I'm having trouble adapting to living in a new state? Any tips?

[Anonymous]

I recently moved to Washington State and I find it rather cold I out here. My boyfriend gets made when I put on a jacket in 50 or 60 degree weather but he is not taking into consideration that I am used to living in 80-90 degree weather and the state I used to live in rarely got as cold as 50 degrees.

Any tips on how I can adapt to this state? I really want to make it work with my boyfriend.

[Mofunfour20]

Working out regularly will raise your body temperature. If thats too much of a commitment take cayenne pepper capsules

[Asker]

I can try working out, he did suggest that but I'm already an extra small I don't want to loose more weight trying to stay warm.

[Mofunfour20]

Working out isn't just for loosing weight. You can workout to gain muscle mass which will reinforce your body temperature because youd be activating muscle fibers to retain heat and bloodflow. Thats how i outgrew my skinny body. I did have to eat a lot too but the efforts i make daily are priceless because i have more energy and its easier to get things done. The question you have to ask yourself is what am i willing to do for the results i want. Anything of value takes work

[Asker]

Great Advice

[Anonymous]

Your friend is uniqlo heattech!!! Trust me. It’s a life saver. You wear the leggings and the turtleneck under whatever your normal clothes are and it keeps you at the right temperature! Super cheap too.

[Smashingdoozy]

You'll get used to it fairly quickly. But he definitely shouldn't be getting mad at you for trying to keep warm.

[abc3643]

Where are you from? That's important before I answer this question further.

[Asker]

I'm from the valley in California

[Asker]

I you want me to be more specific and tell you want valley in cali let me know

[abc3643]

San Fernando Valley...
I used to live in Hermosa Beach.

Yeah, this will be a bit traumatic for you just like it was when I moved from upstate NY to Los Angeles.
In upstate NY, I was used to major snowstorms and 7 months of grey cold wet winter. But, we had very lush summers because of all that water and it rained often enough although not like WA state. When I moved to Los Angeles in July 1992, it was summer like in NY, but summer never went away! I kept thinking "When am I going to put on a sweater or sweatshirt?" After awhile, I realized that the weather report in LA was irrelevant but the traffic report was vital. As someone who grew up in the NYC metro area, I understood that last part very well.

What really bothered me about living in LA was "coastal dyslexia" which you won't suffer from so I will skip that but the lack of rain. After awhile, I was beginning to lose my mind because there was no rain for months. It wasn't until I live in LA for 4 months that we finally got a wisp of rain. In January, though, it rained every day straight but 2 for 3 weeks. I loved it and never felt bad about a rainy day ever again.

Anyway, that's my story although there's more to it (coastal dyslexia, time zone change). I did move back to upstate NY in April 1994 after having lost my job in LA.

So, your story primarily one of just cold and wetness.
I am not sure what to tell you, but you will need to dress warmer and buy an umbrella AND LISTEN TO THE WEATHER REPORTS!
At least, you are still near mountains and oceans and are in the same time zone.
But, be thankful, they don't have real winter there either.

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[abc3643]

My wife had some trauma in a way like you. She was from where we live now - rural Missouri - and it gets fucking hot here in the summer. We have a short usually not very cold winter. Somewhat colder than LA and often grayer, but similar to LA. When my wife came to upstate NY in November 1999, she complained "Where is the sun? It's always so gray here!" She was right. She got to experience lots of snow, but the lushness of the warm months and the gorgeous summers there made her appreciate it. Summers here in MO are like LA but even hotter because there's no ocean.

Anyway, here is my advice:
Try to concentrate on what's new in your new home. The weather will affect you, but, within a year, it will seem normal. Same with geography although the transition from LA to WA (Seattle area?) is not so bad.
As you make new friends and drive around and see new things, they will become a part of who you are in your daily life and grow because of it.
So, to be trite, just give it time.

That said, for some people, the weather or geographic change is just too much to handle and they go home.

[abc3643]

Watch local TV news when it comes on. The best way to quickly learn about a place is to watch the local broadcast (not stream) TV news stations. Consider buying the Sunday newspaper too. I think it's the Seattle Post-Intelligencer out there. The more you hear or read about the local communities, the more you get to learn where they are, how important they are, and what's available there.

For instance, shortly after my wife moved upstate, she asked me "Vin, where's Manchester Vermont?"
I laughed because I immediately knew why she was asking. She wanted to go to "Nina. The jewelry store of Manchester Vermont" which advertises a lot in the Albany NY area. I took her to Manchester to teach her about it including meeting Nina herself and her husband Ray who did the voice for the commercials. Manchester had a lot to offer besides a jewelry store and I knew that because I listened to local TV and news and drove around learning about my new home (I moved to the Albany area in 1981 for college).

[Asker]

Thank you for you reply. You're right, it's the opposite for me I suffer from it raining too much out here. I was shocked to see rain the other day because it rarely rain in San Fernando Valley. It's always nice and sunny and I kept self consciously waiting for it to warm up but it never did. It was def a mind fuck because the sun it out but it's still super cold.