer

Ha. no. Any guy of value/quality does not want or need your money so in that sense he doesn't care. Now what if you were a successful businesswoman and got rich from that? Some guys find that attractive because of the characteristics it took for you to make it, not because of the money itself. But I think those guys are a tiny number too cause eventually a man realizes that there's a huge downside to being with a female who has too much masculine energy. I mean if he's not homosexual.

likelyOK · Answer

I’d say there are less men of a higher bracket who care about how much money a woman makes but there are still men who want women in the same income level. I would say it more of a concern when men make less bc they feel based on their on income they would not have the life they want.

Anonymous · Answer

Are most women ok supporting a man who doesn't work? I have friends, with no kids, mind you, whose wives are “homemakers” and don't work. I don't know any women supporting a man as a stay at home homemaker. Your money means nothing to most men because most women are not willing to share their money with a man. The saying goes “what's yours is ours and what's mine is mine".

Notice that it doesn't work in the opposite direction. Personally, I've never been in a relationship where expenses were shared in which my partner consistently contributed her full half of our total financial cost of living. How much you make doesn't matter to most men because most men accept that if you live together or are married, at some point, he will end up supporting you and because, for the most part, your money will be of no benefit to him.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

No, not at all. Men have never cared that much about women's income. It's not that it isn't attractive for a woman to make a decent amount of money; that can show that she is hard-working and knows how to manage her finances. The problem is that most men don't consider women a source of provision. The thought doesn't cross our minds, to begin with.

Sixgunsound · Answer

Men generally don’t care what a woman makes unless the men in question are gold diggers, because most men aren’t expecting a woman to provide for them. It’s really that simple, you don’t need to dig any deeper or look for hidden layers that aren’t there.

jamesgoldman · Answer

Personally sure but then I'm a numbers guy like I've put years into building my business, not getting bogged down in debt and building a decent credit score but if I get involved with a women with say 5k on credit cards, my score will nosedive

I'm like this with everyone in my circle, I budget for my family, tell people were to invest (one of my friends is £150,000 up on my informed decisions) and am a mental calculator

Chill_Meta · Answer

Nope, because in most cases women won't spend money on you outside of certain circumstances. Women also look for the guy to provide in most cases, so that money would be considered supplementary to our own, if that. It's likes air, you know it's there, but can't touch it.

Keepitreal007 · Answer

That never bothered me but I know that’s a problem because they want what’s there’s and you what’s yours which if your only dating could be but after marriage doesn’t matter. Seems in todays world more and more people are paying for own things instead of say the guy buy dinner. When I dated my wife I paid for everything because I wanted to. Had nothing to do with her money. I wanted to take care of her. Seems like a lost art.

RavVid · Answer

We just don't care about your income. We will care if you want to spend all you earn plus what I earn (as one girl tried to do with me).

What we do care about and value is what you bring & give to us as a woman

dolemite89 · Answer

I do pretty well and the only reason i care how much money a girl makes is just so that i know she’s not a super broke baby mama type looking to have an oops baby. Aside from that, as long as a girl can take care of herself and doesn’t need my help I don’t care if she doesn’t make that much money if we’re just dating.

maximumpower · Answer

Don't really care how much she makes; however, it's very important that she works and contributes to the common good of the family.
Allowed that with ex. She quit a good middle management job at a bank soon after we married and - despite all the talk and promises - "the dead weight load" never worked again. She was the biggest mistake of my life.

TallAnon · Answer

I make over 100k and all I really care about is that she has passion for something and acts on it. If she has passion for being a teacher, that's totally fine even if it generally doesn't earn a lot. Heck, I'm young enough where some people I date are still studying and earn.. negative..

Guy13 · Answer

He should not... that seem like a "not smart" way of being. If married then simply Stupid. Who wants to create an unnecessary point of contention. Just me though.

LazerBean · Answer

It seems like most men do not care, but I suppose it also depends on if you live in a more progressive area or a more traditional area.

exitseven · Answer

I am not picky about that. It would be okay if she made less. It would be okay id she made more as long as she didn;t throw it in my face every payday.

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