There's likely a few things that are restricting her from moving the relationship forward. This could be anything from personal problems she wants to overcome first, to having an issue with the relationship that hasn't been resolved yet, to just wanting to take her time and she how steady the relationship progresses over time before making a lifetime commitment to you.
If she plans to stay and still shows signs of attractiveness and affection to you, she still loves you and that's a healthy sign she has no intention of leaving the relationship. If you're curious about this, you can always ask your girlfriend about it and see what she says. Taking the relationship into marriage status is a life-changing event, so all preparations and sense of confidence will be needed here in order for the transition from boyfriend/girlfriend to husband/wife to become successful! Hope this helps with what you're looking for!
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I agree with you on what you said, but I asked just for an engagement or at least for a first contact with her partents. She isn't ready for that wich is suspicious. And yes I asked about the relationship and I asked about me too, none of that is the reason, she answers. Love as a feeling is very tricky and personnaly it doesn't really tell that much about a relationship. But actions are much more meaningful and trustworthy.
It might help me out a bit to know how long you two have been dating. If it's been under a year, the pacing to ask for engagement may be too quickly here. One to three years, seems like an appropriate time to ask the question, even if one/both of you aren't ready. Three years or longer, something is wrong here and the issue (s) have been prolonged for far too long.
I do agree that actions speak more than words. You'd think that if you're in a happy relationship, that introduction to parents would come up fairly quickly in the relationship. I wonder what's holding her back?
Approximately we know each other for about 1y and 6m. And we are toghther for 8m. I'm not asking here obligatorily to get married but I wanted a least to move a little bit further may be with an official proposal, no contract envolved. She gave some execuses such as trying to get a work first, so logically speaking my proposal or an introduction to here parents want affect a thing, we are already in a relationship, And I wonder what's holding here backfor the next step? As some answered here she might not be as invested as I am in this relationship for some reason.
Considering its about marriage. I'm assuming you guys have publically made it known you're dating and are committed to each other. Which probably means she just needs some time to be ready for a marriage. Getting engaged and marrying are big steps so people often need time to prepare themselves for it.
On the other hand, if she means she's not ready to make your relationship public yet but you do do couple stuff, there's a high chance she's stringing you along.
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Well I'm getting the feeling that she is just stringing me alone and I'm consodering to finish the relationship but not before understanding what's really going on with here and make sure that I'm not mistaken
Absolutely, first talk. Communication is very important, so first discuss with her about the future of your relationship and let her know what you feel and what you seek. Also hear her side and then discuss together if you're compatible.
Our relationship is just known by her female friends so I can't call it that it's really made public. This why I pushed further and asked her for at least an engagement or may be a first contact with her parents. I believe ghat if she is not ready for that I might not be the one or at least I m not the one for the moment. I believe that when you find "the one" setteling with him/her become the next goal to plan for wich is not the case for her now. And yes I talked with here oppenly about how I feel about her position and what I can see is when I speak about that subject she stress a lot and remain silent until I push here to answer. I'm wondering is she feeling guilt? Or pressure that I might go of she doesn't go along? (Since she is sensing that I might change how I feel about her) You know there is some narcissic people who try to keep their partners just to feel some love and to not get bored.
Okay, so the fact you're already thinking of engagement but she hasn't even introduced you to her parents is a bad sign. It kinda shows that maybe she isn't as invested in the relationship as you are. You might be heading for danger bud.
Could be, maybe she feels it's too soon-how long have you guys been dating? She may just want more time as marriage is a big step She may not be as committed to you and the relationship as you are to her
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Yes, the question now is what is it exacly going on (from the options you gave)?
Then why would you want to get engaged to someone that you think will lie to you. If you don't have honesty, trust and good communication, you don't have a sustainable relationship much less a marriage...
In my opinion. She might not yet ready to settle down or maybe she looked from different perspective like financial strength to settle down. Or she might still wanted to enjoy her life without tied down. Give her some time but at the same time show to her that you are ready and serious with her. Don’t push her since that might backfire you. Relax and have some light discussion with her after sometime.
Maybe she is at a point In her life where she isn’t ready to get into the marriage dynamics. Marriage brings a whole lot of responsibilities. She prolly wants to enjoy the relationship that you guys have the way it is. Give her some time. Don’t you force her into it because both of you can end up miserable.
Look lady... I’ve shown interest and put forth an investment in you. If your not prepared to show I’m making a good investment then I guess I’ll move along...
She isn't ready. She doesn't want to move things to quickly and end up regretting her choices. All that matters is that she loves you. So go at her pace.
it means she can do better than you but she's not sure about that yet. i mean are you speaking about marriage or proposing here? or just being "boyfriend/girlfriend"?
I'd say she perceives the commitment as a loss of freedom of a sort, and doesn't want to go there just yet. Not necessarily freedom to see other people, but maybe to pursue interests unhindered.
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